Welcome to Episode #157 of NLP Around You

🧠 Thoughtful Thought

“To listen is not just to hear. It is to be here!” — Thoughtfully Yours

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💬 NLP Quote Corner

“You are, in fact, a mashup of what you choose to let into your life.” — Austin Kleon

⏳ One Minute NLP – The Power of Micro Shifts

Big change can feel overwhelming. That’s why most people wait for the right time, the right mood, the perfect plan. And while they wait… nothing changes.

In NLP, we focus on micro shifts. Small, almost invisible changes that quietly reshape your behaviour.

One deeper breath.
One better question.
One kinder thought.
One tiny action.

It may not look like much—but your brain notices. It begins to build a new pattern. And patterns, repeated over time, become identity.

Don’t underestimate the power of small shifts done consistently. You don’t need a massive breakthrough every day. You just need a slightly better direction.

Because in NLP, transformation isn’t about giant leaps. It’s about tiny shifts… repeated until they become who you are.

🔮 Meta Magic – You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know

The watchman worked at a large villa. Every morning his boss drove out in a luxury car, and it was the watchman’s duty to open the gates and greet him.

“Good morning, sir,” he would say faithfully.

But the boss never responded.

Not once.

One day the boss saw the watchman opening garbage bags outside the villa, searching for leftover food to take home. Yet, as always, the boss drove past without reacting, as if he had not seen anything at all.

The next day the watchman noticed a paper bag lying at the same spot near the garbage area. It was clean, and the food inside was neatly covered. Fresh vegetables and groceries. It looked as if someone had just bought them from the supermarket.

The watchman didn’t question it. He simply took the bag home, grateful.

The same thing happened the next day. And the day after that.

Every day there was a paper bag in the same place, filled with fresh vegetables and food. It slowly became part of his daily routine. The watchman fed his wife and children with those groceries.

Sometimes he even wondered, half amused, who the fool could be who forgot a bag full of fresh food every single day.

Then one day something unusual happened in the villa.

There was commotion everywhere. Guests kept arriving. The watchman was told that his boss had passed away.

That day the paper bag did not appear.

He assumed one of the guests must have taken it.

But the next day it was missing again.

And the next.

Days turned into weeks. Without the groceries, the watchman struggled again to provide food for his family. Finally he decided to ask his boss’s wife for a salary raise, or he would have to quit the job.

When he spoke to her, she looked surprised.

“You have never complained about your salary in the last two years,” she said. “Why is it suddenly not enough now?”

He tried to give excuses, but she remained unconvinced.

Eventually he told her the truth. He explained about the mysterious paper bags and how those groceries had quietly become his family’s daily provision.

She asked him one simple question.

“When did the bags stop appearing?”

He replied, “After your husband passed away.”

In that moment, the watchman realised something he had never considered before.

The paper bags had stopped exactly when the boss had died.

Which meant the person who had been leaving the groceries all along… was the same man who had never responded to his greetings.

The boss’s wife began to cry.

The watchman apologised quickly. “Please don’t cry, madam. I’m sorry I asked for a raise. I didn’t know your husband was the one helping my family. I will continue working here happily.”

But she shook her head gently.

“I’m crying because I have finally found the seventh person.”

She explained that her husband had quietly supported seven people every day by leaving them groceries. After his death she had managed to find six of them.

The watchman was the seventh.

From the next day onward, the groceries started arriving again. This time the boss’s son personally brought the bag to the watchman’s house and handed it to him.

Whenever the watchman thanked him, the young man never replied.

Just like his father.

One day the watchman said “THANK YOU” very loudly.

The young man smiled and replied softly.

“Please don’t be offended when I don’t respond. I have a hearing problem… just like my father.”

Meta Magic Insight

How often do we judge people based on what we think we see?

A silence becomes arrogance.

A behaviour becomes a story.

Yet the truth behind someone’s actions may be very different from what we assume.

Before concluding, there is always a wiser step.

Ask.

Because everyone you meet may be fighting a battle.

Or carrying a kindness.

That you know nothing about.

📖 Hook from the Book

“If the unexamined life was not worth living, was the unlived life worth examining?” — Paul Kalanithi, When Breath Becomes Air

🎬 Movie Motivation 

“Jo log apni zindagi nahi jeete, woh doosron ki zindagi jeete hain.” Translated to “Those who don’t live their own life end up living someone else’s.” This dialogue from the movie Guide refers to the unconscious patterns that arise from borrowed beliefs.

 

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Thoughtfully Yours,

Your W3 Coach

Mehernosh