“Reading a book and living a book are two different experiences.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“I want to love you without clutching, appreciate you without judging, join you without invading, invite you without demanding, leave you without guilt, criticize you without blaming, and help you without insulting. If I can have the same from you, then we can truly meet and enrich each other.” – Virginia Satir

One Minute NLP – Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs can hold us back from reaching our full potential, but NLP offers effective techniques to overcome them.

Identify Your Limiting Beliefs: First, recognize the beliefs that are restricting your growth or causing self-doubt. These beliefs often start with phrases like “I can’t,” “I’m not good enough,” or “It’s too difficult.”

Challenge Your Beliefs: Question the validity of these beliefs. Are they based on facts or assumptions? Often, they stem from past experiences or fear of failure.

Reframe Your Beliefs: Use NLP techniques to reframe limiting beliefs into empowering ones. For example, replace “I can’t do this” with “I haven’t mastered this yet, but I’m learning and improving every day.”

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Meta Magic – The 3 Questions

“Oh, Wise Hermit! I have come to you seeking answers to these three questions:

1. What is the right time to do anything?

2. Who should be the most important person?

3. What is the right task to do?

Can you please help me?”

The King humbly asked the Hermit, but the Hermit silently kept digging the ground in the forest. The King determined to get the answers, offered to help the Hermit. After an hour of digging, the King asked the questions again. The Hermit got up and asked the King to hand the tool back, but the King kept digging. The Sun began to sink down behind the trees, and it was dusk already.

Just then, a wounded farmer came running towards them, bleeding from his stomach. The King and the Hermit quickly helped him. The King cleaned and bandaged the wound. Once the bleeding stopped, the man revealed that he had come to kill the King as he knew he was alone in the forest. The King had declared a wrong verdict a year ago, which caused the farmer’s son to commit suicide as he was unable to pay the fine. The revenge got the better of the farmer, and he thought it was the right time to kill the King. But now that the King had helped in saving his life, he promised to serve him forever.

Before leaving, the King reminded the Hermit for the answers.

“You have already got the answers, my dear King. Haven’t you?” The Hermit replied. The King looked at him with confusion and curiosity.

“When you saw me struggling to dig the ground, it was the right time for you to help me. I was the most important person then, and helping me with the digging was the right task. Then came this wounded man. It was the right time for him to kill you, but it was also your right time to settle the scores with your good karma, which you did. That wounded man was the most important person for you then, and helping him heal was the right task for you.” The Hermit waited to let it all sink in for the King.

“So you mean there is no right time, no right person, no right task, and it keeps changing from moment to moment?” The King’s eyes got wider in surprise.

“No. The right time is always NOW. The most important person is the person you are with. The right task is to do good to that person.” The Hermit smiled.

Hook From The Book

Movie Motivation

“Kundali mile na mile, vichaaro ka milna bahot zaroori hai. Kya hai ki, agar vichaar nahi mila pura vyavahik jeevan ka bhand ho jata hai” (translated to “Whether the horoscope matches or not, the matching of thoughts is very important. If the thoughts don’t match, the married life becomes a disaster.”) This dialogue from the webseries Panchayat talks about the compatibility of thoughts and beliefs in married couples.

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Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Master Trainer and Coach

“Your life is not in your hands; it is in your habits.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“It is not a matter of ends justifying the means; but of the creation of new means and new ends.” – Joseph O’Connor

One Minute NLP – Break Bad Habits with the Swish Pattern

Ever wished you could effortlessly break a bad habit or develop a new, positive one? NLP offers a powerful technique called the Swish Pattern that can help you do just that.

First, identify the trigger that starts the unwanted behavior. Visualize yourself engaging in the bad habit. Then, create a mental image of yourself doing the desired behavior instead. Make this positive image bright and compelling.

Now, replace the negative image with the positive one swiftly in your mind. Repeat this process several times until the positive image feels more natural and dominant.

The Swish Pattern helps your brain associate the old trigger with the new, positive behavior, making it easier to break old habits and adopt new ones. It’s a quick and effective way to create lasting change.

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Meta Magic – Are you making your well unwell?

“You are a filthy, obnoxious well! Your water made my children ill. It’s impure and useless. Your existence is undesirable.” Mr. Ramakant’s harsh words deeply wounded the heart of the only Well in the village. The Well, which had served the villagers faithfully for years, providing water for drinking and other needs, was deeply hurt by these accusations. Mr. Ramakant’s comment left the Well feeling disheartened, dejected, and shocked by the unexpected occurrence of his children’s illness.

From that day on, the Well decided to stop providing water to anyone in the village. The following day, it refused to give water to the villagers, leaving the entire community perplexed. News of the Well’s decision spread quickly, and the villagers grew anxious about how they would manage without it.

Determined to find a solution, a young villager named Yusuf ventured beyond the village boundaries and discovered a nearby lake. He returned to the village with the good news, and the villagers rejoiced at having found a new source of water.

The Well observed the villagers passing by, and did not bother to reconsider its decision. Within a week, the Well’s water stagnated, becoming murkier by the day. As it ceased to share its water with the villagers, the Well itself became unwell.

My question to you is: When it comes to sharing your knowledge and resources with the world, are you making your well unwell?

Story credit: Reel by Purvi Rathod, NLP Trainer and Mindfulness Coach

Hook From The Book

“It’s not happy people who are grateful, it’s grateful people who are happy” ― Clare Pooley, The Authenticity Project

Movie Motivation

“Sawal ye nahi ke aap ki ankhon ke samne kya hai, sawal ye hai ke aap dekh kya rahe ho” (translated to “The question is not what is in front of your eyes, the question is what are you seeing.”) This dialogue from the movie Dhrishyam 2 reminds us of our filters of deletion, generalisation and distortion, due to which we selectively see what we want to see, rather than what is there in front of our eyes.

