Presently as the Global NLP Summit is in progress as I write this, I am really excited to play a dual role – that of a Speaker as well as that of a Learner, continuing to learn from the Stalwarts in the field of NLP. Happy to share with you that my session on “NLP – The Secret Ingredient of Successful Relationships” has been rated as one of the sessions with the highest attendance.

Thoughtful Thought

“It is ok to diverge because ultimately it will all converge.”- Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Understand the world from another’s point of view. Then, and only then, will you understand the meaning of love.”- John Grinder

One Minute NLP – What you hold on to is holding you!

In the recently released Indian movie “Merry Christmas”, a dialogue exchange between Katrina  Kaif and Vijay Setupati was a reminder of subconscious anchors in our mind.

Vijay shows her a ring he had kept for his lady love, who had passed away 7 years ago. When Katrina asks why he had still kept the ring, he replies – “Jab bhool jaunga, tab fek dunga.” (I will throw it away when I forget her.)

Katrina replied with a sleight of mouth pattern – “jab fek doge tab bhool jaoge.” (When you throw it away, you will forget her.)

The realisation I got as a result of this dialogue is that What you hold on to, is actually holding you.

Meta-Magic – What Are You Carrying Inside?

An Elephant and a Dog became pregnant simultaneously. Both being friends, they were elated as they would get more time to spend together this way.

Three months later, the Dog delivered six puppies, while there was no news from the Elephant’s side. Within few months, the Dog got pregnant again and delivered seven more pups. The Dog was puzzled and concerned about his friend Elephant as there was no news about delivery.

Time flew, and it had been 18 months so far since the Dog had delivered thrice and was waiting for the good news from the Elephant. Finally, it mustered up the courage and asked the Elephant, “My dear Elephant, are you sure you are pregnant?”

On getting a quizzical look from the Elephant, the Dog explained further, “It’s been 18 months, and we conceived together; I have delivered thrice, and I am concerned about what is taking you so long to deliver if you are pregnant?”

This time, the Elephant smiled and said, “Oh my dear Dog, I am carrying an Elephant within, not a Dog. For us, it takes two years to deliver one time.”

The Elephant added, “When my gigantic baby hits the ground, the Earth feels it. The whole forest and even humans watch in awe and admiration when it walks. It is not about how fast I deliver but about how gigantic and charismatic I deliver.”

If you are fretting over your desire not being fulfilled compared to others, remember to ask yourself- “What am I carrying inside me?” Big dreams take time to be delivered.

Hook From The Book

“Feeling good doesn’t just end with feeling good. It actually changes our patterns of thought and behaviour.” – Ali Abdaal, Feel Good Productivity 

Movie Motivation

“Sometimes the wrong train will get you to the right station.” – This dialogue from the movie LunchBox somewhere connects to the Thoughtful Thought above. What appears to be divergent initially may ultimately converge to your final destination.

This Week’s Winning Post

The Communication Model of the Mind

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

Thank you for your thoughtful response to the Thoughtful Calendar 2024. This week has been another fantastic week with the launch of The W3 NLP Club – an exclusive space designed just for the W3 NLP Alumni to keep the NLP magic alive by staying connected to the transformative learnings long after the course has concluded. And in case you are yet to commence your NLP journey, here is your invite to join the NLP Foundation Course for free now: www.learnnlp.in

Thoughtful Thought

“Your path to Productivity consists of 3Ps – Pause, Ponder and Prioritise.”- Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Being humble to superiors is duty; to equals is courtesy; to inferiors is nobleness; and to all, safety.”- Bruce Lee

One Minute NLP – The Secret Ingredient in Relationships

In case you are wondering what is the secret ingredient for successful relationships, here is a metaphor that I shared in last Wednesday’s NLP Practice session on “The Art of Influence”. When you look at people around you who are in a harmonious loving relationship that may appear to be absolutely effortless on their part, remind yourself of the duck that swims so apparently effortlessly on water. Beneath the surface, you would notice the duck constantly pedalling non-stop to ensure that a smooth sailing. Nurturing your relationship is akin to that pedalling that is constant and continuous beneath the surface, and yet resulting in a seamless effortless and beautiful relationship.

Meta-Magic – You are The Light You are Looking For

“The world is so full of darkness,” cribbed the Cave to the Sun. The Sun could not fathom what darkness meant and tried very hard to explain to the Cave how the world actually beams bright with light. The Cave was unable to relate to the concept of a bright life. Even after an extended banter, neither could comprehend each other’s perception.

“Why don’t we swap places to understand better?” The Sun suggested with raised eyebrows. The Cave nodded with a yes. 

First, the Cave went up to the Sun to see the world. “Oh! You were right, my friend Sun. It is all illuminated and beautiful. Nevertheless, now you’ll get to see my truth too. It’s your time to come down and see where I have been living.” 

