Welcome to Episode #102 of your favourite newsletter NLP Around You.

🧠 Thoughtful Thought

“Timeless decisions are outcomes of giving time some time.” — Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

💬 NLP Quote Corner

“It is not what we get. But who we become, what we contribute… that gives meaning to our lives” — Tony Robbins

⏳ One Minute NLP

Overcoming Negative Self-Talk

The way you speak to yourself shapes your reality. If your inner dialogue is full of doubt and criticism, it can hold you back. NLP teaches that you can change these negative patterns by shifting your language and focus.

Next time you catch yourself thinking, “I’m not good enough,” stop and reframe it. Ask, “What if I am capable?” or “What can I learn from this?” Change the tone of your inner voice—imagine it softer, friendlier, or even playful. Would you let a close friend talk to themselves that way? If not, why accept it for yourself?

With practice, you can replace negative self-talk with empowering thoughts. The more you do this, the more your confidence and self-belief grow. Your words matter—make sure the ones you tell yourself are helping you, not holding you back.

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🔮 Meta Magic

Are You Ready to Change the Tune?

“I really want to wake up early so I can have a great morning routine, but I just can’t seem to sleep on time.” Rahul sighed, his words echoing through the café for the third weekend in a row.

By the fifth meet-up, his frustration hadn’t changed—only now, it seemed his entire conversation revolved around this one problem.

Raveena, always eager to help, hatched a plan. Each time Rahul complained, she responded with the same joke, delivered in the same tone, with the same exaggerated expressions.

By the fourth time, Rahul groaned. “Raveena, come on. How many times do you expect us to laugh at the same joke?” His exasperation was unmistakable.

“Exactly, Rahul,” she said, leaning forward with a knowing smile. “If you can’t laugh at the same joke every time, how can you keep whining about the same problem without doing anything to change it?”

Often, we become prisoners of our own complaints, repeating them like a broken record, trapped in a loop of helplessness. The real question is — are you just playing the same song, or are you ready to change the tune?

📖 Hook from the Book

“Your purpose in life does not have to be related to what you do for work.” — Sahil Bloom, 5 Types of Wealth

🎬 Movie Motivation

“The world is yours.” This dialogue from the movie Scarface aligns with NLP’s focus on self-empowerment and reframing. By shifting your internal narrative to one of possibility, you open yourself up to a world of opportunities and success.

🏆 Winning Post of the Week

How Heena transformed her life with NLP

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Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Master Trainer and Coach

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🧠 Thoughtful Thought

“Knowing is not doing, but doing can get you to knowing.” — Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

💬 NLP Quote Corner

“I have learned silence from the talkative, toleration from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind; yet strange, I am ungrateful to these teachers.” — Kahlil Gibran

⏳ One Minute NLP

Self-Love

Self love is all about recognising your own value and treating yourself with kindness and understanding. It starts with the way you speak to yourself—replacing harsh self-criticism with gentle, encouraging words. Imagine looking in the mirror and acknowledging not just your strengths, but also the qualities that make you uniquely you. In NLP, you can reprogram your inner dialogue through techniques like visualisation and anchoring. Picture a moment when you felt truly proud and content, and then anchor that feeling with a simple gesture or phrase. Over time, this practice helps you develop a positive mindset that carries you through challenges. Remember, self love isn’t selfish; it’s essential for a balanced, fulfilling life. When you nurture yourself, you’re better equipped to handle life’s ups and downs and share your best self with others.

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🔮 Meta Magic

What is Inside You?

In a grand estate surrounded by lush gardens, a wealthy merchant named Rajan summoned his loyal servant, Anil. Rajan had all the wealth one could ask for, yet he rarely spared a thought for those who served him.

That evening, he handed Anil a woven basket filled with half-rotten fruits—bruised apples, overripe bananas, and a faint sour smell hanging in the air.

“Here, take this,” Rajan said, waving his hand dismissively. “Do whatever you want with it.”

Anil, a humble man with kind eyes, took the basket with a grateful nod. “Thank you, master,” he said sincerely, despite knowing the fruits were barely edible. Without a hint of disappointment, he carried them away.

That night, Anil carefully sorted through the basket. He picked out the few salvageable pieces and shared them with the other servants, making sure nothing went to waste. Then, he scrubbed the basket clean, removing every stain of decay.

The next morning, he walked into the garden, where jasmine, marigolds, and roses bloomed in vibrant colors. He handpicked the freshest, most fragrant flowers and arranged them beautifully in the same basket. The sweet scent of fresh petals replaced the sourness of the previous day.

With a warm smile, Anil returned the basket to Rajan. “Master, this is for you,” he said, holding it out with both hands.

Rajan frowned, puzzled. “Why have you returned the basket filled with fresh flowers when I gave you half-rotten fruit?”

Anil bowed his head slightly, his voice calm yet profound. “Sir, I can only give you what’s inside me,” he said gently. “We can only serve others with what we are filled with.”

So, the question is — what’s inside you?

📖 Hook from the Book

“The key to meaningful work is in the decision to keep returning to the efforts you find important. Not in getting everything right every time.” — Cal Newport, Slow Productivity: The Lost Art of Accomplishment Without Burnout

🎬 Movie Motivation

“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer.” This dialogue from the movie Dune resonates with NLP techniques aimed at overcoming emotional barriers. By acknowledging fear yet not allowing it to dominate your thoughts, you maintain clarity and control over your mental state.

🏆 Winning Post of the Week

Sharing the Experiences from Conflict to Consensus

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Mehernosh Randeria

India’s Only W3 Coach and NLP Master Trainer

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🧠 Thoughtful Thought

“When you think you don’t have a choice, you are making a choice of not having a choice.” — Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

💬 NLP Quote Corner

“If you go through the world looking for excellence, you will find excellence. If you go through the world looking for problems, you will find problems. Or as the Arabic saying puts it, “What a piece of bread looks like depends on whether you are hungry or not”” — Joseph O’Connor

⏳ One Minute NLP

Behavioural Flexibility

Behavioural flexibility is all about adapting your actions and responses to fit any situation you encounter. In NLP, it’s seen as a key to success because it means you’re not stuck in one rigid way of thinking or reacting. When things don’t go as planned, a flexible mindset lets you change tactics, try a different approach, and ultimately find a solution that works. Think of it as being the driver of your own life — if one route is blocked, you can quickly choose an alternative path. This quality not only helps you overcome obstacles but also builds stronger connections with others, as you become more open to understanding different perspectives. By embracing behavioural flexibility, you’re continually learning and growing, turning challenges into opportunities and making your life more resilient and effective.

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🔮 Meta Magic

Words Can Give You Life

In the quiet of a hospital room, two men, Ramakant and Harish, became friends without ever saying much. Ramakant was too weak to move, battling terminal cancer. He longed for his pain to end. Harish, though able to walk around, never spoke about his own illness.

Every day, Harish described the world outside their window in the most beautiful way.
“The sky is glowing with a rainbow,” he’d say. “Children are playing and laughing, an elderly couple is meditating in the sun, and vendors are selling fresh vegetables.”

His words became Ramakant’s only escape. He couldn’t see any of it, but he felt it through Harish’s stories. For a few moments, he forgot his pain.

Then, one morning, Ramakant woke up to an unbearable silence—Harish’s bed was empty. The nurse’s words shattered him: “He passed away last night.”

Grief hit him hard. The stories, the laughter, the colours—everything was gone. The room felt darker, lonelier.

With great effort, Ramakant gathered his strength and dragged himself toward the window. But when he looked outside, a shock ran through him.

There was no garden. No sky. No bustling street. Just a black wall.

His heart pounded with anger. “Why did you block my view?” he shouted at the nurse.

She looked at him gently and said, “This wall has been here for years.”

Tears filled his eyes. Harish had given him something precious—not just stories, but hope. Even when there was nothing, Harish had created a world full of life for him.

His words had been a gift, turning emptiness into beauty.

Your words can either be tonic for your life, or they can make your life toxic. 

My question to you is – Which type of words are you using – Tonic or Toxic?

📖 Hook from the Book

“We accept the love we think we deserve.” — Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower

🎬 Movie Motivation

“Don’t let anyone ever make you feel like you don’t deserve what you want.” — The Pursuit of Happyness

In NLP, we often talk about self-worth and state management. The way you perceive yourself shapes your actions and results. If you believe you are deserving, your unconscious mind will find ways to make it happen.

🏆 Winning Post of the Week

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Mehernosh Randeria

India’s Only W3 Coach and NLP Master Trainer

Thoughtful Thought

“Don’t let the clock’s tick-tock decide the tick-tick of your heart’s passion.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Some of you say, ‘Joy is greater than sorrow,’ and others say, ‘Nay, sorrow is the greater.’ But I say unto you, they are inseparable. Together they come, and when one sits alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.” – Kahlil Gibran

One Minute NLP – Cause Mode vs Effect Mode

Imagine two ways of reacting to life’s challenges. In Effect Mode, you feel like a passenger — blaming circumstances for your emotions and outcomes. You might think, “This situation is making me feel awful,” and let external events dictate how you feel. On the other hand, Cause Mode is about being the driver of your own life. Here, you recognise that your reactions are your own choice. When faced with a setback, instead of thinking, “I’m a victim of circumstance,” you ask, “What can I do to change this?” By shifting into Cause Mode, you take responsibility for your emotions and actions. This empowers you to create positive changes and steer your life towards success, no matter what comes your way. Embracing Cause Mode means you stop reacting passively and start actively shaping your experiences—turning challenges into opportunities for growth.

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Meta Magic – Heaven or Hell?

Two mighty tigers prowled through the dense jungle, their voices clashing in a heated debate. One insisted that Heaven lay above, shimmering beyond the clouds, while the other growled that Hell festered below, deep within the earth. Both were unwavering in their beliefs, their tempers flaring like wildfire.

Amid their argument, they stumbled upon a serene monastery, where golden bells chimed softly in the breeze. Seeking clarity, they approached a monk, hoping he would settle their dispute.

The monk listened, his gaze as calm as a still lake. Then, with a gentle smile, he said, “You are both mistaken. Heaven and Hell are not distant realms in the sky or buried beneath the soil. They reside within your own minds.”

The tigers blinked, perplexed.

“When anger consumes your heart, you experience Hell — restless, burning, filled with suffering. But when kindness and peace fill your soul, that, my friends, is Heaven.”

A hush fell between them. Realization dawned in their golden eyes. Their rigid bodies softened, and with a quiet exhale, they forgave each other, their quarrel dissolving like mist at dawn.

The monk watched them with a knowing gaze. “And now,” he said, “your minds rest in Heaven.”

My question to you—Heaven or Hell, which pattern do you often choose?

Hook from the Book

“The proven truth about creativity: it’s the result of desire—the desire to find a new truth, solve an old problem, or serve someone else.” Seth Godin, The Practice: Shipping Creative Work

Movie Motivation

“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer.” This dialogue from the movie Dune resonates with NLP techniques aimed at overcoming emotional barriers. By acknowledging fear yet not allowing it to dominate your thoughts, you maintain clarity and control over your mental state.

Winning Post of the Week

Conflict or Consensus – The Choice is Yours

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Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Master Trainer and W3 Coach

Thoughtful Thought

“The Good News is that Mind is a Meaning Making Machine. The Bad News is that Mind is a Meaning Making Machine.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Change is never a matter of ability, but a matter of drive/reason.” – Tony Robbins

One Minute NLP – Values: Your Inner Compass

Values are like the GPS of your life – they guide your decisions, shape your behaviours, and define what truly matters to you. In NLP, we see values as the emotional drivers behind everything you do. Whether it’s freedom, connection, growth, or success, your values influence your priorities and how you spend your time.

When your actions align with your values, you feel fulfilled. But when there’s a mismatch, frustration and conflict arise. For example, if you deeply value family but spend most of your time at work, you might feel unbalanced.

The key is clarity. Ask yourself, “What’s most important to me?” Write down your top values and rank them. Then reflect: Are your current choices honouring these values?

When you align your life with your values, decisions become easier, and life feels more purposeful. Remember, your values aren’t set in stone—they evolve as you grow. Stay curious about them, and let them guide you towards a life that feels truly meaningful.

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Meta Magic – Who Do You Think You Are?

Mr. Kuber, a man wrapped in wealth and power, was accustomed to others bending to his influence. However, the whispers of Swami Dayanand’s quiet charisma and devoted followers ignited a flicker of envy within him. Driven by curiosity and pride, Kuber decided to meet the enigmatic sage.

Beneath the shade of a sprawling tree, Swami sat cross-legged on a simple mattress, radiating calm as a crowd of seekers surrounded him. The air hummed with tranquility – a stark contrast to Kuber’s restless ego. He waited, or at least tried to, until impatience got the better of him. Striding forward, he interrupted sharply, “Do you know who I am?”

Unperturbed, Swami folded his hands with grace. “Sir, whoever you may be, I must first attend to the one before me. Please wait.”

Kuber’s temper flared, his anger igniting like dry leaves in a blaze. “Do you even realize what I think of you?” he demanded.

Swami’s voice remained as steady as a flowing stream. “What you think of me is yours to hold. It does not alter my purpose to serve equally.”

The sage’s words doused Kuber’s fiery outburst, leaving him simmering. “You fraud,” Kuber bellowed. “You’re fooling these people with your honey-coated lies!”

Swami responded with a gentle smile, his eyes deep wells of compassion. “That is your perspective, sir, and I respect it. You are whole and complete, just as you are.”

Misinterpreting the sage’s humility as flattery, Kuber returned home, his pride falsely inflated. Over dinner, he narrated the encounter to his father, a wise ex-politician.

“Son,” his father said, shaking his head, “Swami did not praise you. He simply reflected his essence while you revealed yours. We see the world not as it is, but as we are. If you wish to change the world, begin by changing within.”

Kuber fell silent, the truth landing like a pebble sending ripples through the still waters of his soul.

Hook From The Book

“The greatest illusion,” said the mole, “is that life should be perfect.” ― Charlie Mackesy, The Boy, the Mole, The Fox and The Horse

Movie Motivation

“Mann ka ho toh accha, aur agar mann ka na ho toh zyada accha.” Translated to “If things go your way, it’s good. If they don’t, it’s even better.” This line from the movie Rockstar reminds us to reframe challenges as opportunities for better things, an essential NLP principle.

This Week’s Winning Post

8 Possibilities when you say “I am Tired”

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Thoughtful Thought

“Being in sales is not about selling your soul; it is about putting your soul in what you sell.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still ahead of those who are not even trying.” – Tony Robbins

One Minute NLP – Beliefs: The Blueprint of Your Reality

Your beliefs shape your world. Think of them as the lenses through which you view life. Whether you believe “I can’t” or “I’m unstoppable,” you’re likely to prove yourself right. That’s the power of beliefs—they act as self-fulfilling prophecies.

In NLP, we understand that beliefs are not fixed; they’re patterns of thought you’ve reinforced over time. The exciting part? You can change them. If a belief is holding you back, challenge it. Ask yourself, “Is this belief true?” and, more importantly, “Is it serving me?” Replace limiting beliefs with empowering ones.

For instance, shift “I’ll never succeed” to “Every step I take brings me closer to success.” As you repeat and act on this new belief, it becomes your reality. Beliefs aren’t facts—they’re choices. Choose the ones that empower you.

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Meta Magic – The Real Picture of Peace

John cherished his morning routine — climbing a mountain in Manali, his beloved city. It wasn’t just cardio; it was a communion with nature.

One day, his 8-year-old son Jacob begged to join him. John hesitated, unsure about Jacob’s safety, but the boy’s persistence wore him down.

As they ascended, the fresh pine-scented air filled their lungs, and the rustle of leaves accompanied their steps. A boulder blocked their path. John, an experienced climber, sidestepped it with ease, but Jacob, lost in awe of the mountain’s beauty, stumbled and fell. His sharp cry echoed across the peaks, startling him.

“Who are you?” Jacob yelled into the vastness, anger lacing his voice. The question boomed back, mocking him.

“Shut up, you idiot! I hate you!” he shouted, his frustration mounting. The mountains only hurled his words back louder.

John, watching from a distance, approached his son, who now stood with slumped shoulders. “Dad, who is this invisible bully? He’s taunting me! I want to make him stop,” Jacob complained.

John knelt beside him, a knowing smile on his face. “Watch this,” he said softly. Turning to the peaks, he called out, “I love you!”

The mountains responded in kind, their echo tender and warm. Jacob’s confusion deepened. “Why did it answer you with kindness?”

John placed a hand on his son’s shoulder. “That’s the mountain’s echo. It reflects what you give it. Life works the same way. Speak with love, and love will find you. Speak with anger, and it’ll follow you back.”

My question- What echo are you creating in your life?

Hook From The Book

“There’s little point in killing an idea by saying it might fail. Any idea might fail. If you’re doing anything worthwhile at all, you’ll suffer a dozen failures. Start failing so you can start succeeding.” ― Harry Beckwith, Selling the Invisible: A Field Guide to Modern Marketing

Movie Motivation

“It’s only after we’ve lost everything that we’re free to do anything.” This line from the movie Fight Club reflects letting go of attachments to achieve freedom and clarity. NLP emphasizes the importance of mental flexibility and overcoming fears to unlock potential.

This Week’s Winning Post

Revive Yourself with Rest

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