Thoughtful Thought

“When you are aligned, your purpose falls in line.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“The odd thing about believing you’re insecure is that people are always secure in the knowledge that they believe they’re insecure”.- Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP – Behavioral Flexibility

When one takes a hot shower, one doesn’t move the knob to the highest temperature directly, right? It begins by slowly setting the tap knob higher and stopping it where the temperature suits our skin.

In life, when specific goals are not achieved, if we use the same analogy of moving the knob of our behaviour bit by bit and fixing it to the one which fits well with our environment, capabilities and purpose, won’t this gradual knob movement become the mantra of our life?

This “knob” is better known as ‘behavioural flexibility’ in Neuro-Linguistic Programming. It is a skill where one can look back and not just measure what went right but also calibrate what went wrong and then again adjust the knob to re-align some parameters to resume in newer and empowering ways.

Behavioural flexibility can be your goldmine, the ability to win over day-to-day life situations, which ultimately paints the bigger picture of success. Let’s take the example of a particular goal of achieving a certain weight you could not reach. How can behavioural flexibility be your saviour here?

The first step would be to have a rear view and list the possible blocks. It may be the time you set, which was too short to achieve the big goal. It also might be overlooking an upcoming wedding in the family, where your health regime is supposedly going to be tossed. It may also be that your ‘why’ behind it was to prove your worth rather than aim to be fit. Or it might be a blurred understanding that fitness means weight loss. It may also be not having resources, not knowing techniques, not having the right knowledge or maybe not having an accountability partner.

Once you have the reasons listed, re-set the target by shifting the knob till the goal again looks achievable.

Happy Knob Turning.

Meta-Magic – When Defect Requires Effort…

“We would like to place a trial manufacturing order with you on one condition: we will accept only three defective pieces for every 10,000 pieces produced.” This was the strict specification given by the American computer giant IBM to their new Japanese component supplier.

When the components were delivered to IBM, there was a letter accompanying the delivery: “We, the Japanese people, had a hard time understanding North American business practices. But the three defective parts per 10,000 pieces have been separately manufactured and have been included in the consignment in a separate package mentioned – Defective pieces as required, not for use.”

My question to you is, in which area of your life would you like to attain this attitude of excellence? And how can you attain that?

Hook From The Book

“If you only read the books that everyone else is reading, you can only think what everyone else is thinking.” ― Norwegian Wood, Haruki Murakami

Movie Motivation

“If I cannot be the Sun that shines upon the Earth, I can still be a lamp and light up my street.” This inspiring line from the inspiring movie 12th Fail reminds us that we can create the change in our own capacity in any and every moment of life.

This Week’s Winning Post

Reflect with Respect, not with Regret

See you next week with the 50th Golden Jubilee Episode of NLP Around You.

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria