🧠 MIND GAMES – 7 Fascinating Ways Your Mind Plays Tricks on You
You are invited to join me for a fun, engaging and highly interactive LIVE Wellness Seminar at the Radio Club, Colaba, Mumbai.
Come and experience 7 fascinating Mind Games as we explore:
🔹 How your mind makes assumptions without you realising it
🔹 How words, emotions and triggers influence your responses
🔹 How differently people can experience the same situation
🔹 Practical tools for greater mental and emotional wellbeing
📅 Saturday, 29th August 2026
⏰ 5.30 pm to 7.30 pm
📍 The Radio Room, Radio Club, Colaba, Mumbai
🎟️ FREE for Members & Guests
☕ Followed by light refreshments
If you’re in Mumbai, do join us. Feel free to invite friends, family or colleagues who would enjoy discovering some fascinating ways in which the mind actually works.
👉 Prior registration is required: https://mindgames.w3successacademy.com
Know Your Mind. Change Your Game.
Welcome to Episode #179 of NLP Around You.
🧠 Thoughtful Thought
“Obligation is a choice that has forgotten it was ever made.”
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💬 NLP Quote Corner
“We are our choices.” — Jean-Paul Sartre
⏳ One Minute NLP – The Word That Hides a Choice
Count how many times you said “I have to” yesterday. The 8:00 call. The reply that could not wait. The function you did not want to attend.
In NLP, these are called modal operators of necessity. They are the small words that describe what is compulsory and what is possible: have to, must, should, need to, cannot.
Here is what makes them worth noticing. Most of them are not true.
A modal operator of necessity always points at a consequence, and most of the time that consequence has never been said out loud. “I have to answer immediately” carries an unspoken “or else”. The moment you finish the sentence, you can look at it properly. Sometimes it is real. Very often it dissolves on contact.
Do this today. Pick three sentences where you said “I have to”. Ask each one: what would actually happen if I did not? Then rewrite the ones that survive as “I choose to”, and notice what changes in your shoulders.
Same diary. Different owner.
🔮 Meta Magic – Coaching Chronicles
Who Signed You Up for All of This?
He arrived with his diary already open, before he had even sat down.
Parag runs a mid-sized packaging business. 44, carefully spoken. The kind of man who apologises for taking up your time while handing you a list of everything he is carrying.
“I have no time,” he said. “None.”
I asked him to read me the week.
He read it out like a charge sheet. I have to be on the 8:00 call with the plant. I have to reply to every mail the same day. I have to sit on the building committee. I have to go to my cousin’s engagement in Pune. I have to be at the Rotary meeting on Thursday. I have to. I have to. I have to.
Eleven sentences. Every one of them opened with the same two words.
When he finished, I asked him only one thing.
“What happens if you don’t?”
He looked up.
“Sorry?”
“Take the mail one. You said you have to reply the same day. What happens if you reply the next morning?”
He opened his mouth. Then he closed it again.
Not defensive.
Just thinking.
“Nothing,” he said eventually. “Nothing happens.”
Then he said something far more interesting. “I started that in 2011. I was small then. Nobody knew my name. Same-day replies were how I built it.”
Fifteen years later, he was still keeping a promise he had made to a company that no longer exists.
We went down the rest of the list.
The building committee: “I have to, because nobody else will.” I invited him to say it differently. “I choose to, because I don’t like how the building runs when I’m not in the room.” He laughed at his own sentence. Same Tuesday evening. Entirely different owner.
The engagement in Pune: he wanted to go. He is fond of that cousin. But he had filed it under obligation along with everything else, and the filing had quietly taken the pleasure out of it.
The 8:00 call turned out to be a genuine necessity. So did one other.
Two out of eleven.
The remaining nine were decisions he had made once, some of them years ago, and never opened again. They had hardened into necessity the way a rule hardens into a habit. After long enough, nobody remembers who wrote the rule.
He did not leave with a lighter week. He left with exactly the same week, and one sentence.
“I have to” is a claim. Claims can be checked.
So let me ask you.
Open your own diary for the coming week. Read it out to yourself the way Parag read his.
How many of those are genuine necessities?
And how many are old decisions that you have simply stopped reviewing?
📖 Hook from the Book
“Work is love made visible.” — Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
🎬 Movie Motivation
“Zindagi badi honi chahiye, lambi nahi, Babumoshai.” (Life should be big, not long, dear friend.)
This dialogue from the movie Anand reminds us that a full calendar and a full life are not the same thing, and only one of the two is actually chosen.
📢 Announcement of the Week
If you are in Mumbai on Saturday 29th August, come and spend two hours finding out how your own mind actually works.
MIND GAMES is a live, interactive wellness seminar at the Radio Room, Radio Club, Colaba, from 5.30 pm to 7.30 pm. Seven mind games, a few surprises about your own thinking, and light refreshments afterwards. Free for members and guests.
Seats are limited and prior registration is required.
👉 https://mindgames.w3successacademy.com
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Thoughtfully Yours,
Mehernosh Randeria
Your W3 Coach
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