“Introspection is the missing piece in the jigsaw of peace.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“If you say to yourself ‘It’s difficult to get up in the morning’, ‘It’s hard to cease smoking’, then you are already using hypnotic suggestions on yourself.” – Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP – Reframing: Turning Problems into Opportunities

Have you ever wished you could see your challenges in a more positive light? Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) offers a powerful tool called reframing that can help you do just that.

Reframing is about changing the way you perceive a situation to alter its meaning and impact. It’s like looking at a picture in a different frame; the picture stays the same, but the way you see it changes. This simple shift in perspective can transform a problem into an opportunity.

For example, imagine you’re feeling nervous about giving a presentation. Instead of seeing it as a nerve-wracking ordeal, you can reframe it as an exciting chance to share your ideas and showcase your skills. By shifting your focus from fear to opportunity, you can change your emotional response and approach the situation with more confidence.

Another common use of reframing in NLP is dealing with negative self-talk. If you catch yourself thinking, “I’m terrible at this,” you can reframe it to, “I’m learning and improving every day.” This positive twist helps cultivate a growth mindset and boosts your motivation.

Reframing can be applied to almost any situation, whether it’s personal challenges, work-related stress, or even conflicts with others. By consciously choosing a new frame, you can change your reactions and outcomes, making life’s hurdles seem more like stepping stones.

Next time you face a difficult situation, try to reframe it. You might be surprised at how this simple NLP technique can turn your problems into opportunities for growth and success.

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Meta Magic – What type of gardener are you?

Shikha and Sayali were best friends. Their bonding began with their shared love for gardening. Each had their own garden, well-cultivated in their respective homes.

Over time, Shikha noticed a difference. Her garden had more weeds, while Sayali’s was lush and flourishing.

Shikha had tried it all: fertilizers, good shades for plants, watering regularly, and even playing music for plants. However, all she saw was the growth of weeds, which outshined the development of her plants. She decided to take advice from Sayali.

“What’s the secret of your lush green garden, Sayali? Look at mine. There are weeds all over.” Shikha exhaled in exasperation.

“Well, I welcome weeds.” Sayali smiled with a mystic look. Shikha looked puzzled.

“The only secret is that I welcome weeds because they make me create more space for plants. I keep uprooting weeds and keep planting new plants.” Sayali smiled while shrugging simply.

Our mind is a garden, and plants and weeds are our thoughts. When it comes to living life, what kind of gardener are you?

Hook From The Book

“Choosing a lover is a lot like choosing a therapist. We need to ask ourselves, is this someone who will be honest with me, listen to criticism, admit making mistakes, and not promise the impossible?” ― Alex Michaelides, The Silent Patient

Movie Motivation

“Bade se bada business.. paise se nahi, ek bade idea se bada hota hai” (translated to “The greatest of business is great not because of money, but because of a great idea.”) This dialogue from the movie Badmaash Company is self-explanatory. What is your great idea? Feel free to share in reply to this newsletter.

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The Pyramid of Self Mastery

Thoughtfully yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Master Trainer and Coach

“Wealth is a mindset, which money cannot buy.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“One of the most important aspects of what human beings do is build beliefs. Beliefs are what trap most people in their problems. Unless you believe you can get over something, get through something, or get to something, there is little likelihood you will be able to do it. Your beliefs refer to your sense of certainty on some of your thoughts.” – Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP – The Magic of Rapport

Ever wondered why some people seem to connect instantly while others struggle to find common ground? In NLP, the concept of rapport is key to building strong, meaningful connections with others.

Rapport is all about creating a sense of harmony and understanding. One of the most effective ways to establish rapport is through mirroring. This involves subtly mimicking the other person’s body language, tone of voice, and even their choice of words. When done naturally, it can make the other person feel understood and comfortable.

For example, if your conversation partner is speaking slowly and softly, matching their pace and volume can help create a subconscious connection. Likewise, if they are using specific words or phrases, incorporating similar language into your responses can enhance the sense of mutual understanding.

NLP also emphasises the importance of matching sensory preferences. People tend to favour visual, auditory, or kinesthetic ways of processing information. By identifying and aligning with someone’s preferred sensory style — whether they say things like “I see what you mean,” “I hear you,” or “I feel that”—you can communicate more effectively and deepen your rapport.

Building rapport isn’t just about socialising; it’s a powerful tool for improving relationships, enhancing communication, and creating a positive impact in both personal and professional settings. So, next time you are interacting with someone, apply these NLP techniques and watch the magic of rapport unfold!

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Meta Magic – Which end of the Telescope are you seeing from?

John Maxwell shares this story in his book Be All You Can Be.

One day, little Bobby’s father came into the front room and saw the boy looking out on the street through the big end of a telescope.

He said, “Son, that’s not the way you look through a telescope. If you look through it that way, you make the objects look much smaller. A telescope is to make things look bigger.”

But Bobby smiled and said, “Daddy, the bully who’s always beating me up is out on the street. I turned the telescope around because he’s my main problem, and I want to see him smaller than he really is.”

My question to you is: How do you choose to see the world and the situations around you? Over-magnified or under-magnified?

Reply to this newsletter and let me know what insights you derived from this story.

Hook From The Book

“Nothing is easier for people who never do anything themselves than to criticize someone who actually makes an effort.” ― Fredrik Backman, Anxious People

Movie Motivation

“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” This dialogue from the movie Pursuit of Happyness reminds us that our current situation is a result of our choices. In NLP terminology, remind yourself how you can be in the cause mode (Victor mode) and not in the effect mode (Victim mode).

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What is the real measure of your Wealth?

Thoughtfully yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Master Trainer and Coach

“Being in the moment is the moment.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“People who mind read usually feel they are right, but this does not guarantee they are. Why guess when you can ask?” – Joseph O’ Connor

One Minute NLP – How Your Eyes Reveal Your Thinking Processes

Did you know that the direction you look can give away how you are thinking? In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), eye movements, or “eye accessing cues,” are fascinating clues to our thought processes.

Imagine this: when someone glances up and to the right, they might be visualizing a new scene or imagining something that hasn’t happened. Conversely, looking up and to the left often means they are recalling a memory. It’s like their eyes are windows to different parts of their brain!

Ever noticed someone looking sideways to the right? They might be imagining a sound or a conversation. If their eyes dart sideways to the left, they are likely recalling a familiar sound or voice. And when someone looks down and to the right, they are usually engaged in self-talk or internal dialogue.

Understanding these patterns can be super helpful. Whether you are in a conversation, a coaching session, or just trying to understand someone better, observing eye movements can provide a deeper connection and insight. It’s like having a cheat sheet for human behaviour!

Next time you are chatting with someone, pay attention to their eyes. You might just unlock a new level of understanding in your interactions.

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Meta Magic – Filter out your own biases

It was a special day in the otherwise mundane life of retired teacher Mr. Ramesh. The reason was a visit from a young man who had come searching for him.

“Sir, you were my class teacher. Do you recognize me?” Ranjit asked with the excitement of a child receiving his favourite candy.

When Mr. Ramesh mentioned that he couldn’t recollect, Ranjit wasn’t bothered. “Of course, sir. What am I expecting? You are the Moon, and we are the stars. A Moon cannot remember all the stars, but every star remembers the Moon. How can you remember me amidst so many students?”

Mr. Ramesh’s smile encouraged Ranjit to reveal the reason for his visit.

“Sir, today is my first day as a teacher. I wanted to say thank you. Because of you, I am a teacher today.”

This time, Mr. Ramesh’s smile reached his eyes, and he delightedly blessed Ranjit. “While my joy knows no bounds today, I would love to know how I inspired you to become a teacher.”

Gratitude shone in Ranjit’s eyes as he shared the incident.

“Sir, once my best friend in the class got a new wristwatch, and I wanted it so much that I stole it. When he discovered the theft, he immediately reported it to our teacher, which was you. You first made a humble request for whoever had the watch to please return it. But when no one came forward, you asked us to form a circle and close our eyes. You instructed us to open our eyes only when you told us to, and meanwhile, you checked each person’s pocket one by one. When you reached my pocket, you found the watch, but you continued searching everyone’s pockets. In the end, you announced that you had found the watch and we could open our eyes.” Ranjit felt a lump in his throat but managed to continue.

“Sir, that day, you protected my dignity. Otherwise, I would have been defamed and labelled as a thief. Not only that, but you also never scolded me in private or gave me a moral lecture. That was your way of silently moulding me. This inspired me to become a teacher like you, Sir.” Ranjit was now in tears, his hands folded in front of Mr. Ramesh.

“Ah, now I remember the incident. But I still don’t remember you, my son. Because even while searching, I had my eyes closed, so I never knew it was you. For me, the essence of teaching is to teach with equality, without any kind of bias.”

My question to you is: Can you filter out your own biases?

Hook From The Book

“Sometimes, even when you start with the last page and you think you know everything, a book finds a way to surprise you.” ― Emily Henry, Book Lovers

Movie Motivation

“Tumhare paas joh jai, tumhare hisaab se kam hai… Lekin kisi doosre ke nazar se dekho, toh tumhare paas bahut kuch hai” (translated to “What you have might seem less to you… But if you look from someone else’s perspective, you have a lot.”) This dialogue from the movie Kal Ho Na Ho is a reminder to be grateful about what we truly have.

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Thoughtfully yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Master Trainer and Coach

“Some solutions are like air. Invisible, but very much there. All you need to do is to inhale a little deeper.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“Outcomes ‘come out’ when we achieve them.” – Joseph O’ Connor

One Minute NLP – Sensory Language

Remember those times when you were eager to share a conversation with your friends, only to realize they were completely disengaged, their minds wandering elsewhere? Or when you read an email and none of the lines made sense? Or perhaps you picked up a book with high expectations, set aside solitary time for it, and when you opened the first page, nothing captivated you?

What is the common thread in all these situations? The answer is simple: these communications lacked spark and failed to captivate their audience.

Conversely, there are moments when you feel all eyes are transfixed on you, as if you are about to reveal the most important secret of life. Or you might have a friend or family member whose words everyone eagerly waits for because when they speak, the world listens.

There are emails that not only capture your mind but also leave a lasting impression on your heart, and we all have a list of books we couldn’t put down. So, what’s the secret sauce for captivating an audience?

The secret sauce is known as “Sensory Language.” According to NLP, if your communication – whether verbal, written, or in story form – is enriched with sensory language, the audience will feel hooked. This involves using words that bring descriptions to life by engaging all the senses: sight, smell, sound, touch, and taste. This makes your sentences come alive and your stories irresistible. Your emails will no longer fall flat, and your stories will be enchanting.

Ready to start incorporating sensory language into your communication? Simply tap into the vast resources of sensory words available online and watch the magic unfold in your conversations, emails, and stories.

Meta Magic – The Handpump of Abundance

“Is this the end of my life?” Raman asked himself, searching the empty desert for an answer. His flask was dry, his throat ached from dehydration, and hope was slipping away. Two days without water had left him weak and desperate.

Stranded with no one around, today seemed like his last day. Suddenly, he spotted a flickering image of a hut. Was it real or a mirage? He squinted and rubbed his eyes. It was real—a hut, a sign of hope. He sprinted towards it, feeling a surge of energy.

Inside, he found a hand pump. His heart lifted as he began to pump. One push, two pushes, but nothing happened. His heart sank again. Scanning the hut, he spotted a filled water bottle and heaved a sigh of relief.

He immediately uncorked the bottle, and as he brought it to his lips, he noticed a note attached to it. “Use this water to start the pump. Once you are done using the pump, don’t forget to refill the bottle before you leave.”

Raman’s mind was in turmoil. What if this was a prank? What if the pump no longer worked? Should he drink the water or use it to prime the pump? He closed his eyes, feeling a lump in his throat. Deciding to take a leap of faith, he poured the water into the pump and began pumping again.

His faith was rewarded. The pump roared to life after just two attempts. His joy knew no bounds. He drank his fill, bathed as much as he wanted, filled all his large flasks, and remembered to refill the bottle. Today felt like a rebirth for Raman.

He scanned the room again and found a pencil and a map. Grateful, he now knew where he was. “How can I show my gratitude?” he wondered.

He looked at the filled, corked bottle. Taking a piece of paper, he wrote with the pencil: “Believe me, it works. Always.”

Water in this story represents all the good things in life – something that brings a smile. It can be intangible knowledge or symbolize money, love, family, friendship, happiness, respect, or anything else you value. Whatever it is that you seek in life – that’s your water.

The water pump represents the workings of the universe. Give it some “water” to work with, and it will return far more than you put in.

My question to you is: Do you believe in a handpump of abundance?

Hook From The Book

“Men and women are both human beings. And as humans, we are by-products of our upbringings, victims of our lacklustre educational systems, and choosers of our behaviours.” ― Bonnie Garmus, Lessons In Chemistry

Movie Motivation

“Woh bach gaya kyuki maine ek chauthi fail ko underestimate karne ki galti ki thi” (translated to “He got away because I made the mistake of underestimating a 4th grade failed person.”) This dialogue from the movie Drishyam 2 is a comment that formal education is not the only benchmark of intelligence.

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Why You Should Not Eat The Frog

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Thoughtfully yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

“When a door is closed, Push – because it might not always be locked.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“If you go through the world looking for excellence, you will find excellence. If you go through the world looking for problems, you will find problems. Or as the Arabic saying puts it, “What a piece of bread looks like depends on whether you are hungry or not”.”- Joseph O’ Connor

One Minute NLP – Backtrack Frame

Do you remember the days when you were asked to rewrite what you read in your own words? It might have seemed boring, but the activity had a definite objective: to enable recall and to establish a common understanding between you and the author.

In NLP, this concept is known as the BACKTRACK FRAME, where past information (verbal and nonverbal) is retrieved to establish and enhance a better understanding of a certain point of view.

This approach is especially useful at the start of meetings or when returning to a previous agenda. By providing a standard foundation, it ensures that everyone is on the same page.

While these are instances where we consciously apply the Backtrack Frame to our advantage, are you aware of how your subconscious mind slips into the Backtrack Frame of hurtful memories of the past that can prevent us from achieving success in the present or future?

Meta Magic – Which Doll are You?

An elderly king, wanting to pass his crown to his only son, sought to ensure the Prince understood the essence of kingship.

On the Prince’s 25th birthday, the 60-year-old King presented him with three dolls. “What? Dolls? Father, are you all right? I am not a girl, nor a child anymore,” the Prince exclaimed in surprise.

The King smiled and said, “I know, my son. But these are not ordinary dolls. They are here to teach you what it means to be a king.” Though puzzled, the Prince awaited further explanation. The King instructed him to pick up the first doll and insert a string into its ear.

The Prince complied and saw the string come out of the other ear. He looked at his father with wide, questioning eyes. “These people are the indifferent ones,” explained the King. “Whatever you tell them goes in one ear and out the other. A king should never be insensitive like this.”

Now intrigued, the Prince followed the instructions to insert a string into the second doll’s ear. This time, the string emerged from its mouth. Before he could ask, his father explained, “Such people are not trustworthy. Whatever you tell them, they cannot keep it to themselves. A king with such a flaw does not deserve the crown.”

Humbled by each revelation, the Prince picked up the third doll and inserted the string. To his surprise, the string did not come out anywhere, as if the doll was sealed in all the right places. “The King should be exactly like this,” the elderly King said. “Whatever reaches him stays within him. Not an iota is revealed. Trust is the ultimate crown a King can wear.”

The King knew his son was now ready to be crowned.

My question to you is: Which doll are you?

Hook From The Book

“Although it’s good to try new things and to keep an open mind, it’s also extremely important to stay true to who you really are.” ― Gail Honeyman, Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine.

Movie Motivation

“Every man dies, Not every man really loves.” This dialogue from the movie Braveheart is a reminder to check whether we are living our life or merely existing.

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7 Mindfulness Exercises

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Mehernosh Randeria