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Dancing to the Tune of Stories

Dancing to the Tune of Stories

“NLP Around You” was a name I had coined several years ago, and saved it in my ideas bank without knowing what I would do about it. It was just like having the ingredients ready, without figuring out the recipe. Little did I know, the recipe will take the form of this newsletter, with the flavour of taste being contributed not only from my own experience of 27 years but also from the sharing and takeaways from the participants of my NLP Course.

Now, let’s continue with another adventurous ride with this third episode.

Thoughtful Thought of the Week

Pause, before you are forced to take a pause.” – Mehernosh Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours

NLP Quote Corner

Wisdom comes from experience, but experience is not enough. Experience anticipated and experience revisited is the true source of wisdom.”- John Grinder.

One Minute NLP

Anchoring

The NLP technique of anchoring trains you to connect a certain stimulus with thoughts and emotions to elicit a desired response.

A good example is hearing a song in the present that brings you right back to a particular time in your past when you heard that song. You remember where you were, what you were doing, and most importantly, you rekindle the emotional state you were in at that time.

The goal of anchoring in NLP, therefore, is to get a particular positive emotional response or elicit a resourceful state to some situation that previously has made you feel some (perceived) negative emotion, such as feeling insecure or upset. You can change your mood or state of mind instantly by “anchoring” the desired positive emotional response. You can reproduce that feeling by firing off the anchor any time you need it.

On a lighter note, here is a video that will demonstrate the mechanisms of anchoring, as well as bring a smile to your face.

Anchoring in Practical Use

Meta-Magic

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An old, wise, wealthy man, who was known for his zen-like philanthropic nature once headed out for a horse ride. On the way, he saw an old man with a hunchback, with a tattered shawl on his body, almost limping in his way. The old man’s heart melted and immediately he stopped and got off the horse and offered the horse to the poor man.

The poor man immediately rode the horse and removed his shawl and began laughing. He said, “Hahaha you fool. The world calls you wise. And look, I stole your horse with your own will and you could not figure out that I am a thief. Where did your wisdom go here? I am so happy because I defeated you and now I will tell my victorious story to the whole world, who till now, used to think that you are the wisest.

The wise old man took a bit long pause, which made the thief a bit uncomfortable yet curious about what will come next. The wise old man said with a deeper breath and a wide smile, “My dear friend, you may take this horse. I accept that I don’t have wisdom. But I just have one request. Please don’t tell this story to anyone.

The thief, now with a bloated ego, boasted, “Hah, afraid and ashamed, right? That you lost and now you won’t be worshipped if I tell the story to people?

The wise old man replied: “No. Nothing like that. Just that, if you tell this story to the world, people will stop helping strangers.”

My question to you is:

What stories are you choosing to share with the world? While we are keen to share those stories that impacted us, are we aware of the meaning-making that our story may create for others? Are you sure that your stories will be perceived by others with the same learning that you intended to share with them? While you are dancing to the tunes of your story, are you making sure that the song is the same for the others too? Or are you just too engrossed in composing the music?

Hook from a Book

“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through and how you survived. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what the storm is all about.”

Haruki Murakami

Movie Motivation

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“Mama always said life was like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re going to get.” – Forrest Gump.

Please do reply to this email with your understanding of this dialogue, and how you think this applies in your personal as well as professional life.

Weekly Winner Posts

This week’s highest interactive post was the one where I am handing over my autographed book to Seema Desai Nair who has chosen to teach NLP in Marathi language and take the power of this amazing field to the interiors of Maharashtra.

Here’s the link to the reel. Make sure to read the caption.

See you next week

That’s all for the third episode of this newsletter. By now, you would have gauged that prior knowledge of NLP is not a prerequisite for being a subscriber to this newsletter. Who would you like to invite from your family, professional as well as social circles to be part of “NLP Around You”? Who could start benefitting from a different perspective of looking at life from the lens of NLP? Simply invite them by sharing this link with them now: http://nlparoundyou.com/

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

How Do You Take a Better Selfie?

How Do You Take a Better Selfie?

I am joyfully overwhelmed by the amazing response to the first newsletter with almost 2,000 subscribers in the first week itself. Here is a token of gratitude with a standing ovation from me to you for showering so much love. When you order the book Thoughtfully Yours directly from the publisher’s website, you can avail an exclusive launch discount by using the discount code “TYLAUNCH” now.

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Now, let’s continue with another adventurous ride with this second episode.

Thoughtful Thought of the Week

“Awareness is not a wall of defence but a bridge towards development.” – Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“The strongest instinct in human beings is not survival. Virginia Satir said something to me that has resonated with me for forty years. She asked, “What do you think is the strongest instinct?” Like a robot I responded, “Survival.” For me, it had always been the strongest instinct. She said, “No, Richard. The strongest instinct in human beings is the need to look at the familiar.” “People are terrified of the unknown. In fact, sometimes people will rather kill themselves than look at new things.

Richard Bandler, Get the Life You Want: The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming

One Minute NLP

Calibration

Calibration is the ability to notice, with great precision, what is going on around you. It is your non-judgemental observation of the tiny minute-by-minute changes in someone’s voice and body.

An important aspect to keep in mind while calibrating is that a form of behaviour that means something to you in a certain situation does not always mean the same to someone else. Look for repeated non-verbal clues like voice quality, inclination in physiological postures, eye movements, breathing, skin tones, and more.

In this interesting video, Andre Agassi shares how Boris Becker’s tongue unwittingly gave an incredible advantage that he exploited to win Wimbledon in 1992. Watch the video here

Meta-Magic

What do you do when your selfie doesn’t turn out good? You take another one, right? With a different background, different angle and may be a different emotion/expression.

Have you ever given a thought about mental selfies? Confused? Yes, our mental selfies are our perceptions, which show us the mirror about our own life and choices.

My question to you is: How do you take better mental selfies, when some perception or point-of-view is not serving you? What changes do you want to make in the angle, background, or emotion?

Hook from a Book

“You know what the issue is with this world? Everyone wants a magical solution to their problem, and everyone refuses to believe in magic.”

Alice in The Wonderland.

Movie Motivation

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“Babumoshai, Zindagi Badi Honi Chahiye, Lambi Nahi”

This dialogue from my all-time favourite movie, Anand, is an invitation to look at life in its wholeness rather than the length of time. A really deep message. Translated simply, it conveys the message to live life kingsize and live every moment in the now.

I would love to know your understanding of this dialogue when you reply to this email. Please let me know how you relate to Anand’s philosophy of living life.

Weekly Winner Posts

One of the popular posts this week has been “Why you should not eat the frog everyday?” Do share your views too by commenting on the post.

See you next week

That’s all for the second episode of this newsletter. By now, you would have gauged that prior knowledge of NLP is not a prerequisite for being a subscriber to this newsletter. Who would you like to invite from your family, professional as well as social circles to be part of “NLP Around You”? Who could start benefitting from a different perspective of looking at life from the lens of NLP? Simply invite them by sharing this link with them now: http://nlparoundyou.com/

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

What is The Missing Piece in Your Jigsaw?

What is The Missing Piece in Your Jigsaw?

You are special, really special to me, because I am so excited to share with you the first issue of “NLP Around YOU”

Thoughtful Thought of the Week

(This section will contain a signature quote from my side – including some snippets from my second book Thoughtfully Yours. Here’s today’s quote)

“Action is the bridge from misery to mastery.”

Which is the much-needed action that you have put on snooze? What will be the first step to make it happen?

NLP Quote Corner

(This is the section that contains a Quote from one of the Founding Members of NLP. Here’s today’s quote)

The greatest personal limitation is to be found not in the things you want to do and can’t, but in the things you’ve never considered doing.”- Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP

(One NLP Concept simplified for you, even if you are new to the field of NLP)

Embedded Commands?

Embedded commands are hidden suggestive commands in normal conversation, which are decipherable by the unconscious mind, but are not noticed by conscious awareness. On the surface, those commands look like a normal conversation, but that is just the tip of the iceberg. The real fine-tuning happens with the right usage of embedded commands. These commands are also known as conversational hypnosis, where the sentences do the magic of convincing the unconscious mind and making it behave accordingly.

Watch this video from a Real Estate Trainer that explains the power of NLP embedded commands in persuasive sales conversations:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3DV7C5IaiFY

Meta-Magic

(In this section, you will find some thought-provoking metaphors)

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Look at this jigsaw. What is the missing piece, which will complete it for you? Some may seek clarity, while others may look for resources, a mindset, or a strategy. Identify your missing piece, because identification is the precursor to change.

Hook from a Book

(Treasure bytes from a book)

Worry doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.” – Corrie Ten Boom, Clippings from My Notebook

What are you? A worrier or a warrior?

Movie Motivation

(One of my professors used to say – “Movie nahi dekha to kya seekha” – this not only added to my motivation of watching movies, but also inspired me to imbibe motivational learnings from movies. Here is today’s movie dialogue)

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All Izz Well – Movie: 3 Idiots

This connects to the NLP technique of Reframing. This is not about being mindlessly positive or denying the negatives. It is to remind you that while you acknowledge something unexpected around you, also give it a thought – what could be possibly positive about this? Here is a simple example: A very common complaint of the common man is that there is too much traffic on the streets and that traffic is a waste of time! Now think about this – What is positive about Traffic? Well, doesn’t it mean that the economy is growing and progressing with more need for infrastructure? “All is well” acknowledges the traffic and flips it from being tragic to terrific!!!

Weekly Winner Posts

Last week during my NLP Train The Trainer classes, I was sharing the concept of the Pie of Knowledge. While there are some aspects that “you know”, there are several elements that “you know that you don’t know”. Both these elements put together are a very small portion of the Pie of Knowledge. The biggest section of the Pie is composed of “You don’t know what you don’t know”. Here is where you can read more about it: YDKWDK

See you next week

That’s all for the first episode of this newsletter folks. Do share your experiences from this issue of NLP Around YOU, by simply replying to this email.

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

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