Thoughtful Thought

“Follow the 3M’s to achieve financial freedom – Make Money, Manage Money and Multiple Money.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“There are no bad ballplayers, there are only people who are not confident in their ability to learn.”- Robert Dilts

One Minute NLP – V.I.B.E.S

When preparing for a bath, the initial step is to ensure the water temperature suits your preference, isn’t it? Then, you adjust the flow, adjusting the knob until it’s just right, initiating the bathing process.

Similarly, effective communication transcends mere verbal exchange. It thrives when one delves beneath the surface, free from assumptions, judgments, or preconceived notions. How can you do that?

Much like regulating water temperature and flow, in communication, you may gauge a person’s V.I.B.E.S.

V – Voice (including speed, pitch, or tone),

I – Inclination (back posture, leaning, gestures, etc.),

B – Breathing (rate, depth, and location),

E – Eyes (movements, redness, pupil dilation, watering, and direction),

S – Skin (colour, muscle tone, or glow).

For instance, imagine a manager who notices that whenever a team member discusses feeling ‘unhappy,’ a crease forms between his eyebrows, his lips tighten, and his shoulders tense slightly. If, during a subsequent team meeting, the manager observes these same behaviours when the team member learns of a new task, those physiological changes might suggest dissatisfaction with the new requirement. Armed with this insight, the manager can respond appropriately.

Meta-Magic – An Inconsistent Equation

Today’s story is shared by NLP Practitioner Ronak Meswani.

“If you have 3 mangoes and I give you 2 more, how many mangoes will you have in total?” The teacher asked little John.

“I would have 6 mangoes in total,” John replied with a proud grin. This agitated the teacher, but she took a deeper breath as she repeated the question differently.

“Ok. If you have 3 apples and I give you 2 more, how many apples will you have in total?” The teacher raised her eyebrows while leaning a bit closer to John.

“5 apples in total, teacher,” John responded confidently, his tone unwavering. The teacher was flabbergasted by the inconsistency in John’s answers.

“How can 3 plus 2 mangoes equal 6, but 3 plus 2 apples equal 5?” The teacher held her breath to control her rising rage.

“Simple. Because I already have one mango in my bag.” John’s eyes sparkled as he shrugged his shoulders innocently.

In our interactions, we often overlook the hidden “mangoes” in our mental baggage — preconceived notions, judgments, and assumptions — that can disrupt the equation of successful communication. It’s high time we uncover these internal representations in order to facilitate meaningful conversations.

Hook From The Book

“It is always the little things that build up. Often there is no dramatic reason for discontent in marriages. It seeps in slowly over the years. You don’t even notice it creeping in. It happens, trickle by trickle. You do not realise when or how the easy familiarity gets replaced by a ‘taken-for-granted’ attitude over the years. By the time you do, it is often late. Habits have been formed, patterns have been set. And a comfort-zone have been established. A zone that is hard to get out of.”

― Preeti Shenoy, The Secret Wish List

Movie Motivation

“Koi tumhe tab tak nahin hara sakta jab tak tum khud se na haar jao” (Translated as “No one can defeat you until you give up on yourself”). This dialogue from the movie Sultan highlights the importance of self-belief and resilience, suggesting that victory is not solely about external competition but also about winning internal battles with one’s own doubts and fears.

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Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria