Thoughtful Thought

“The journey towards greatness lies in the 3. C’s- Calibration, Congruence and Celebration..”- Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“Truly the angels are come among us every day. Our difficulty is so often that in our vanity and worldliness we so utterly fail to recognise them for what they are.” ― Joseph O’Connor

One Minute NLP – Pacing and Leading

Are you fond of watching the Independence Day marching parade? It’s captivating to see everyone moving in perfect sync, almost as if connected by an invisible thread of rhythm. Have you ever pondered what makes it so mesmerizing?

The answer lies in a single word: synchronization.

Humans are inherently inclined towards matching and synchronization. Whether it’s the unity of a parade or the joy of discovering a fellow traveller from your hometown, we are wired to seek out common ground and move in tandem.

Effective communication shares similarities with a parade, where matching and pacing with your fellow conversationist are crucial. The only difference is that the matching and pacing in NLP is more of a mental process.

From ideas and beliefs to behaviours and words, mastering the Pacing & Leading technique in NLP can elevate your conversations to new heights of fluency.

Once you have established rapport through pacing by matching the other person’s non-verbal cues, such as breath rate or body language, you will be surprised to notice them following your subtle shifts.

In case they are not following you yet, it only means that you need to continue the mental parade for a while longer.

The guiding principle here is simple: “Meet them where they are, and then take them to where you want them to be.”

Meta-Magic – Are you thinking smartly or wisely?

“Oh what a wonderful day it had been. Had such a blast with all of you.” Rahul exclaimed joyously, stretching out.

“Shut up dude! Don’t you forget, we have a test tomorrow. What will we write?” Amit interjected, pacing back and forth in the dorm room.

Rahul, Amit, Jeevan and Manav were relishing the golden days of their lives: College days. They had partied hard today, leaving all worries about the upcoming test behind. But now, reality was creeping back, teasing them with its tongue out, as if to say, “Time for the ultimate challenge!!!”

“Oh come on! We might not be hard workers, but we are smart workers. Follow me; I’ve got a trick up my sleeve,” Whispered Manav, taking the baton of smartness in his hand.

The next day, the four of them arrived at the principal’s office enveloped in dirt. They admitted that they were not prepared for the exam as they had spent the whole night dragging their punctured car back to the hostel.

As they waited anxiously, they could hear their own heartbeats echoing in their ears. To their surprise, the principal ordered a re-test in three days. Filled with gratitude, they dove into studying for the retest.

On the day of the retest, each of them was placed in a separate room to take the test, but they didn’t mind because they had been given a chance to prepare well.

The test consisted of just two questions:

1) Your Name ____ (1 Point)

2) Which tire was flat? ____ (99 Points)

• Front Right
• Front Left
• Back Right
• Back Left

My Question: When you are thinking of solutions, are you thinking smart or are you thinking wise?

Hook From The Book

“He was a man of black and white. And she was color. All the color he had.” ― Fredrik Backman, A Man Called Ove

Movie Motivation

“Jab log tumhare khilaaf bolne lage, samajh lo tarakki kar rahe ho.” Translated to “When you have a lot of critics, you should know you are going somewhere worth going.” This line from the movie Guru reminds us that even the most successful people were faced with severe criticism, but it was their resilience which ensured their success.

This Week’s Winning Post

10 Habits to Improve Your Productivity

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Mehernosh Randeria

Thoughtful Thought

“Follow the 3M’s to achieve financial freedom – Make Money, Manage Money and Multiple Money.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“There are no bad ballplayers, there are only people who are not confident in their ability to learn.”- Robert Dilts

One Minute NLP – V.I.B.E.S

When preparing for a bath, the initial step is to ensure the water temperature suits your preference, isn’t it? Then, you adjust the flow, adjusting the knob until it’s just right, initiating the bathing process.

Similarly, effective communication transcends mere verbal exchange. It thrives when one delves beneath the surface, free from assumptions, judgments, or preconceived notions. How can you do that?

Much like regulating water temperature and flow, in communication, you may gauge a person’s V.I.B.E.S.

V – Voice (including speed, pitch, or tone),

I – Inclination (back posture, leaning, gestures, etc.),

B – Breathing (rate, depth, and location),

E – Eyes (movements, redness, pupil dilation, watering, and direction),

S – Skin (colour, muscle tone, or glow).

For instance, imagine a manager who notices that whenever a team member discusses feeling ‘unhappy,’ a crease forms between his eyebrows, his lips tighten, and his shoulders tense slightly. If, during a subsequent team meeting, the manager observes these same behaviours when the team member learns of a new task, those physiological changes might suggest dissatisfaction with the new requirement. Armed with this insight, the manager can respond appropriately.

Meta-Magic – An Inconsistent Equation

Today’s story is shared by NLP Practitioner Ronak Meswani.

“If you have 3 mangoes and I give you 2 more, how many mangoes will you have in total?” The teacher asked little John.

“I would have 6 mangoes in total,” John replied with a proud grin. This agitated the teacher, but she took a deeper breath as she repeated the question differently.

“Ok. If you have 3 apples and I give you 2 more, how many apples will you have in total?” The teacher raised her eyebrows while leaning a bit closer to John.

“5 apples in total, teacher,” John responded confidently, his tone unwavering. The teacher was flabbergasted by the inconsistency in John’s answers.

“How can 3 plus 2 mangoes equal 6, but 3 plus 2 apples equal 5?” The teacher held her breath to control her rising rage.

“Simple. Because I already have one mango in my bag.” John’s eyes sparkled as he shrugged his shoulders innocently.

In our interactions, we often overlook the hidden “mangoes” in our mental baggage — preconceived notions, judgments, and assumptions — that can disrupt the equation of successful communication. It’s high time we uncover these internal representations in order to facilitate meaningful conversations.

Hook From The Book

“It is always the little things that build up. Often there is no dramatic reason for discontent in marriages. It seeps in slowly over the years. You don’t even notice it creeping in. It happens, trickle by trickle. You do not realise when or how the easy familiarity gets replaced by a ‘taken-for-granted’ attitude over the years. By the time you do, it is often late. Habits have been formed, patterns have been set. And a comfort-zone have been established. A zone that is hard to get out of.”

― Preeti Shenoy, The Secret Wish List

Movie Motivation

“Koi tumhe tab tak nahin hara sakta jab tak tum khud se na haar jao” (Translated as “No one can defeat you until you give up on yourself”). This dialogue from the movie Sultan highlights the importance of self-belief and resilience, suggesting that victory is not solely about external competition but also about winning internal battles with one’s own doubts and fears.

This Week’s Winning Post

9 Presentation Secrets from Steve Jobs

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Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

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Thoughtful Thought

“True love is where you don’t fall, but you evolve.”- Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Flexibility comes from having multiple choices. Wisdom comes from having multiple perspectives.”- Robert Dilts

One Minute NLP – Discovery Frame

Can you swim in the pool with your party clothes on? No, right?

Let’s consider Discovery Frame as one such pool where the only swimming costume you can wear is mindfulness and complete presence in the moment. No fancy outfits like judgment, expectation or preconceived notions can swim into this mental frame.

When we embrace the Discovery Frame, we view things as they are, without any societal labels. Whether it’s learning a course or engaging in a conversation, the Discovery Frame encourages us to be fully present without the pressure of expecting a certain outcome.

It is the best way to learn anything because we tap into the zone without inhibitions. All the questions about what to know, why to learn, how to learn, and how much to learn are all filtered at the gateway of this zone by the gatekeeper named Discovery Frame.

The Discovery Frame anchors you in the present moment, providing a sense of calm and clarity. In this frame, all that matters is the here and now.

Meta-Magic – Does Your Environment Match Your Skills

“Mommy, why do we have a hump?” inquired a young camel to its mother as they reclined under the shade of a tree on a tranquil afternoon.

“Because, my dear, it serves as a reservoir, allowing us to store food for extended periods during our journeys across the desert. In the desert, the quest for food is nothing less than a treasure hunt,” replied the mother camel with a tender smile, her eyes gleaming with affection.

“Ah, and why do we have such long legs and sturdy, rounded feet?” queried the curious youngster.

“Those features enable us to traverse the sandy dunes of the desert with ease, my darling,” explained the mother camel, her joy evident as she blinked in response to her offspring’s innocence.

“Hmm, and what about our remarkably long eyelashes, Mom? Sometimes, they obstruct my vision,” remarked the baby camel, rolling its eyes while attempting to look at its own lashes.

The mother camel chuckled with delight. “Ah, my child, those lashes are our shield amidst the desert’s frequent sandstorms.”

Deep in thought, the baby camel pondered for a moment before posing another question. “Yet, despite these adaptations, why are we confined in the zoo?”

Our skills and talents are most valuable when applied in the appropriate context and circumstances. My question to you is – Are you currently situated in an environment where your skills and talents can flourish to their fullest extent?

Hook From The Book

“Sometimes, it is not so much about the things that we say; as it is about the things we do not. For those who try to listen, silence speaks louder than words” ― Nikita Singh, The Promise

Movie Motivation

“Itihaas se na sikhane wale khud itihaas ban jate hai” (translated to “Those who don’t take their lessons from history are bound to become history”) This dialogue from the movie Dasvi reminds us to reflect on our lessons from the past and integrate them into your future.

This Week’s Winning Post

How do you respond to conflicts?

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

Welcome to the 55th episode of NLP Around YOU!

Thoughtful Thought

“To listen is not to just HEAR. It is to be HERE.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Wisdom comes from experience, but experience is not enough. Experience anticipated and experience revisited is the true source of wisdom.”- John Grinder

One Minute NLP – Ecology Frame

Our actions are akin to atom bombs, their impact reverberating throughout the environment and energy fields. Each action creates a chain reaction, influencing other aspects of our lives and surroundings. Being in an ecology frame enables us to consider the broader context evaluating how our actions resonate with our values and intersect with various facets of our life. Some questions to ponder can be: does this align with my values, or does it create conflict? How might it ripple through my other roles and responsibilities? While the impact could be positive or negative, the process of calibration is essential for navigating these complexities.

For example, When you read NLP Around You, what areas of your life are getting impacted?

Meta-Magic – The Bank Account of Life Lessons

Dreaming of a flourishing and evergreen bank account is a common aspiration, isn’t it? But how many of us truly achieve it? Now, imagine possessing such an account that credits $86,400 into your balance every single day. Astonishing, isn’t it? Well, there’s just one catch. You are required to utilise those $86,400 each day, otherwise, by nightfall, the balance resets to zero daily – regardless of whether you spend it or not. The next day, you receive a fresh credit of $86,400 in your account. In such a scenario, what would you do with the daily inflow of $86,400? Would you allow that credit to get expired unutilised? More importantly, what if I tell you that we all possess such an account? Yes, that account is known as ‘Time’.

Each day, we receive a deposit of 86,400 seconds, and the entire unused balance gets expired without any possibility of overdraft, carryover, or borrowing. Whether we utilise it or not, the clock resets at the beginning of each day.

So, my question to you is: Are you using your bank balance wisely and fully?

Hook From The Book

“We can’t have change without loss, which is why so often people say they want change but nonetheless stay exactly the same.” ― Lori Gottlieb, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Movie Motivation

“Raaste ki parwah karoonga toh Manzil bura maan jayegi.” (translated to “If I think too much about the roads, my destination will feel bad.”) This quote from the movie Once Upon A Time in Mumbai reminds us to stay focused on the goal (destination) while being flexible about exploring the pathways that lead to the goal.

This Week’s Winning Post

What if Creativity was a magic potion (blog post)

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Mehernosh Randeria

Thoughtful Thought

“There might be commas in your growth, but never a full stop in your learning.”- Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Every problem is a gift – without problems we would not grow.” ― Anthony Robbins

One Minute NLP – As If Frame

What kind of person will you become once you implement all the learnings from this newsletter, NLP Around You? What will you see, hear, and feel differently in your day-to-day life after implementing what you read here?

Asking such questions shifts your mind to ‘As If Frame’, where you think and visualise as if the situation has already happened. Now really close your eyes and answer the above question mentally. I am sure that you will feel motivated, and you might pick up the previous newsletter editions and re-visit them to implement several things from there, right?

By harnessing the power of the As-If Frame, you are taking control of your mind’s programming. These frames shift perspectives and bring a new level of clarity to your life.

Consider the impact of the As-If Frame on students preparing for exams. The potential for a drastic shift in their mindset and performance is within reach.

To sum up, What would your life be like if you used As-If Frame wisely?

Meta-Magic- What Are You Serving To Others?

When Gautam Buddha visited a village renowned for its monks, a vast number of people cancelled their pre-scheduled meetings with the monks so that they could see him instead. While most of the monks took this in their stride and made their way to meet Buddha, Vishwajeet stood out, his expression dark and his anger palpable.

“I must teach this Buddha a lesson,” he muttered through clenched teeth. “Because of him, I missed my meeting with my disciples today.” His eyebrows knitted together in fury as he made his way towards where Buddha was set to speak.

“You! You shameless person!” Vishwajeet’s voice boomed with rage as he confronted Buddha. “Because of you, all the other monks have been insulted, and their disciples stolen. You are heartless and stupid!” His eyes blazed with fury, and his entire body trembled with anger.

Meanwhile, Buddha remained seated calmly, seemingly unperturbed, which only served to stoke Vishwajeet’s fiery temper. His insults grew darker and more venomous with each passing moment. Finally, when Buddha was asked for a response, he simply smiled and said, “Tell me, my friend, when guests visit your home, do you turn them away or welcome them?”

Taken aback by the seemingly irrelevant question, Vishwajeet replied, “Of course, I welcome them. I invite them in and offer them food.”

Buddha’s smile widened as he continued, “And if they graciously decline that food, to whom does it belong?”

“Obviously it belongs to the host, to me,” Vishwajeet answered, his impatience evident in his fidgeting hands.

Buddha chuckled softly and added, “You served me anger, and I chose not to accept it. Therefore, it returns to you, leaving you even more enraged, frustrated, and unhappy. Who is truly harmed in this situation, you or I? If you wish to rid yourself of this anger, start serving love instead, and it will inevitably return to you.”

My question to you: What are YOU serving others today?

Hook From The Book

“He who has learned to disagree without being disagreeable has discovered the most valuable secret of negotiation.” ― Chris Voss, Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It

Movie Motivation

“Main udna chahta hoon, daudna chahta hoon, girna bhi chahta hoon… bas rukna nahin chahta.” (translated to “I want to fly, I want to run, I also want to fall… I just don’t want to stop”). This dialogue from yeh Jawani Hai Deewani acts as a reminder for us to keep progressing and moving ahead, and that falling is not failing.

This Week’s Winning Post

The Equations of Emotions

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria