🧠 MIND GAMES – 7 Fascinating Ways Your Mind Plays Tricks on You

You are invited to join me for a fun, engaging and highly interactive LIVE Wellness Seminar at the Radio Club, Colaba, Mumbai.

Come and experience 7 fascinating Mind Games as we explore:

🔹 How your mind makes assumptions without you realising it

🔹 How words, emotions and triggers influence your responses

🔹 How differently people can experience the same situation

🔹 Practical tools for greater mental and emotional wellbeing

📅 Saturday, 29th August 2026

⏰ 5.30 pm to 7.30 pm

📍 The Radio Room, Radio Club, Colaba, Mumbai

🎟️ FREE for Members & Guests

☕ Followed by light refreshments

If you’re in Mumbai, do join us. Feel free to invite friends, family or colleagues who would enjoy discovering some fascinating ways in which the mind actually works.

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Know Your Mind. Change Your Game.

Welcome to Episode #179 of NLP Around You.

🧠 Thoughtful Thought

“Obligation is a choice that has forgotten it was ever made.”

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💬 NLP Quote Corner

“We are our choices.” — Jean-Paul Sartre

⏳ One Minute NLP – The Word That Hides a Choice

Count how many times you said “I have to” yesterday. The 8:00 call. The reply that could not wait. The function you did not want to attend.

In NLP, these are called modal operators of necessity. They are the small words that describe what is compulsory and what is possible: have to, must, should, need to, cannot.

Here is what makes them worth noticing. Most of them are not true.

A modal operator of necessity always points at a consequence, and most of the time that consequence has never been said out loud. “I have to answer immediately” carries an unspoken “or else”. The moment you finish the sentence, you can look at it properly. Sometimes it is real. Very often it dissolves on contact.

Do this today. Pick three sentences where you said “I have to”. Ask each one: what would actually happen if I did not? Then rewrite the ones that survive as “I choose to”, and notice what changes in your shoulders.

Same diary. Different owner.

🔮 Meta Magic – Coaching Chronicles

Who Signed You Up for All of This?

He arrived with his diary already open, before he had even sat down.

Parag runs a mid-sized packaging business. 44, carefully spoken. The kind of man who apologises for taking up your time while handing you a list of everything he is carrying.

“I have no time,” he said. “None.”

I asked him to read me the week.

He read it out like a charge sheet. I have to be on the 8:00 call with the plant. I have to reply to every mail the same day. I have to sit on the building committee. I have to go to my cousin’s engagement in Pune. I have to be at the Rotary meeting on Thursday. I have to. I have to. I have to.

Eleven sentences. Every one of them opened with the same two words.

When he finished, I asked him only one thing.

“What happens if you don’t?”

He looked up.

“Sorry?”

“Take the mail one. You said you have to reply the same day. What happens if you reply the next morning?”

He opened his mouth. Then he closed it again.

Not defensive.

Just thinking.

“Nothing,” he said eventually. “Nothing happens.”

Then he said something far more interesting. “I started that in 2011. I was small then. Nobody knew my name. Same-day replies were how I built it.”

Fifteen years later, he was still keeping a promise he had made to a company that no longer exists.

We went down the rest of the list.

The building committee: “I have to, because nobody else will.” I invited him to say it differently. “I choose to, because I don’t like how the building runs when I’m not in the room.” He laughed at his own sentence. Same Tuesday evening. Entirely different owner.

The engagement in Pune: he wanted to go. He is fond of that cousin. But he had filed it under obligation along with everything else, and the filing had quietly taken the pleasure out of it.

The 8:00 call turned out to be a genuine necessity. So did one other.

Two out of eleven.

The remaining nine were decisions he had made once, some of them years ago, and never opened again. They had hardened into necessity the way a rule hardens into a habit. After long enough, nobody remembers who wrote the rule.

He did not leave with a lighter week. He left with exactly the same week, and one sentence.

“I have to” is a claim. Claims can be checked.

So let me ask you.

Open your own diary for the coming week. Read it out to yourself the way Parag read his.

How many of those are genuine necessities?

And how many are old decisions that you have simply stopped reviewing?

📖 Hook from the Book

“Work is love made visible.” — Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

🎬 Movie Motivation

“Zindagi badi honi chahiye, lambi nahi, Babumoshai.” (Life should be big, not long, dear friend.)

This dialogue from the movie Anand reminds us that a full calendar and a full life are not the same thing, and only one of the two is actually chosen.

📢 Announcement of the Week

If you are in Mumbai on Saturday 29th August, come and spend two hours finding out how your own mind actually works.

MIND GAMES is a live, interactive wellness seminar at the Radio Room, Radio Club, Colaba, from 5.30 pm to 7.30 pm. Seven mind games, a few surprises about your own thinking, and light refreshments afterwards. Free for members and guests.

Seats are limited and prior registration is required.

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Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

Your W3 Coach

Welcome to Episode #178 of NLP Around You.

🧠 Thoughtful Thought

“Most opinions are not conclusions. They are first impressions that stopped moving.”

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💬 NLP Quote Corner

“It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.” – Henry David Thoreau

⏳ One Minute NLP – The Three Ways You Trim the World

Two people walk out of the same meeting. One says it went well. The other says it was tense. Neither of them is lying.

In NLP, we call the machinery behind this your perceptual filters. Three of them do most of the work: deletion, distortion and generalisation.

Deletion drops what does not seem relevant. You have walked past that shop for years and could not describe its signboard.

Distortion bends what remains so it fits what you already believe. A colleague is quiet in a meeting, and you hear disapproval rather than a difficult morning at home.

Generalisation turns one instance into a rule. He missed one deadline, so he is unreliable. She spoke well once, so she is a natural.

None of this is a defect. Without these filters, crossing a road would be impossible. The trouble is not that they operate. It is that they operate silently, and we mistake their output for the world.

Do this today. Pick one person you have already made up your mind about. Write down, in a single sentence, what you believe about them. Then go looking for three things from the past week that do not fit that sentence. Not to prove yourself wrong. Only to find out whether you have been reading them, or repeating them.

Perception is instant.

Accuracy takes longer.

🔮 Meta Magic

The Verdict That Arrived Before the Evidence

Ninth floor. A glass-walled room with the blinds half drawn. Two chairs on one side of the table, one on the other. Three printed copies of a CV, stapled, still warm from the machine.

Vikram had sat in that chair for eleven years. Four hundred interviews, perhaps more. He liked to say, with some pride, that he knew within ten seconds.

The candidate came in at 11:04. Slightly out of breath. He apologised for the traffic, shook hands, sat down, and placed his phone face down beside him.

Ten seconds.

Vikram had his answer.

Not confident enough for a client-facing role.

The interview ran another forty minutes.

Sameer described an account he had rescued after two missed deliveries. Vikram heard rehearsal. He was asked about a failure, and he paused before answering. Vikram heard hesitation. Near the end, Sameer asked a sharp question about where the team was heading over the next two years, and Vikram wrote “well prepared” in the margin.

Every answer was received.

Every answer was sorted.

Nothing was gathered.

Farida, the second interviewer, scored him at the top of the shortlist.

In the corridor afterwards, she asked what he had seen.

“He wasn’t confident,” Vikram said.

She thought about it. “He was nervous for about a minute,” she said. “After that he ran the conversation. Did you notice he brought us back to the roadmap twice?”

He had not.

Same room. Same man. Same forty minutes. They walked out with two different candidates.

Here is what was happening.

Every second, far more arrives than any of us can hold, so the mind trims. It drops most of what comes in, bends a little of what survives to fit what it already believes, and quietly turns one instance into a rule. Those three moves happen before you have consciously decided anything.

They also happen fastest at the beginning, when there is least to go on.

Vikram was not dishonest. He was efficient.

He had made his decision at 11:04, and then spent forty minutes being right.

That is the real cost. Not that we judge quickly, because we all do. But that once the judgement is made, the collecting stops, and we begin calling the little we have already collected evidence.

Sameer never had forty minutes.

He had ten seconds.

So let me ask you…

Think of one person you have already summed up. A colleague. A relative. A neighbour you decided about years ago and have not revisited since.

Are you still gathering evidence about them…

or are you only collecting proof for a verdict you reached long ago?

📖 Hook from the Book

“History is that certainty produced at the point where the imperfections of memory meet the inadequacies of documentation.” – Julian Barnes, The Sense of an Ending

🎬 Movie Motivation

“It’s always difficult to keep personal prejudice out of a thing like this.” This line from the film 12 Angry Men reminds us that a conclusion reached early rarely feels like a bias from the inside. It feels like clarity.

📢 Announcement of the Week

Outwardly Successful, Inwardly Stuck

This is the last issue before it runs.

Tuesday, 18 August 2026. 8:00 to 9:30 PM IST. Ninety minutes, live on Zoom.

There is no recording. If you are not in the room, you miss it.

It is for the person whose CV reads well and whose evenings do not. Who has done everything in the correct order, cleared every milestone, and still feels a quiet step behind something they cannot quite name.

Ninety minutes to look at what is actually holding the door shut.

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Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

The W3 Coach

Welcome to Episode #177 of NLP Around You.

🧠 Thoughtful Thought

“A limit you have never tested is not a fact; it is a rumour.”

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💬 NLP Quote Corner

“The soul becomes dyed with the colour of its thoughts.” — Marcus Aurelius

⏳ One Minute NLP – The Difference Between a Fact and a Ceiling

Ask someone why they have never applied for the bigger role, and you rarely get a reason. You get a certainty. “That is not for people like me.”

In NLP we call this a limiting belief.

Not a thought you are having.

A rule you are running.

Here is the quiet trouble with beliefs. A fact survives testing. A belief never asks to be tested, because somewhere along the way it was simply accepted. Most of ours were never our own conclusions. They arrived from a parent’s caution, a teacher’s careless remark, one painful experience generalised into a law.

And once a belief is in place, the mind becomes its lawyer. It notices every piece of evidence that agrees, and quietly files away everything that does not.

Do this. Take one sentence you say about yourself that begins with “I can’t” or “I’m not”. Then ask three questions of it. Who first told me this? What would count as proof that it is wrong? Has someone with fewer advantages than mine already done it?

A fact holds when you test it. A belief only holds while you don’t.

🔮 Meta Magic

The Fastest Mindset Shift in History

Iffley Road, Oxford. 6 May 1954.

The wind had been against the runners all afternoon. Gusts swept across the track at nearly 25 miles an hour, enough to make an already difficult challenge even harder.

Roger Bannister almost decided not to run.

At 25, he was a medical student at St Mary’s Hospital in London. He did not train full-time like many of his competitors. Most days he squeezed his training into short sessions between hospital duties, often during his lunch break.

Then, just before the race began, the wind eased. The flag on the nearby church steeple fell almost still.

He chose to run.

For years, the four-minute mile had become more than an athletic milestone. It had become a psychological boundary. World records edged closer, fraction by fraction, until progress appeared to stop. Gradually, the conversation changed. People stopped saying, “Nobody has done it yet.”

Instead, they began saying, “It can’t be done.”

There is an important difference between those two statements.

One describes history.

The other predicts the future.

Bannister ran the final lap alone, crossing the finish line exhausted and collapsing into the waiting officials.

The announcer paused before reading the time.

Three minutes. Fifty-nine point four seconds.

The four-minute mile had fallen.

Just 46 days later, John Landy ran even faster. Soon others did the same. Within a few years, what had once been considered impossible had become the benchmark for elite middle-distance runners.

Nothing had changed in human physiology during those 46 days.

No new muscles.

No larger lungs.

No revolutionary running shoes.

What changed was the collective mindset about what was possible.

One person’s achievement gave everyone else a new reference point. The boundary that had lived in people’s minds suddenly looked negotiable.

That is the fascinating thing about limiting beliefs. They do not have to be true to influence behaviour. They only have to remain unquestioned.

Which brings us to a more important question.

Where is the four-minute mile in your own life?

Perhaps it is an income level you have decided you will never reach.

A business you believe is beyond your capability.

A conversation you keep postponing.

An opportunity you assume belongs to people who are more qualified, more connected, or younger than you.

Pause for a moment and ask yourself.

Did you discover that limit through your own experience?

Or did you inherit it from someone else’s map of the world?

Because the moment you begin to question a limiting belief, you also begin to loosen its grip.

Sometimes the biggest barrier is not in your ability.

It is in the mindset you have accepted without ever testing.

Change the mindset.

The possibilities often change with it.

📖 Hook from the Book

“Knowledge can be communicated, but not wisdom.” — Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha

🎬 Movie Motivation

“Mhaari chhoriyan chhoron se kam hain ke?” (Are our girls any less than our boys?)

This dialogue from the movie Dangal reminds us that a limit everybody around you agrees on is still only a belief, and every belief can be put to the test.

📢 Announcement of the Week

Outwardly Successful, Inwardly Stuck

A 90-minute live session on the gap between how your life looks from the outside and how it feels from the inside.

Tuesday, 18 August 2026. 8:00 to 9:30 PM IST. Live on Zoom, and there is no recording, so join us in the room.

👉 https://nlp.w3successacademy.com/outwardly-successful-inwardly-stuck

Missed the past issues of NLP Around You? Find them all here: https://w3coach.com/nlparoundyou/

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

The W3 Coach