Thoughtful Thought

“The success of your organization system is measured by the ease of retrieval when needed.”- Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner 

“Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.” ― Virginia Satir

One Minute NLP- Future Pacing

Imagine being transported to a tranquil beach, where the warm sunshine caresses your toes, inviting them to wiggle with delight. The fresh sea breeze cleanses your soul, and you inhale deeply, embracing the serenity that surrounds you. In that moment, all worries fade away, and the gentle rhythm of the waves whispers songs of hope, making everything seem possible. You rise with the energy of the high tide, swaying in harmony with the abundant breeze that envelops you.

How often and for how long would you like to immerse yourself in such an experience, where you can dance to the melodies of abundance? A place where ease reigns supreme, free from the clutches of toxicity, and passion lingers in the air, ready to embrace you fully and eternally.

You can use this script to transport yourself to this idyllic beach whenever you feel the weight of stress upon your shoulders. Consider it a magic wand, a time machine that whisks away your worries and nurtures your wholesomeness and authenticity.

In the realm of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, this powerful technique is known as Future Pacing. A very powerful application of Future Pacing lies in experiencing the achievement of your goals, or experiencing the desired mental states, or changing your habits or behaviour. With Future Pacing, you can reignite your inner motivation and passion by visualizing yourself in that desired situation, place, or state. It fosters self-belief in your own capabilities and unlocks the path to seamless achievement.

Meta-Magic – Can You See The Wonder?

“Hey Dad, look! The trees are moving past us!” exclaimed 24-year-old James, his eyes sparkling with wonder. His father, Peter, beamed with a smile that radiated pure joy and love.

Across from them on the train, a young couple glanced at Peter with a hint of pity, taken aback by James’s childlike excitement.

“Oh, wow! Dad, the clouds are racing alongside us!” James squealed in delight. The young couple exchanged a puzzled glance, unable to resist asking Peter, “Forgive me for inquiring, but have you considered seeking medical attention for your son?”

Peter’s smile only broadened as he replied, “In fact, we are returning from the doctor’s office. Today marks a new beginning for him. He’s just undergone an eye surgery and has gained his eyesight for the first time since childhood.”

My question to you is: How do you perceive the world and those around you? Through eyes jaded by experience, or with the fresh wonder of new sight?

Hook From The Book

“It’s like Tolstoy said. Happiness is an allegory, unhappiness a story.”
― Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore

Movie Motivation

“Life is not the amount of breaths you take, it’s the moments that take your breath away.” How do you relate to this famous quote from the movie Hitch?

This Week’s Winning Post 

Have you sailed in metaphorical boats?

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

Thoughtful Thought

“Destiny is not in the stars, but in the decisions”- Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Life is not the way it’s supposed to be, it’s the way it is. The way you cope with that is what makes the difference.” ― Virginia Satir

One Minute NLP – The Red Flag of Goal Setting

The story shared by Curly Martin in her book The Business Coaching Handbook gives an interesting insight into the process of goal getting vs goal setting.

Nigel thought he had a job for life when he landed a part in Britain’s longest running television soap opera. Then, to boost viewing figures, the producer decided that his character would meet a gruesome and dramatic end.

At first Nigel welcomed the break from the punishing daily rehearsal and filming pattern. He still had a lifestyle that matched his former income but his savings quickly evaporated. To maintain his public image, he borrowed money and drifted ever deeper into debt. An avalanche of bills that he could not pay presented him with his wake-up call.

He remembered a book that another cast member had given him to read in his dressing room between takes. It was about goal setting. Without reference to the book, he decided there and then to set himself this goal: “Six months from today, I am totally debt-free.“

Exactly six months later he was forced into bankruptcy. This is the ultimate debt-free state. He had achieved his goal, but it was not what he had in mind when he wrote it.

Meta-Magic – What would you choose over a Sundae?

“How much is this delightful ice cream sundae?” asked 9-year-old John, his eyes dancing with delight as he took in the vibrant array of ice cream colors.

“50 cents,” the waitress replied, while scanning John’s appearance. His ruffled hair, grease-stained hands and clothes, and well-worn outfit told her he must have just come from the garage. “Probably earned a few cents washing a car,” she mused.

John began carefully counting the coins in his pocket. Once finished, he let out a small sigh and surveyed the counter again. “Um, how much is a plain ice cream?”

“35 cents,” the waitress said, wiping the counter.

“Okay, I’ll have a plain ice cream, please.” John handed over his 35 cents and waited eagerly for his treat to arrive at the table.

When John left, the waitress came to clear the table, and what she found opened her eyes wide.

There, left by little John, was a 15-cent tip for her.

Little John had chosen kindness over an ice cream sundae. What would you choose?

Hook From The Book

“Why should I have a time problem?” the little Buddha asked in astonishment. “There is enough time. What matters is what you do with it.” – Little Buddha Finding Happiness by Claus Mikosch

Movie Motivation

“Oh yes, the past can hurt. But from the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it.” This quote from The Lion King reminds us that the past is our learning ground to reflect and decide our way forward in life.

This Week’s Winning Post

Revealed: The Secret Recipe of Swishing from Mundane to Magic

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh

To begin with, I am overjoyed to share 2 announcements with you.

Here is the first one – My blog https://w3coach.com/blog has been listed among the 25 Best Indian Life Coach Blogs and Websites in 2024 by Feedspot. Check out the link here: https://lifestyle.feedspot.com/indian_life_coach_blogs/?feedid=5665645

For the second announcement, just keep the curiosity alive till you scroll till the end of this newsletter.

Thoughtful Thought

“You are most beautiful when you be you to the full.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Awareness in and of itself is curative.”– Fritz Perls

One Minute NLP – Coaching with Chunking

Neuro-Linguistic Programming is a transformative tool that is applicable in the field of coaching and counselling.

Chunking is one such technique that can sketch revolutionary breakthroughs in a client seeking coaching or counselling.

Chunking in NLP is like the game of Tetris, where the objects are smartly navigated in order to fit into the structure. In Chunking, the questions need to be tweaked in a way that the ideas fit into the structure of clarity. One can ask questions to get either a broader or a narrowed view of any topic.

E.g. 1: Chunking up (Generalisation)

A: I just can’t write anything well. I tried, it never works.

B: Wow! Nothing at all? Not even your name?

A: I mean reports.

E.g. 2: Chunking Down (Specification)

A: Writing is very frustrating. I can’t write at all.

B: Which part of writing is frustrating to you? Ideation, outline, typing on keyboard, formatting etc?

A: Hmm! I can’t seem to organize my ideas.

So next time when you put the coach hat on, don’t forget to add chunking as a feather in it.

Meta-Magic – Fishing for Possibilities

A freshly recruited salesman in a departmental store in Canada was approached by his boss at the closing hours of his first day at work.

Boss: “How many sales did you make on the first day?”

Salesman: “Sir, I attended to 1 Sales call.”

Boss: “Only one sale the whole day? Usually, every salesman here does 20 to 30 Sales transactions a day. Well, tell me what is the value of your today’s one sale?”

Salesman: “$93300….!”

Boss: “What?? Unbelievable! But how did you do that?”

Salesman: “Sir, one customer came in, and I sold him a small fishing hook. Then a mazola, and then finally sold a big hook. Then I sold him one big fishing rod and some fishing gear…”

“Then I asked him where he goes to catch fish and he said to the coastal area….”

“Then I said to him that he would need a boat. So I took him to the boat department and sold him a 20 ft double engine scooter boat.”

“When he said the boat won’t come in his Volkswagen, I took him to the automobile section and sold him the new Deluxe 4×4 blazer to carry the boat.”

“And when I asked him where he would be going fishing ??? He didn’t plan anything. So I took him to the camping section and sold him a six-sleeper camper tent.”

“And then he took groceries worth $200 and 2 cases of beer….!”

Now the boss took two steps back and asked:- “You sold all this to a person who came just to buy only 1 fish hook???”

Salesman: “NO, Sir… He actually came in to buy one tablet for his headache… I explained to him that ‘Fishing’ is the best way to get rid of headaches!!”

My question to you is – How do you relate to this story? In which areas of your life can you create more possibilities out of situations that appear to look like limitations?

Hook From The Book

“The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are. Imagine how much happier we would be, how much freer to be our true individual selves, if we didn’t have the weight of gender expectations.” ― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, We Should All Be Feminists

Movie Motivation

“Success ke peechhe mat bhaago. Kaabil bano kaabil. Kaamyaabi to saali jhak maarke peechhe aayegi.” (translated to “Do not chase Success. Work on your capabilities. Success is bound to follow.”) This line from the movie 3 Idiots reminds us to pursue Excellence and Work on self-development and growth so that success can follow by default.

This Week’s Winning Post

The Gift of “Extra”: Why Leap Day is Your Secret Weapon

So, here is the second big announcement – what you have just read is the 50th episode of this newsletter “NLP Around You”. Thanks to your love and support, I have consistently delivered to your expectations and beyond for 50 consecutive weeks. On this occasion, I am publishing a special blog post this coming Monday regarding the lessons I have learnt from the power of consistency and how you can apply these in your life, too. Remember to subscribe to my blog at https://w3coach.com/blog to be the first to receive it in your email inbox.

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria