Welcome to the 90th episode of NLP Around You.

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Thoughtful Thought

“The sole purpose of the universe is to help you discover your soul purpose.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Things do not have meaning. We assign meaning to everything.” – Tony Robbins

One Minute NLP – When Their Actions Don’t Match Their Words

Simultaneous incongruence (a jargon from the field of NLP) from  occurs when there is a misalignment between what someone says and how they express it. Imagine a colleague saying, “I’m fine,” while frowning and avoiding eye contact. Their verbal and non-verbal cues don’t match, creating a sense of incongruence.

In NLP, recognizing this is key to understanding deeper truths. People’s body language, tone of voice, and gestures often reveal their genuine feelings more than words.

For example, if a team member agrees to take on a task but hesitates or sighs, their incongruence might indicate doubt or overwhelm. As a skilled communicator, you can address this by saying, “I noticed you hesitated – would you like to talk about it?”

In your own life, self-awareness is crucial. Are your words matching your feelings and intentions? If not, pause and reflect. Aligning your internal state with your external actions builds trust, clarity, and authenticity in all interactions.

The magic of NLP lies in turning these subtle observations into opportunities for deeper connection and understanding.

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Meta Magic – Are You Cutting The Strings?

Young Ethan squinted against the bright sunlight, his small hands clutching the wooden spool. It was his first time flying a kite, and his father, Mark, knelt beside him, guiding his hands. The crisp wind tugged at the vibrant red-and-yellow kite as they launched it. With each failed attempt, Ethan’s giggles mixed with determination until, finally, the kite soared upward.

“Run, Ethan! Let more string out!” Mark encouraged.

Ethan ran across the grassy field, the string slipping through his fingers. The kite danced higher, a vivid splash of color against the azure sky. His heart swelled with joy as the spool emptied.

“Daddy,” he said, breathless with excitement, “let’s cut the string! The kite will go even higher!”

Mark paused. “Son, the string helps the kite stay steady. If we cut it, the kite won’t fly higher—it’ll fall.”

Ethan frowned. “No, Daddy. The string is holding it down! Let’s free it!”

Reluctantly, Mark handed him a pocketknife. With a quick snip, the tension vanished. For a fleeting moment, the kite seemed to rise, untethered and wild. But then it faltered, swaying chaotically before tumbling down, a broken tangle of fabric and sticks.

Ethan stared at the fallen kite, his excitement replaced with confusion. “Why did it fall?”

Mark placed a gentle hand on his son’s shoulder. “The string wasn’t holding it down, Ethan. It was guiding it, giving it the strength to fly high.”

Now, let me ask you: In your life, which are those rules and relations, which may be feeling restrictive to you? But when you think deeper, they are actually guiding you, anchoring you, and probably even helping you to rise to your fullest potential.

Hook From The Book

“Anything that causes you to overreact or underreact can control you, and often does.” ― David Allen, Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity

Movie Motivation

“Success is not about luck. It’s about making the right moves.” This line quoted by the character Harvey Specter in the popular web-series SUITS reflects the NLP principles of strategy and action, focusing on how you can model success by identifying and replicating effective behaviors and strategies.

This Week’s Winning Post

The 10 Rules of Work

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Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Master Trainer and Coach

Welcome to the 89th episode of NLP Around You.

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Thoughtful Thought

“Self-Belief is the anti-dote to self-sabotage.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Focus on where you want to go, not on what you fear.” – Tony Robbins

One Minute NLP – The Law of Requisite Variety

The Law of Requisite Variety states: “The system with the most flexibility controls the system.” In NLP, this means that in any interaction or situation, the person who can adapt the most has the greatest influence.

Think of it as a chess game: the player with more strategies and options is likely to win. In relationships, business, or personal growth, flexibility is your superpower. If a plan doesn’t work, instead of persisting, adapt your approach.

For example, if you are communicating with someone who doesn’t respond to logic, try appealing to their emotions or using visuals. In problem-solving, explore alternative solutions rather than sticking to one rigid path.

This principle encourages creativity, resilience, and an open mind. The more adaptable you are, the more effectively you can navigate challenges and create positive outcomes.

Remember, the power lies in your ability to change and adjust — not in controlling others, but in mastering yourself!

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Meta Magic – Which Pillar Are You Holding?

One bright morning, Raman felt a stirring in his soul and resolved to visit the renowned sage of his city, celebrated for unraveling the mysteries of spiritual freedom and guiding others to do the same. With curiosity crackling in his chest, he approached the sage and inquired, “How can I be truly liberated from life’s endless struggles?”

The sage’s face broke into a serene smile as he rose to his feet, his robes whispering against the floor. Without a word, he motioned for Raman to follow. Leading him to a sturdy, ancient pillar, the sage wrapped his arms tightly around it and clung as if his life depended on it.

Raman’s eyebrows shot up in bafflement. Before he could voice his confusion, the sage let out a theatrical wail, “Help me! Free me from this pillar! Save me from its grasp!”

Raman burst into laughter, his voice echoing through the quiet courtyard. “Respected Guruji,” he exclaimed, “this is absurd! It isn’t the pillar that’s holding you captive—it’s you who refuses to let go of it.”

The sage’s smile deepened, his eyes gleaming with quiet wisdom. “Precisely,” he said. “This pillar represents the problems we face in life. They don’t imprison us — we imprison ourselves by clutching onto them. The key to freedom lies in releasing the pillar and reclaiming your power.”

Now, let me ask you: Are you still holding on to your pillar?


Hook From The Book

“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers. M. Scott Peck” ― Penney Peirce, Frequency: The Power of Personal Vibration

Movie Motivation

“I don’t have dreams, I have goals.” This line quoted by the character Harvey Specter in the popular webseries SUITS reflects the NLP principle of goal-setting and clarity. Dreams are abstract, but goals are specific and actionable. NLP emphasizes setting clear, measurable objectives to turn aspirations into achievements.

This Week’s Winning Post

Connection between Expression and Expansion

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Welcome to the 88th episode of NLP Around You.

Thoughtful Thought

“Every expression is the expansion of your frequency to the Universe. So co-create wisely.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“People who fail focus on what they have to go through. People who succeed focus on what will it be like in the end.” – Tony Robbins

One Minute NLP – The map is not the territory.

“The map is not the territory” is a foundational NLP presupposition reminding us that our mental representations of reality (our maps) are not the same as reality itself (the territory). Each person’s map is shaped by experiences, beliefs, and perceptions, making it unique.

When applied in NLP, this concept fosters understanding and flexibility. For example, when someone disagrees with you, remember they are interpreting the world through their map. Instead of arguing over who’s “right,” explore their perspective.

In practical terms, this presupposition encourages you to question assumptions, improve communication, and embrace diverse viewpoints. By recognizing the difference between perception and reality, you empower yourself to navigate life with more clarity and compassion.

Update your map, but remember — it’s only a guide, not the territory itself!

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Meta Magic – Choose Your Bowl

Sarita often found herself confused about making the right decisions, though she couldn’t quite understand why. Noticing this, her father, Mr. Kumar, decided it was time to impart her a gentle lesson.

One crisp morning, he called her to breakfast. On the table sat two bowls of sweet porridge. One was topped with a dazzling garnish of almonds, while the other appeared plain and unremarkable. Sarita’s lips curled into a small smirk as she reached for the garnished bowl. “This one looks better,” she declared confidently.

As she ate, her confidence wavered. The porridge was delicious, but her eyes darted to her father enjoying the plain bowl. To her surprise, he uncovered four hidden almonds beneath the surface. She stared at her empty bowl and sighed. “Sometimes, what looks better isn’t the best,” her father remarked gently.

