“Your life is not in your hands; it is in your habits.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“It is not a matter of ends justifying the means; but of the creation of new means and new ends.” – Joseph O’Connor

One Minute NLP – Break Bad Habits with the Swish Pattern

Ever wished you could effortlessly break a bad habit or develop a new, positive one? NLP offers a powerful technique called the Swish Pattern that can help you do just that.

First, identify the trigger that starts the unwanted behavior. Visualize yourself engaging in the bad habit. Then, create a mental image of yourself doing the desired behavior instead. Make this positive image bright and compelling.

Now, replace the negative image with the positive one swiftly in your mind. Repeat this process several times until the positive image feels more natural and dominant.

The Swish Pattern helps your brain associate the old trigger with the new, positive behavior, making it easier to break old habits and adopt new ones. It’s a quick and effective way to create lasting change.

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Meta Magic – Are you making your well unwell?

“You are a filthy, obnoxious well! Your water made my children ill. It’s impure and useless. Your existence is undesirable.” Mr. Ramakant’s harsh words deeply wounded the heart of the only Well in the village. The Well, which had served the villagers faithfully for years, providing water for drinking and other needs, was deeply hurt by these accusations. Mr. Ramakant’s comment left the Well feeling disheartened, dejected, and shocked by the unexpected occurrence of his children’s illness.

From that day on, the Well decided to stop providing water to anyone in the village. The following day, it refused to give water to the villagers, leaving the entire community perplexed. News of the Well’s decision spread quickly, and the villagers grew anxious about how they would manage without it.

Determined to find a solution, a young villager named Yusuf ventured beyond the village boundaries and discovered a nearby lake. He returned to the village with the good news, and the villagers rejoiced at having found a new source of water.

The Well observed the villagers passing by, and did not bother to reconsider its decision. Within a week, the Well’s water stagnated, becoming murkier by the day. As it ceased to share its water with the villagers, the Well itself became unwell.

My question to you is: When it comes to sharing your knowledge and resources with the world, are you making your well unwell?

Story credit: Reel by Purvi Rathod, NLP Trainer and Mindfulness Coach

Hook From The Book

“It’s not happy people who are grateful, it’s grateful people who are happy” ― Clare Pooley, The Authenticity Project

Movie Motivation

“Sawal ye nahi ke aap ki ankhon ke samne kya hai, sawal ye hai ke aap dekh kya rahe ho” (translated to “The question is not what is in front of your eyes, the question is what are you seeing.”) This dialogue from the movie Dhrishyam 2 reminds us of our filters of deletion, generalisation and distortion, due to which we selectively see what we want to see, rather than what is there in front of our eyes.

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Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Master Trainer and Coach

“The future belongs to those who belong to the present.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“Beliefs: Those things we hold true despite evidence to the contrary.” – Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP – Submodalities

Have you ever noticed how vividly you can recall certain memories, while others seem fuzzy? In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), these differences in how we experience our thoughts and memories are called submodalities.

Submodalities are the finer details of our sensory experiences. They determine how we see, hear, and feel things in our minds. For instance, think about a happy memory. Is it bright or dim? Is it a still image or a movie? Are the sounds loud or quiet? These are all submodalities.

Why do submodalities matter? Because they influence how we feel about our experiences. By changing submodalities, we can alter our emotional responses. For example, if a negative memory feels overwhelming, you can make the image smaller and less vivid in your mind to reduce its impact. Similarly, enhancing the submodalities of positive memories can make them feel even more uplifting.

One practical NLP exercise involves taking a troubling thought and changing its submodalities. Imagine a fear-inducing situation as a small, black-and-white image that’s far away from you. Notice how this simple change can lessen its emotional grip. Conversely, you can take a positive memory and make it larger, brighter, and more colorful to amplify the good feelings associated with it.

Understanding and manipulating submodalities give you greater control over your mental and emotional state. It’s a powerful way to enhance well-being, boost confidence, and reduce stress.

Next time you find yourself grappling with a strong emotion, play around with the submodalities. You might find that you have more control over your inner world than you thought!

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Meta Magic – Are you ready to plug the holes?

Joseph was hired by a boatman to paint his boat. When it was time for payment, the boat owner handed Joseph a cheque for 20 times the original wages for painting a boat.

“Eh! Pardon me, but I think you’ve mistakenly added too many zeroes. I…I just painted your boat,” Joseph said, grinning as he returned the cheque to the owner for correction.

“I know. But you’ve also saved my children’s lives,” the owner replied, his eyes moist as he handed the cheque back to Joseph. Now, Joseph was both intrigued and puzzled.

“There was a hole in the boat, and I forgot to ask you to repair it. Thankfully, you did it anyway. When I was out, the children took the boat out, and when I found out, my heart raced in fear. But when I got home, I found them back safely from their boat ride. I went to check, and there was no hole. So, this amount is nothing compared to what you’ve done by repairing that hole.”

My question to you is: Are you ready to plug the holes?

Hook From The Book

“What makes the desert beautiful is that somewhere it hides a well.” ― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince

Movie Motivation

“Koi dhanda chota nahi hota, aur dhande se bada koi dharam nahi hota” (translated to “No business is insignificant and no religion is greater than business.”) This dialogue from the movie Raees is self-explanatory. How do you relate to this dialogue? Please share your comments in reply here.

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Thoughtfully yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Master Trainer and Coach

“Introspection is the missing piece in the jigsaw of peace.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“If you say to yourself ‘It’s difficult to get up in the morning’, ‘It’s hard to cease smoking’, then you are already using hypnotic suggestions on yourself.” – Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP – Reframing: Turning Problems into Opportunities

Have you ever wished you could see your challenges in a more positive light? Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) offers a powerful tool called reframing that can help you do just that.

Reframing is about changing the way you perceive a situation to alter its meaning and impact. It’s like looking at a picture in a different frame; the picture stays the same, but the way you see it changes. This simple shift in perspective can transform a problem into an opportunity.

For example, imagine you’re feeling nervous about giving a presentation. Instead of seeing it as a nerve-wracking ordeal, you can reframe it as an exciting chance to share your ideas and showcase your skills. By shifting your focus from fear to opportunity, you can change your emotional response and approach the situation with more confidence.

Another common use of reframing in NLP is dealing with negative self-talk. If you catch yourself thinking, “I’m terrible at this,” you can reframe it to, “I’m learning and improving every day.” This positive twist helps cultivate a growth mindset and boosts your motivation.

Reframing can be applied to almost any situation, whether it’s personal challenges, work-related stress, or even conflicts with others. By consciously choosing a new frame, you can change your reactions and outcomes, making life’s hurdles seem more like stepping stones.

Next time you face a difficult situation, try to reframe it. You might be surprised at how this simple NLP technique can turn your problems into opportunities for growth and success.

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Meta Magic – What type of gardener are you?

Shikha and Sayali were best friends. Their bonding began with their shared love for gardening. Each had their own garden, well-cultivated in their respective homes.

Over time, Shikha noticed a difference. Her garden had more weeds, while Sayali’s was lush and flourishing.

Shikha had tried it all: fertilizers, good shades for plants, watering regularly, and even playing music for plants. However, all she saw was the growth of weeds, which outshined the development of her plants. She decided to take advice from Sayali.

“What’s the secret of your lush green garden, Sayali? Look at mine. There are weeds all over.” Shikha exhaled in exasperation.

“Well, I welcome weeds.” Sayali smiled with a mystic look. Shikha looked puzzled.

“The only secret is that I welcome weeds because they make me create more space for plants. I keep uprooting weeds and keep planting new plants.” Sayali smiled while shrugging simply.

Our mind is a garden, and plants and weeds are our thoughts. When it comes to living life, what kind of gardener are you?

Hook From The Book

“Choosing a lover is a lot like choosing a therapist. We need to ask ourselves, is this someone who will be honest with me, listen to criticism, admit making mistakes, and not promise the impossible?” ― Alex Michaelides, The Silent Patient

Movie Motivation

“Bade se bada business.. paise se nahi, ek bade idea se bada hota hai” (translated to “The greatest of business is great not because of money, but because of a great idea.”) This dialogue from the movie Badmaash Company is self-explanatory. What is your great idea? Feel free to share in reply to this newsletter.

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Thoughtfully yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Master Trainer and Coach

“Wealth is a mindset, which money cannot buy.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“One of the most important aspects of what human beings do is build beliefs. Beliefs are what trap most people in their problems. Unless you believe you can get over something, get through something, or get to something, there is little likelihood you will be able to do it. Your beliefs refer to your sense of certainty on some of your thoughts.” – Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP – The Magic of Rapport

Ever wondered why some people seem to connect instantly while others struggle to find common ground? In NLP, the concept of rapport is key to building strong, meaningful connections with others.

Rapport is all about creating a sense of harmony and understanding. One of the most effective ways to establish rapport is through mirroring. This involves subtly mimicking the other person’s body language, tone of voice, and even their choice of words. When done naturally, it can make the other person feel understood and comfortable.

For example, if your conversation partner is speaking slowly and softly, matching their pace and volume can help create a subconscious connection. Likewise, if they are using specific words or phrases, incorporating similar language into your responses can enhance the sense of mutual understanding.

NLP also emphasises the importance of matching sensory preferences. People tend to favour visual, auditory, or kinesthetic ways of processing information. By identifying and aligning with someone’s preferred sensory style — whether they say things like “I see what you mean,” “I hear you,” or “I feel that”—you can communicate more effectively and deepen your rapport.

Building rapport isn’t just about socialising; it’s a powerful tool for improving relationships, enhancing communication, and creating a positive impact in both personal and professional settings. So, next time you are interacting with someone, apply these NLP techniques and watch the magic of rapport unfold!

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Meta Magic – Which end of the Telescope are you seeing from?

John Maxwell shares this story in his book Be All You Can Be.

One day, little Bobby’s father came into the front room and saw the boy looking out on the street through the big end of a telescope.

He said, “Son, that’s not the way you look through a telescope. If you look through it that way, you make the objects look much smaller. A telescope is to make things look bigger.”

But Bobby smiled and said, “Daddy, the bully who’s always beating me up is out on the street. I turned the telescope around because he’s my main problem, and I want to see him smaller than he really is.”

My question to you is: How do you choose to see the world and the situations around you? Over-magnified or under-magnified?

Reply to this newsletter and let me know what insights you derived from this story.

Hook From The Book

“Nothing is easier for people who never do anything themselves than to criticize someone who actually makes an effort.” ― Fredrik Backman, Anxious People

Movie Motivation

“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” This dialogue from the movie Pursuit of Happyness reminds us that our current situation is a result of our choices. In NLP terminology, remind yourself how you can be in the cause mode (Victor mode) and not in the effect mode (Victim mode).

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Thoughtfully yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Master Trainer and Coach

“Being in the moment is the moment.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“People who mind read usually feel they are right, but this does not guarantee they are. Why guess when you can ask?” – Joseph O’ Connor

One Minute NLP – How Your Eyes Reveal Your Thinking Processes

Did you know that the direction you look can give away how you are thinking? In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), eye movements, or “eye accessing cues,” are fascinating clues to our thought processes.

Imagine this: when someone glances up and to the right, they might be visualizing a new scene or imagining something that hasn’t happened. Conversely, looking up and to the left often means they are recalling a memory. It’s like their eyes are windows to different parts of their brain!

Ever noticed someone looking sideways to the right? They might be imagining a sound or a conversation. If their eyes dart sideways to the left, they are likely recalling a familiar sound or voice. And when someone looks down and to the right, they are usually engaged in self-talk or internal dialogue.

Understanding these patterns can be super helpful. Whether you are in a conversation, a coaching session, or just trying to understand someone better, observing eye movements can provide a deeper connection and insight. It’s like having a cheat sheet for human behaviour!

Next time you are chatting with someone, pay attention to their eyes. You might just unlock a new level of understanding in your interactions.

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Meta Magic – Filter out your own biases

It was a special day in the otherwise mundane life of retired teacher Mr. Ramesh. The reason was a visit from a young man who had come searching for him.

“Sir, you were my class teacher. Do you recognize me?” Ranjit asked with the excitement of a child receiving his favourite candy.

When Mr. Ramesh mentioned that he couldn’t recollect, Ranjit wasn’t bothered. “Of course, sir. What am I expecting? You are the Moon, and we are the stars. A Moon cannot remember all the stars, but every star remembers the Moon. How can you remember me amidst so many students?”

Mr. Ramesh’s smile encouraged Ranjit to reveal the reason for his visit.

“Sir, today is my first day as a teacher. I wanted to say thank you. Because of you, I am a teacher today.”

This time, Mr. Ramesh’s smile reached his eyes, and he delightedly blessed Ranjit. “While my joy knows no bounds today, I would love to know how I inspired you to become a teacher.”

Gratitude shone in Ranjit’s eyes as he shared the incident.

“Sir, once my best friend in the class got a new wristwatch, and I wanted it so much that I stole it. When he discovered the theft, he immediately reported it to our teacher, which was you. You first made a humble request for whoever had the watch to please return it. But when no one came forward, you asked us to form a circle and close our eyes. You instructed us to open our eyes only when you told us to, and meanwhile, you checked each person’s pocket one by one. When you reached my pocket, you found the watch, but you continued searching everyone’s pockets. In the end, you announced that you had found the watch and we could open our eyes.” Ranjit felt a lump in his throat but managed to continue.

“Sir, that day, you protected my dignity. Otherwise, I would have been defamed and labelled as a thief. Not only that, but you also never scolded me in private or gave me a moral lecture. That was your way of silently moulding me. This inspired me to become a teacher like you, Sir.” Ranjit was now in tears, his hands folded in front of Mr. Ramesh.

“Ah, now I remember the incident. But I still don’t remember you, my son. Because even while searching, I had my eyes closed, so I never knew it was you. For me, the essence of teaching is to teach with equality, without any kind of bias.”

My question to you is: Can you filter out your own biases?

Hook From The Book

“Sometimes, even when you start with the last page and you think you know everything, a book finds a way to surprise you.” ― Emily Henry, Book Lovers

Movie Motivation

“Tumhare paas joh jai, tumhare hisaab se kam hai… Lekin kisi doosre ke nazar se dekho, toh tumhare paas bahut kuch hai” (translated to “What you have might seem less to you… But if you look from someone else’s perspective, you have a lot.”) This dialogue from the movie Kal Ho Na Ho is a reminder to be grateful about what we truly have.

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Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Master Trainer and Coach