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Mehernosh Randeria

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“The future belongs to those who belong to the present.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“Beliefs: Those things we hold true despite evidence to the contrary.” – Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP – Submodalities

Have you ever noticed how vividly you can recall certain memories, while others seem fuzzy? In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), these differences in how we experience our thoughts and memories are called submodalities.

Submodalities are the finer details of our sensory experiences. They determine how we see, hear, and feel things in our minds. For instance, think about a happy memory. Is it bright or dim? Is it a still image or a movie? Are the sounds loud or quiet? These are all submodalities.

Why do submodalities matter? Because they influence how we feel about our experiences. By changing submodalities, we can alter our emotional responses. For example, if a negative memory feels overwhelming, you can make the image smaller and less vivid in your mind to reduce its impact. Similarly, enhancing the submodalities of positive memories can make them feel even more uplifting.

One practical NLP exercise involves taking a troubling thought and changing its submodalities. Imagine a fear-inducing situation as a small, black-and-white image that’s far away from you. Notice how this simple change can lessen its emotional grip. Conversely, you can take a positive memory and make it larger, brighter, and more colorful to amplify the good feelings associated with it.

Understanding and manipulating submodalities give you greater control over your mental and emotional state. It’s a powerful way to enhance well-being, boost confidence, and reduce stress.

Next time you find yourself grappling with a strong emotion, play around with the submodalities. You might find that you have more control over your inner world than you thought!

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Meta Magic – Are you ready to plug the holes?

Joseph was hired by a boatman to paint his boat. When it was time for payment, the boat owner handed Joseph a cheque for 20 times the original wages for painting a boat.

“Eh! Pardon me, but I think you’ve mistakenly added too many zeroes. I…I just painted your boat,” Joseph said, grinning as he returned the cheque to the owner for correction.

“I know. But you’ve also saved my children’s lives,” the owner replied, his eyes moist as he handed the cheque back to Joseph. Now, Joseph was both intrigued and puzzled.

“There was a hole in the boat, and I forgot to ask you to repair it. Thankfully, you did it anyway. When I was out, the children took the boat out, and when I found out, my heart raced in fear. But when I got home, I found them back safely from their boat ride. I went to check, and there was no hole. So, this amount is nothing compared to what you’ve done by repairing that hole.”

My question to you is: Are you ready to plug the holes?

Hook From The Book

“What makes the desert beautiful is that somewhere it hides a well.” ― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince

Movie Motivation

“Koi dhanda chota nahi hota, aur dhande se bada koi dharam nahi hota” (translated to “No business is insignificant and no religion is greater than business.”) This dialogue from the movie Raees is self-explanatory. How do you relate to this dialogue? Please share your comments in reply here.

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Thoughtfully yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Master Trainer and Coach

“Introspection is the missing piece in the jigsaw of peace.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“If you say to yourself ‘It’s difficult to get up in the morning’, ‘It’s hard to cease smoking’, then you are already using hypnotic suggestions on yourself.” – Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP – Reframing: Turning Problems into Opportunities

Have you ever wished you could see your challenges in a more positive light? Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) offers a powerful tool called reframing that can help you do just that.

Reframing is about changing the way you perceive a situation to alter its meaning and impact. It’s like looking at a picture in a different frame; the picture stays the same, but the way you see it changes. This simple shift in perspective can transform a problem into an opportunity.

For example, imagine you’re feeling nervous about giving a presentation. Instead of seeing it as a nerve-wracking ordeal, you can reframe it as an exciting chance to share your ideas and showcase your skills. By shifting your focus from fear to opportunity, you can change your emotional response and approach the situation with more confidence.

Another common use of reframing in NLP is dealing with negative self-talk. If you catch yourself thinking, “I’m terrible at this,” you can reframe it to, “I’m learning and improving every day.” This positive twist helps cultivate a growth mindset and boosts your motivation.

Reframing can be applied to almost any situation, whether it’s personal challenges, work-related stress, or even conflicts with others. By consciously choosing a new frame, you can change your reactions and outcomes, making life’s hurdles seem more like stepping stones.

Next time you face a difficult situation, try to reframe it. You might be surprised at how this simple NLP technique can turn your problems into opportunities for growth and success.

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Meta Magic – What type of gardener are you?

Shikha and Sayali were best friends. Their bonding began with their shared love for gardening. Each had their own garden, well-cultivated in their respective homes.

Over time, Shikha noticed a difference. Her garden had more weeds, while Sayali’s was lush and flourishing.

Shikha had tried it all: fertilizers, good shades for plants, watering regularly, and even playing music for plants. However, all she saw was the growth of weeds, which outshined the development of her plants. She decided to take advice from Sayali.

“What’s the secret of your lush green garden, Sayali? Look at mine. There are weeds all over.” Shikha exhaled in exasperation.

“Well, I welcome weeds.” Sayali smiled with a mystic look. Shikha looked puzzled.

“The only secret is that I welcome weeds because they make me create more space for plants. I keep uprooting weeds and keep planting new plants.” Sayali smiled while shrugging simply.

Our mind is a garden, and plants and weeds are our thoughts. When it comes to living life, what kind of gardener are you?

Hook From The Book

“Choosing a lover is a lot like choosing a therapist. We need to ask ourselves, is this someone who will be honest with me, listen to criticism, admit making mistakes, and not promise the impossible?” ― Alex Michaelides, The Silent Patient

Movie Motivation

“Bade se bada business.. paise se nahi, ek bade idea se bada hota hai” (translated to “The greatest of business is great not because of money, but because of a great idea.”) This dialogue from the movie Badmaash Company is self-explanatory. What is your great idea? Feel free to share in reply to this newsletter.

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Thoughtfully yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Master Trainer and Coach