Welcome to the 89th episode of NLP Around You.

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Thoughtful Thought

“Self-Belief is the anti-dote to self-sabotage.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Focus on where you want to go, not on what you fear.” – Tony Robbins

One Minute NLP – The Law of Requisite Variety

The Law of Requisite Variety states: “The system with the most flexibility controls the system.” In NLP, this means that in any interaction or situation, the person who can adapt the most has the greatest influence.

Think of it as a chess game: the player with more strategies and options is likely to win. In relationships, business, or personal growth, flexibility is your superpower. If a plan doesn’t work, instead of persisting, adapt your approach.

For example, if you are communicating with someone who doesn’t respond to logic, try appealing to their emotions or using visuals. In problem-solving, explore alternative solutions rather than sticking to one rigid path.

This principle encourages creativity, resilience, and an open mind. The more adaptable you are, the more effectively you can navigate challenges and create positive outcomes.

Remember, the power lies in your ability to change and adjust — not in controlling others, but in mastering yourself!

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Meta Magic – Which Pillar Are You Holding?

One bright morning, Raman felt a stirring in his soul and resolved to visit the renowned sage of his city, celebrated for unraveling the mysteries of spiritual freedom and guiding others to do the same. With curiosity crackling in his chest, he approached the sage and inquired, “How can I be truly liberated from life’s endless struggles?”

The sage’s face broke into a serene smile as he rose to his feet, his robes whispering against the floor. Without a word, he motioned for Raman to follow. Leading him to a sturdy, ancient pillar, the sage wrapped his arms tightly around it and clung as if his life depended on it.

Raman’s eyebrows shot up in bafflement. Before he could voice his confusion, the sage let out a theatrical wail, “Help me! Free me from this pillar! Save me from its grasp!”

Raman burst into laughter, his voice echoing through the quiet courtyard. “Respected Guruji,” he exclaimed, “this is absurd! It isn’t the pillar that’s holding you captive—it’s you who refuses to let go of it.”

The sage’s smile deepened, his eyes gleaming with quiet wisdom. “Precisely,” he said. “This pillar represents the problems we face in life. They don’t imprison us — we imprison ourselves by clutching onto them. The key to freedom lies in releasing the pillar and reclaiming your power.”

Now, let me ask you: Are you still holding on to your pillar?


Hook From The Book

“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers. M. Scott Peck” ― Penney Peirce, Frequency: The Power of Personal Vibration

Movie Motivation

“I don’t have dreams, I have goals.” This line quoted by the character Harvey Specter in the popular webseries SUITS reflects the NLP principle of goal-setting and clarity. Dreams are abstract, but goals are specific and actionable. NLP emphasizes setting clear, measurable objectives to turn aspirations into achievements.

This Week’s Winning Post

Connection between Expression and Expansion

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Welcome to the 88th episode of NLP Around You.

Thoughtful Thought

“Every expression is the expansion of your frequency to the Universe. So co-create wisely.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“People who fail focus on what they have to go through. People who succeed focus on what will it be like in the end.” – Tony Robbins

One Minute NLP – The map is not the territory.

“The map is not the territory” is a foundational NLP presupposition reminding us that our mental representations of reality (our maps) are not the same as reality itself (the territory). Each person’s map is shaped by experiences, beliefs, and perceptions, making it unique.

When applied in NLP, this concept fosters understanding and flexibility. For example, when someone disagrees with you, remember they are interpreting the world through their map. Instead of arguing over who’s “right,” explore their perspective.

In practical terms, this presupposition encourages you to question assumptions, improve communication, and embrace diverse viewpoints. By recognizing the difference between perception and reality, you empower yourself to navigate life with more clarity and compassion.

Update your map, but remember — it’s only a guide, not the territory itself!

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Meta Magic – Choose Your Bowl

Sarita often found herself confused about making the right decisions, though she couldn’t quite understand why. Noticing this, her father, Mr. Kumar, decided it was time to impart her a gentle lesson.

One crisp morning, he called her to breakfast. On the table sat two bowls of sweet porridge. One was topped with a dazzling garnish of almonds, while the other appeared plain and unremarkable. Sarita’s lips curled into a small smirk as she reached for the garnished bowl. “This one looks better,” she declared confidently.

As she ate, her confidence wavered. The porridge was delicious, but her eyes darted to her father enjoying the plain bowl. To her surprise, he uncovered four hidden almonds beneath the surface. She stared at her empty bowl and sighed. “Sometimes, what looks better isn’t the best,” her father remarked gently.

The next morning, the scene repeated. This time, Sarita hesitated before choosing. She remembered her father’s words and picked the plain bowl instead. She eagerly dug in, expecting a hidden treasure, but it was empty. Her father chuckled and lifted his bowl—the garnished one—revealing almonds beneath. “Experience teaches,” he said, “but intuition demands we look beyond logic.”

By the third day, Sarita had learned to pause. “Papa,” she said with a small smile, “why don’t you decide?” Her father’s face lit up with approval. He chose the garnished bowl for her and revealed almonds hidden beneath. “You see, my dear,” he said, “life is full of choices, but true richness comes from trust. Humility opens doors where wisdom alone cannot.”

Sarita nodded, the lesson sinking deeper. She knew now that life was more than appearances—or even clever guesses. It was about faith, trust, and a willingness to learn.

So, tell me, if it were you, which bowl would you choose? 

Hook From The Book

“The driven, passionate ones give their best on ordinary days and that is why they are extraordinary.” ― Twinkle Khanna, Mrs Funnybones: She’s just like You and a lot like Me.

Movie Motivation

“You have to let it all go, Neo. Fear, doubt, and disbelief. Free your mind.” This dialogue from the movie The Matrix reflects the importance of eliminating limiting beliefs to unlock one’s full potential. NLP focuses on reprogramming the mind to remove self-imposed limitations.

This Week’s Winning Post

The NLP Circle of Excellence

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Thoughtful Thought

“You cannot stop time, but you can stop wasting time.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“The basic unit of analysis in face-to-face communication is the feedback loop.” – Tony Robbins

One Minute NLP – Everyone has all the resources they need.

In NLP, the presupposition “Everyone has all the resources they need within themselves” is based on the idea that we already possess the tools necessary for personal development, achievement, and change. This belief suggests that with the right mindset and guidance, people can unlock and utilize their internal resources to overcome challenges and succeed. Here’s a closer look at this concept:

1. Innate Potential: NLP posits that we all have inherent abilities, skills, and knowledge that can be cultivated. Even if these resources are dormant, they can be brought to the surface through techniques like reframing, anchoring, and self-reflection.
2. Problem-Solving: Instead of relying on external factors for solutions, NLP encourages us to look within ourselves. Through NLP, people learn to access different mental and emotional states to manage and resolve personal and professional issues.
3. Empowerment Through Self-Belief: By recognizing that we already have what we need, we become more confident and proactive. This presupposition is empowering because it shifts the focus from lack to abundance, enabling people to tackle limitations and achieve goals.

This belief does not imply that external resources are unnecessary but emphasizes that the most crucial resources — inner resilience, creativity, and motivation — are already present.

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Meta Magic – The Farmer’s Treasure

Once upon a time, a poor farmer named Ramesh worked tirelessly on his small piece of land. Despite his hard work, his crops often failed, and he barely made enough to feed his family.

One day, Ramesh stumbled upon an old, dusty map hidden in his attic. The map had an “X” marked on a corner of his farm, and below it were the words: “Dig here to find treasure.” Excited, Ramesh grabbed a spade and started digging where the map directed.

For days, he dug tirelessly but found nothing. However, in the process, he unknowingly turned the soil, removed weeds, and enriched the land. Frustrated, he eventually gave up on finding treasure and planted his usual seeds in the freshly tilled land.

Months later, Ramesh was astonished to see his crops flourishing like never before. He sold his abundant harvest at the market, earning more than he ever had. That night, as he stared at the map, he realized the truth: The real treasure was the improved land he had unknowingly cultivated.

Hook From The Book

“No matter what he does, every person on earth plays a central role in the history of the world. And normally he doesn’t know it.” ― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

Movie Motivation

“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.” This dialogue from the movie Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban encourages reframing and finding positive perspectives even in difficult situations. NLP helps people develop the ability to shift their focus toward empowering thoughts.

This Week’s Winning Post

A meme on today’s NLP presupposition – Everyone has all the resources that they need.

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Thoughtful Thought

“There is a bridge which takes you from chaos to calm and that is known as meditation.”

NLP Quote Corner

“Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.” – Tony Robbins

One Minute NLP – The Power of Reframing

Reframing is an NLP technique that shifts perspective to find new meanings in challenging situations. It involves consciously choosing to see circumstances differently, thus changing how we react emotionally and behaviorally. Imagine being stuck in traffic: frustration is the automatic reaction. By reframing, you might view this time as an opportunity to listen to an audiobook, practice patience, or enjoy a moment of calm.

Reframing allows us to reinterpret “problems” as opportunities for growth, giving us greater emotional flexibility and control. By practicing reframing, you create a mindset that can adapt and find value even in the most unexpected scenarios, enhancing resilience and positivity.

Reframe your perspective, and watch your world change!

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Meta Magic – Are You Chasing The Golden Fruit?

A father and son were enjoying a delightful day in the city, relishing their connection and shared laughter. As they wandered, they noticed a crowd gathered around a pond, all fixated on a shimmering golden fruit floating in its center. The father’s eyes gleamed with dreams of fortune and lasting happiness, convinced that possessing this fruit would bring them all they’d ever wanted.

“Son, go and get that golden fruit! This could be our path to everything we desire,” he said eagerly.

The son, feeling uncertain, responded, “Dad, I’m not sure it’s real…” Yet before he could finish, his father, driven by blind ambition, urged him onward, even pushing him into the water.

Struggling through the murky pond, the boy quickly realized it was filled with thick, clinging mud that pulled him down with every step. Despite his struggle and calls for help, his father ignored him, too focused on the “prize.” Exhausted, the boy eventually sank beneath the surface, losing his life in the pursuit of an illusion.

A wise sage who had been observing approached the father, now stricken with grief by the pond. “Did you truly believe there was a golden fruit in the water?” the sage asked gently. Pointing to a nearby tree, he revealed a real golden fruit hanging above. The pond’s fruit had been nothing but a reflection, an illusion of riches where none existed.

My question to you is: Are you pursuing reflections of happiness that others show you, or do you step back to see the reality of what’s around you before diving in?

Hook From The Book

“Man can only receive what he sees himself receiving.” ― Florence Scovel Shinn, The Game of Life and How To Play It.

Movie Motivation

“Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies.” This dialogue from the movie The Shawshank Redemption reinforces the power of hope and positive expectations, essential in NLP for maintaining a resourceful mindset.

This Week’s Winning Post

What is Acceptance?

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Thoughtful Thought

“Self-expression leads to self-expansion”

NLP Quote Corner

“Sometimes people say – One day you are going to look back at this and laugh. My question is – Why wait?” – Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP – NLP in Relationships

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) offers unique techniques to strengthen and deepen relationships by helping individuals understand and communicate with each other more effectively. Key NLP tools for relationships include:

1. Rapport Building: By mirroring body language, tone, and language patterns, NLP helps create a subconscious sense of connection and trust, essential in building a positive relationship foundation.
2. Perceptual Positioning: NLP encourages viewing situations from three perspectives — yours, the other person’s, and an external viewpoint (like a fly on the wall). This approach fosters empathy, helping partners understand each other’s experiences and find common ground.
3. State Management: Emotions play a huge role in relationships. NLP techniques, like anchoring, can help maintain calm and positive emotions even during challenging conversations, allowing for clearer, more constructive communication.
4. Reframing Conflict: NLP teaches reframing techniques to view conflicts as opportunities for growth, making it easier to resolve issues with understanding and patience.

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Meta Magic – Scarcity or Abundance?

Once upon a time, there was a prosperous king who had amassed immense wealth. His kingdom was renowned for its riches, and no one within its borders was left wanting. Yet, despite his abundance, the king was troubled by a persistent worry: he feared his wealth might eventually run out, leaving his descendants impoverished.

Seeking reassurance, the king summoned a wise man known for his deep insight. The wise man calculated the king’s fortune, taking into account the kingdom’s prosperity and the stability of its resources. After much deliberation, he informed the king that his wealth was so vast it would easily support 43 generations of his descendants.

Rather than finding solace in this, the king became even more anxious. He pondered aloud, “But what will happen to the 44th generation?”

My question to you is: In which areas of your life, does your mind perceive scarcity inspite of being in abundance?

Hook From The Book

“The soul purpose of money is to express appreciation.” ― Money Loves Speed, Joe Vitale

Movie Motivation

“Don’t let the past blackmail your present to ruin a beautiful future” This dialogue from the movie Dear Zindagi reminds us about living in the present moment.

This Week’s Winning Post

Light Up Your Life This Diwali With NLP

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Thoughtful Thought

“Confusion is the wake up call to clean up the mind for clarity.”

NLP Quote Corner

“If you don’t take responsibility of programming yourself, someone else will.” – Paul McKenna

One Minute NLP – Emotional Intelligence with NLP

Emotional Intelligence (EI) is about recognizing, managing, and influencing emotions — both your own and others’. NLP techniques align perfectly with EI by offering practical tools to enhance emotional awareness and control.

1. Anchoring: Create positive emotional triggers. Just as a song can uplift your mood, anchoring lets you access empowering states, like calmness or confidence, on demand.

2. Reframing: Shift your perspective. NLP helps reframe situations to find hidden positives, reducing negative emotions and fostering resilience.

3. Calibration: Pay attention to micro-expressions and body language to understand others’ emotions more accurately. This sharpens empathy — a core EI skill.

4. State Management: NLP teaches that you control your state through breath, posture, and internal dialogue, helping you stay composed under pressure.

By integrating NLP tools into your emotional toolkit, you strengthen your EI — allowing for better relationships, decision-making, and self-mastery.

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Meta Magic – Growth isn’t Always Visible

In a small village nestled between mountains, a farmer decided to plant a Chinese bamboo seed. Every morning, without fail, he watered the patch of earth where the seed lay. Day after day, he tended the soil, shielding it from the sun’s scorching heat and the heavy rains. Weeks passed, and not even a hint of green sprouted from the ground.

His neighbours scoffed, “Why waste your time on a seed that will never grow?” But the farmer smiled quietly and continued. He knew something they didn’t.

Months turned into a year, and still, there was no sign of life. The farmer’s patience was tested, but his belief never wavered. Each morning, he returned, watering the empty patch, nurturing it with faith and care.

By the second year, still nothing. The third, the fourth — no change. People in the village whispered behind his back, calling him foolish. But the farmer stayed calm, tending to the soil without complaint.

Then, something miraculous happened. In the fifth year, a small green shoot finally emerged from the earth. Within just six weeks, the bamboo grew to an astonishing 90 feet tall. The villagers gasped in disbelief. “How did it grow so fast?” they asked.

The farmer smiled and said, “The bamboo wasn’t growing only when you could see it. For five years, it was building a foundation — deep roots to support the growth it was destined for.”

The bamboo tree taught the villagers a profound truth: growth isn’t always visible, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t happening. Sometimes, the most important progress happens beneath the surface, preparing us for the moments when we rise beyond what anyone thought possible.

And so, the farmer walked away quietly, knowing that the greatest things in life take time — and faith.

Hook From The Book

“When all you want is a person’s body and you don’t really want their mind, heart or spirit, you have reduced a person to a thing.” ― Stephen R. Covey, The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness

Movie Motivation

“Your focus determines your reality.” This dialogue from the movie Star Wars: The Phantom Menace highlights the NLP principle of focused attention. Where attention goes, energy flows, making it important to focus on positive outcomes and goals.

This Week’s Winning Post

5 Laws of Life

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