When the Sun reached down, he exclaimed in shock, “What! Where is the darkness? It is all so luminous, my dear Cave friend.” As the Sun carried his light with him, he could not witness the darkness that was there before he arrived.

Those who are illuminated like the Sun find solace regardless of external circumstances. Even in the face of adversity, they manage to discover blessings, whereas those who harbour darkness (negativity, fear, doubt) unwittingly become like a cave – hollow and filled with internal turmoil.

My question to you is: Are you ready to discover the enlightenment within you in 2024?

Hook From The Book

“New goals don’t deliver new results. New lifestyles do. And a lifestyle is a process, not an outcome. For this reason, all of your energy should go into building better habits, not chasing better results.” – James Clear, Atomic Habits

Movie Motivation

“Carpe diem. Seize the day, boys. Make your lives extraordinary.” This dialogue from the movie Dead Poets Society reminds us about always being in the “Cause” mode and doing whatever it takes to achieve your outcome.

This Week’s Winning Post

What are you counting on?

To find out more about the Secret Ingredient of Successful Relationships, please use the discount code Mehernosh10 when you register for the Global NLP Summit 2024 where I will be sharing more powerful insights to help you work towards a more harmonious relationship in your life. Here is your link to register for the summit: www.globalnlpsummit.com 

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

Wish you a Very Happy and Fantastic New Year 2024. To help you start the year on a thoughtful note, here is a unique offering for you: The THOUGHTFUL CALENDAR 2024 – A desktop calendar with a compilation of the best 12 thought-provoking quotes – one quote for each month from the book “Thoughtfully Yours” – a perfect New Year gifting idea too. Get your copy here.

Thoughtful Thought

“Be a WIP till you RIP”- Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“What happens to our thoughts as we clothe them in language, and how faithfully are they preserved when our listeners undress them?”- John Seymour, Introducing Neuro-linguistic Programming: The New Psychology of Personal Excellence

One Minute NLP – Keep Going Forward 2024

Trust you were able to apply the learnings from the video recording shared last week of RRR – Reflect, Reset, Rise – the transition from 2023 to 2024.

This week, I would love to share with you another power-packed session on taking action on your goals for 2024: Keep Going Forward: 2024 

P.S.: The access to this video is available only for a limited period. To gain maximum value from this session, please watch it latest by 15th January 2024.

Meta-Magic – Can You Sleep When The Wind Blows?

“How can I trust a thin young lad like you to take care for my whole farm in this stormy land?” Asked John, the owner of a farmland at Atlantic seacoast.

The new year brought new hope for John when Lenny accepted to work on the farm, after many other  men had declined the offer fearing the dreadful storms in that locality.

“Well, I can sleep when the wind blows,” answered Lenny while shrugging his shoulders and gazing confidently into John’s eyes. Though John could not decipher what Lenny said, he chose to hire him out of his own desperation for help.

Lenny worked well around the farm, busy from dawn to dusk, and John felt satisfied with his choice too.

After a few weeks, a tornado hit the seashore and woke John with a jolt. He rushed to the farm and saw Lenny snoring loudly. He tried to wake him up, and all Lenny did was toss to the other side while mumbling, “No Sir. I told you, I can sleep when the wind blows.”

Enraged and exasperated, John moved towards the farm to bring things under control by himself. He cursed himself for making his worst hiring mistake. When he sprinted towards the farm, he could not believe what he saw. To his surprise, he discovered all the haystacks had been covered with tarpaulins. The cows were in the barn, the chickens were in the coops, and the doors were barred. The shutters were tightly secured. Everything was tied down. Nothing could blow away.

Lenny’s words reverberated and made complete sense now. John returned to his bed to sleep peacefully while the wind blew, all because Lenny had well prepared in advance.

When you are prepared spiritually, mentally, and physically, you have nothing to fear. My question to you is: Can you sleep when the wind blows?

Hook From The Book

“If you don’t pay appropriate attention to what has your attention, it will take more of your attention than it deserves.” – David Allen, Getting Things Done, The Art of Stress-free Productivity

Movie Motivation

“Taqat toh genda bhi lagata hai … lekin sher lagata hai taqat aur technique, dono … sher ban’na hai, genda nahi” (translated to: “Even a rhino has strength. But a lion has both – strength plus technique. In this world full off rhinos, be a lion.”) This dialogue from the movie Dangal can relate to the difference between Hard Work and Smart Work. How do you relate to this dialogue?

This Week’s Winning Post

Special New Year Blog: 5 Ultimate NLP Techniques to Make the Best of 2024

Finally, before we close for the week, here is another special New Year Gift. To help you imbibe the NLP learnings within you, you are invited to join the next NLP Foundation Course for free. Here are the complete details: www.learnnlp.in

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

Let’s begin with a quick reflection of 2023. How would you define your 2023 in one line? Do share in the comments or reply to this newsletter. 

Thoughtful Thought

“Self-doubt is the wind, which blows off your lamp of success.”- Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“If you go through the world looking for excellence, you will find excellence. If you go through the world looking for problems you will find problems. Or as the Arabic saying puts it, ‘What a piece of bread looks like depends on whether you are hungry or not’.”- Joseph O’Connor, Introducing NLP: Psychological Skills for Understanding and Influencing People

One Minute NLP – Reflect, Reset, Rise
When you drive a car, how important is the reverse gear? Even as you begin to manoeuvre your car out of the parking space, so that you can drive it for a longer and new distance, you may often need to apply the reverse gear before you move the car into the appropriate forward gear.

While we are saying goodbye to 2023 and setting out on a new ride for 2024, it might be a good idea to shift gears, go back into reverse gear to reflect about 2023, reset and recalibrate ourselves into the present moment and then get ready to rise further into 2024 and beyond.

My New Year Gift to you today is the recording of the session which I conducted for my NLP Family on 27th Dec 2023 where we brainstormed on reflections from 2023 and embraced ourselves for 2024 through visualisations. Here is your link to the 90 minutes power packed session ‘RRR – Reflect, Reset & Rise – from 2023 to 2024’.

P.S.: The access to this video is available only for one week. To get maximum value from this session, please watch it before you enter the new year or, at the latest, in the first couple of days of the year.

Meta-Magic – Who is judging you?

A painter having completed his course decided to create his debut painting. As he was wondering how to get people’s feedback, his eyes lit up with an idea. He went to the nearby street corner and left the painting to showcase it, along with a note that read – “I am a newbie painter, and this is my first painting. Please give feedback by putting a cross wherever you find a mistake.”

When he returned in the evening, his eyes widened in shock and soon welled up with tears. He went to his master with his head hung low. When asked, he opened his heart with a lump in his throat, “I am the worst painter ever. Look at the number of crosses on my painting.”

The master took a deep breath and smiled. “Will you do what I ask you to?” He asked while gazing deep into the disciple’s eyes. When the disciple nodded yes, the master asked him to leave a replica of the same painting with another note at the same place. The only change was in the wordings of the note he had to leave there. This time, the note read – “I seek your feedback on my debut painting. I have kept a paintbrush and colours here. Please pick up and correct the wrong strokes to help me to improve.”

The next day, the disciple left the painting with a note paintbrush and some colours. When he returned in the evening, he could not believe his eyes. Not even a single correction was made to the painting. Brimmed with joy, when the Disciple returned to the master and told him what had transpired, the master said, “It is easy to point out a mistake but tough to correct it.”

My question to you is: In which areas of your life, do you feel driven by the need to get judged by other people’s definition of you?

Hook From The Book

“There are many realities. There are many versions of what may appear obvious. Whatever appears as the unshakeable truth, it’s exact opposite may also be true in another context. After all, one’s reality is but perception, viewed through various prisms of context.” – Amish Tripathi, The Immortals of Meluha

Movie Motivation

“It’s our instinct to chase what’s getting away, and to run away from what’s chasing us.” How would you relate to this quote from the movie The Great Gatsby? What are you chasing in your life?

This Week’s Winning Post

We have access to all the resources we need.

Wish you and your family a 

Happy
Abundant
Prosperous
Phenomenal
Enriching
Nourishing
Intentional
Noble
Graceful

H.A.P.P.E.N.I.N.G. 2024!! See you next year!

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

As we get ready to say farewell to 2023, what are some of the old un-helpful limitations that you are willing to say farewell to?

Thoughtful Thought

“Sometimes not knowing can be more powerful than knowing.”- Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Remember: the journey is the destination.”- John Grinder

One Minute NLP – Towards Orientation

Last week we discovered about how adding “what you want” becomes a game changer in manifesting your desired life. In NLP, these are called “Towards” orientations. Let’s dive deeper and understand the psychology about how using these “towards” statements play on your subconscious for better results every time.

This reminds me of the story of a man who after walking endlessly in the desert, spotted a sole tree and sat under it. “Ah! Wish I could get some water” – he murmured to himself. And boom! the water appeared. With his eyes wide open, the man quickly gulped the water. After that, he thought about food and the food appeared, he thought about juice and juice appeared. He thought about sleep and he had the most relaxing sleep of his life.

On waking up, fear got better of him and he began doubting that the tree has been possessed by demons. “Oh I don’t want to be killed by this monstrous tree, which is fulfilling all my wishes.”

And instantly, he was killed.

The tree was the Kalpavriksha tree – the tree of manifestation – it listens to whatever you think and gives to you. Had the man said, “I want to live under this monstrous tree come what may”, he would not have invited his own death.

Your mind is just like this Kalpavriksha tree. Your thoughts become your echo and, thereby, your reality. So if you have been focusing on what you want to avoid, instead start focusing on what you want. 

Meta-Magic – The Shark in Your Tank

Japanese fishermen used to go fishing far distances into the deep seas, but were always concerned about the freshness of the fish as a culinary delight. Even though the freezers installed on the boats helped to keep the fish frozen and enabled the boats to spend more days at sea, the taste of the frozen fish was not as good as that of the fresh fish.

To counter this, the fishing companies installed fish tanks in the boats, so that the fish could stay alive even while the fishermen continued fishing for more. The drawback here was that because the fish would not move much in the tanks, their freshness would again get lost.

Finally, a creative mind came up with a solution and the fishing companies introduced a small shark into the tank. While the shark ate a few fish, most of them remained alive and more importantly, active and fresh.

My Question to you is – Do you need a shark in your tank in order to keep you active and fresh?

Hook From The Book

“Love doesn’t always happen to strengthen our beliefs. Sometimes it happens to destroy all our previous beliefs and faith and gives us a chance to re-look at our own conclusions.” Marry Me Stranger by Novoneel Chakraborty

Movie Motivation

“Tarik pe tarik, tarik pe tarik…” (translated to: “From one date to another to another…”) Although this dialogue from the movie Damini is in the context of the judgement being deferred from one court hearing date to the next, I invite you to think of this in the context of what are those actions that you are shifting, deferring or procrastinating from one date to the next, waiting for that one fine day – planning every time to start from the next week or the next month or the next year, and the date just keeps shifting. 

As the Chinese saying goes – “The best time to plant a tree was twenty years ago. The second best time is NOW.” 

This Week’s Winning Post

NLP is just a toolkit, NLP is a mindset shift.

Wish you a Merry Christmas and Amazing Holidays!! See you next week!

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

Thoughtful Thought

“Life becomes lively when you add life to it.”- Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Once they have a choice, people always make the best choice. The trouble is that people don’t think they have one.”- Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP – Away-From Orientation

Last week, we discussed the secret of habit formation with the example of weight management goals, where instead of focusing on losing X kgs of weight, design your habits focusing on achieving Y kgs of a target weight. Let’s now discuss what is the principle that makes this work so magically.

Have you seen people who are clear only about what they don’t want in life? For example – “I don’t want an abusive relationship.” “I don’t want to fail.” “I don’t want a certain type of boss or job.” You may have noticed a pattern in their lives where, unfortunately, they keep attracting exactly what they don’t want. In NLP, these are called “Away From” orientations. The more you focus on what you don’t want, the more you seed these elements into your subconscious mind, seeking to make these your reality. 

Make a note of these powerful principles:

– You cannot not think of something without thinking about it.

– What you resist will persist.

So then what is the appropriate way to attract what you want in life? The answer lies in the question itself. For every element that you don’t want in your life, make a complete list of several contrasting elements that you want. For example, if you don’t want an abusive relationship, brainstorm on what kind of ideal relationship you want, and what are the exact components of an ideal relationship for you.

Meta-Magic – What do you see outside?
When a proud wealthy business tycoon heard that his school friend had become a renowned monk, he decided to visit him in his monastery. On reaching the silent place of worship, the tycoon was asked to wait as the monk was busy in his daily meditation practice. 

When the monk arrived, the businessman made it a point to show off his glittering diamond rings and beaming suit to his humble school friend. Grinning with pride, he asked the monk “What do you see in me?”

“I see Buddha in you.” The monk responded with a serene smile.

Although the monk never asked anything in return, the amused businessman responded, “Haha! What? Amidst all my wealth, you see Buddha in me? You know what? I see garbage in you.”

The monk kept smiling quietly. This infuriated the businessman even more. “Why are you not annoyed?” he asked the monk.

The monk replied, “The one who finds Buddha within sees Buddha outside too. The one who sees garbage within spots garbage outside too.”

My question to you is: What do you see in the world outside you?

Hook From The Book

“The idea of potential loss plays a large role in human decision-making. In fact, people seem to be more motivated by the thought of losing something than by the thought of gaining something of equal value.” – Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

Movie Motivation

“Khud pe daya karna band karo, aur khud se pyaar karna seekho. Tum jaisi ho bilkul theek thak ho.” (translated to: “Stop pitying yourself, and learn to love yourself. You are fine the way you are.”) This powerful dialogue from the movie Yeh Jawani Hai Deewani is self-explanatory. 

How are you developing your self-worth, self-love and self-compassion? In this context, let me share with you one of my previously published books – Create The Life You Want: 6 Powerful Practices to Develop Your Self-Worth, Self-Love and Self-Compassion

This Week’s Winning Post

Seek to understand before seeking to be understood.

See you next week!

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria