How do you Tend to your Weeping Child?
Thoughtful Thought
“Calmness is the journey. You are the destination.”
NLP Quote Corner
“None can destroy iron, but its own rust can. Likewise, none can destroy a person, but their own mindset can.” – Sir Ratan Tata
One Minute NLP – The Four Stages of Learning
The journey to mastering any skill follows four stages of learning:
1. Unconscious Incompetence:
You don’t know what you don’t know. At this stage, you are unaware of your gaps.
2. Conscious Incompetence:
Now you know what you don’t know! Awareness kicks in, and learning begins, but mistakes are frequent.
3. Conscious Competence:
You are getting better, but you still need to focus. Performing the skill requires concentration and effort.
4. Unconscious Competence:
Mastery achieved! The skill becomes second nature — like driving without thinking about every move.
NLP emphasizes that patience and practice are key to progressing through these stages. Recognize which stage you are in, and know that growth happens one step at a time. With awareness, you can push through the discomfort of learning and reach mastery.
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Meta Magic – How do you Tend To your Weeping Child?
“How do you stay so calm and joyful? You have three kids and two sets of parents to care for, yet you are always at peace,” Mamta asked her old friend, Karishma.
It was a meaningful moment for Mamta, not because of any special occasion, but because she had finally mustered the courage to ask Karishma how she maintained her serenity. Both women had grown up together in typical middle-class Indian families, where women were taught to put others before themselves. Though marriage had placed them miles apart, their bond remained as strong as ever.
Mamta was struggling to adjust to life with her in-laws. The weight of her responsibilities often left her overwhelmed, and she found herself constantly complaining. Meanwhile, Karishma, despite her own challenges, appeared unruffled and radiated an effortless joy.
Unable to contain her curiosity any longer, Mamta finally asked, “What’s your secret?”
Karishma smiled gently, cracking open a nut. “I take care of my subconscious. I listen to it,” she said casually.
Mamta blinked, puzzled. “What does that even mean? Are you talking about meditation? I barely have time to breathe, let alone do something elaborate like that!”
Karishma chuckled softly. “Let me explain it this way — imagine you are home alone with your baby, and there’s no one to help. How would you manage everything?”
Mamta thought for a moment. “I’d put the baby in the cradle, keep an eye on him, and attend to him if he cried,” she replied.
Karishma nodded. “Exactly. That’s what I do with the child inside me. When my heart cries, I pause and give it the care it needs. We are taught how to nurture our children, but no one teaches us how to nurture ourselves.”
Mamta was taken aback. “So, you tend to your inner child when it weeps?”
Karishma smiled warmly. “Yes. Just as you would with your own child — gently, patiently, and with love.”
Hook From The Book
“Moonlight floods the whole sky from horizon to horizon; How much it can fill your room depends on its windows.” ― Rumi, The Essential Rumi
Movie Motivation
“What we do in life echoes in eternity.” This dialogue from the movie Gladiator aligns with the NLP principle of personal responsibility. Every choice and action contributes to shaping future outcomes and lasting impact, emphasizing intentional behaviour.
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Thoughtfully yours,
Mehernosh Randeria
NLP Master Trainer and Coach
