Whom are you Giving Your Power to?

by | Aug 12, 2023 | NLP Around You | 0 comments

The next time you are asked to use your full strength, remember to include the wisdom from this newsletter as your strength too.

Thoughtful Thought

“Manifestation is nothing, but mind, body and soul working together for one mission.”- Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“People always tell me with absolute certainty that they don’t trust themselves.”- Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP – What is NLP?

A boy asked his mother, ‘What’s NLP?’

His mother said, ‘I will tell you in a moment, but first you have to do something so you can understand. See your granddad over there in his chair?’

‘Yep,’ said the boy.

‘Go and ask him how his arthritis is today.’

The boy went over to his grandfather. ‘Granddad,’ he said, ‘how’s your arthritis today?’

‘Oh, it’s a bit bad, son,’ replied the old man. ‘It’s always worse in damp weather. I can hardly move my fingers today.’ A look of pain crossed his face.

The boy went back to his mother. ‘He said it was bad. I think it hurts him. Are you going to tell me what NLP is now?’

‘In a minute, I promise,’ replied his mother. ‘Now go over and ask Granddad what was the funniest thing that you did when you were very young.’

The boy went over to his grandfather. ‘Granddad,’ he began, ‘what’s the funniest thing I ever did when I was very young?’

The old man’s face lit up. ‘Oh,’ he smiled, ‘there were lots of things. There was the time when you and your friend played Father Christmas and sprinkled talcum powder all over the bathroom pretending it was snow. I laughed – but I didn’t have to clean it up.’ He stared into the distance with a smile.

‘Then there was the time I took you out for a walk. It was a lovely day and you were singing a nursery rhyme you had just learned. Loudly. A man went past and gave you a nasty look. He thought you were being too noisy. He asked me to tell you to be quiet. You turned round and said to him, “If you don’t like me singing, you can go and boil your head.” And carried on even louder. . .’

The old man chuckled. The boy went back to his mother. ‘Did you hear what Granddad said?’ he asked.

‘Yes,’ his mother replied. You changed how he felt with a few words. That’s NLP’.

– An excerpt from NLP Workbook by Joseph O’Connor

Meta- Magic – Whom do you give your power to?

A prosperous King couldn’t believe his luck when he received a lunch invitation from his neighbourhood King, who he was always in awe of, and seriously wanted to emulate, for the kind of success that this neighbourhood King had achieved.

“This is a golden chance to learn through his structure. I should make note of every detail about his kingdom. How can I change my people and my surroundings, so that I can scale up my kingdom’s prosperity like him? I should keep taking notes.” The King murmured to himself while commuting towards the neighbourhood kingdom.

Right from the moment he entered the neighbouring Kingdom, he tried to take note of everything – from the behaviour of gatekeeper, to farmers working and potters moulding their clays, and women and children. Everytime he scanned every human, he became more confused, as he could not spot any difference. They all were as happy and as warm as his folks were.

He finally made it to the palace and once the feast was served, he noticed a fly in both his and the host King’s soup bowls. He immediately sprang into action and raised his voice and shouted at the waiter who served it.

The waiter was frightened, taken aback, and immediately went to replace it. In the haste of doing all this, he forgot to apologize, which enraged the King even more. Resultingly, the King said to the host King, “What kind of people work for you? You should immediately kick him out of this royal, prestigious job.”

The host King, who was then silently taking out the fly from his own soup, looked upto the guest King and smiled. Instead of replying to him, he first called the waiter and said, “Raman, I know it is a rare mistake. Can you please get me another bowl?”  The waiter immediately apologised with all his heart and got him another bowl. His eyes were pleading the King already and there was guilt reflecting there.

The guest King was perplexed and asked the host King how he could not react to such enraging situations. The host King replied, “I did not react. I responded so that I don’t give a fly so much power over my emotions that it begins to control me. Calmness has been my key to unlocking many doors of success.”

The guest King understood the change he needed to make to prosper. It was in making a choice between reacting and responding.

My question to you is: Who are you giving your power to? Are you allowing the situations around you to control your emotions? Or do you choose to respond instead of react?

Hook From The Book

No you don’t understand. You’re not a wave, you’re part of the ocean.” Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom

Movie Motivation

This week’s movie dialogue is contributed by Dr. Hemant Chouhan

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It is so simple to be happy but it is so difficult to be simple. This profound dialogue from the movie Bawarchi is an ode to the original quote from Nobel Laureate Rabindranath Tagore. This clip on YouTube (with subtitles) explains the context as well as the deeper meaning of this line. (Incidentally, the subtitle wrongly attributes this quote to Ranjan instead of Rabindranath Tagore, while it is rightly mentioned in the actual clip.)

This Week’s Winning Post:

The 7 Rules of Life

See you next week!

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

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