The next morning, the scene repeated. This time, Sarita hesitated before choosing. She remembered her father’s words and picked the plain bowl instead. She eagerly dug in, expecting a hidden treasure, but it was empty. Her father chuckled and lifted his bowl—the garnished one—revealing almonds beneath. “Experience teaches,” he said, “but intuition demands we look beyond logic.”

By the third day, Sarita had learned to pause. “Papa,” she said with a small smile, “why don’t you decide?” Her father’s face lit up with approval. He chose the garnished bowl for her and revealed almonds hidden beneath. “You see, my dear,” he said, “life is full of choices, but true richness comes from trust. Humility opens doors where wisdom alone cannot.”

Sarita nodded, the lesson sinking deeper. She knew now that life was more than appearances—or even clever guesses. It was about faith, trust, and a willingness to learn.

So, tell me, if it were you, which bowl would you choose? 

Hook From The Book

“The driven, passionate ones give their best on ordinary days and that is why they are extraordinary.” ― Twinkle Khanna, Mrs Funnybones: She’s just like You and a lot like Me.

Movie Motivation

“You have to let it all go, Neo. Fear, doubt, and disbelief. Free your mind.” This dialogue from the movie The Matrix reflects the importance of eliminating limiting beliefs to unlock one’s full potential. NLP focuses on reprogramming the mind to remove self-imposed limitations.

This Week’s Winning Post

The NLP Circle of Excellence

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Thoughtful Thought

“You cannot stop time, but you can stop wasting time.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“The basic unit of analysis in face-to-face communication is the feedback loop.” – Tony Robbins

One Minute NLP – Everyone has all the resources they need.

In NLP, the presupposition “Everyone has all the resources they need within themselves” is based on the idea that we already possess the tools necessary for personal development, achievement, and change. This belief suggests that with the right mindset and guidance, people can unlock and utilize their internal resources to overcome challenges and succeed. Here’s a closer look at this concept:

1. Innate Potential: NLP posits that we all have inherent abilities, skills, and knowledge that can be cultivated. Even if these resources are dormant, they can be brought to the surface through techniques like reframing, anchoring, and self-reflection.
2. Problem-Solving: Instead of relying on external factors for solutions, NLP encourages us to look within ourselves. Through NLP, people learn to access different mental and emotional states to manage and resolve personal and professional issues.
3. Empowerment Through Self-Belief: By recognizing that we already have what we need, we become more confident and proactive. This presupposition is empowering because it shifts the focus from lack to abundance, enabling people to tackle limitations and achieve goals.

This belief does not imply that external resources are unnecessary but emphasizes that the most crucial resources — inner resilience, creativity, and motivation — are already present.

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Meta Magic – The Farmer’s Treasure

Once upon a time, a poor farmer named Ramesh worked tirelessly on his small piece of land. Despite his hard work, his crops often failed, and he barely made enough to feed his family.

One day, Ramesh stumbled upon an old, dusty map hidden in his attic. The map had an “X” marked on a corner of his farm, and below it were the words: “Dig here to find treasure.” Excited, Ramesh grabbed a spade and started digging where the map directed.

For days, he dug tirelessly but found nothing. However, in the process, he unknowingly turned the soil, removed weeds, and enriched the land. Frustrated, he eventually gave up on finding treasure and planted his usual seeds in the freshly tilled land.

Months later, Ramesh was astonished to see his crops flourishing like never before. He sold his abundant harvest at the market, earning more than he ever had. That night, as he stared at the map, he realized the truth: The real treasure was the improved land he had unknowingly cultivated.

Hook From The Book

“No matter what he does, every person on earth plays a central role in the history of the world. And normally he doesn’t know it.” ― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

Movie Motivation

“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.” This dialogue from the movie Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban encourages reframing and finding positive perspectives even in difficult situations. NLP helps people develop the ability to shift their focus toward empowering thoughts.

This Week’s Winning Post

A meme on today’s NLP presupposition – Everyone has all the resources that they need.

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