I trust that you are somebody who empowers everybody in your own unique ways, rather than the nobody who keeps waiting for anybody. 

Thoughtful Thought 

“Where there is a will, there is a way. Where there is wisdom, there are wiser ways.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner 

“You cannot change people by removing something. You must create a void and then fill it.”- Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP – Generalisation

“Working moms cannot give full attention to kids.” “Every back-bencher is a failure.” “I always get nervous while meeting strangers.”

Generalisation refers to the process of taking a specific experience or behaviour and applying it to other similar situations. It’s like taking what you learn from one situation and extending it in many more different contexts.

Three ways in which a Generalisation can be spotted in language are:

1. words of universal quantifiers like – always, never, everyone, no one, everywhere, nowhere, etc 

2. words of compulsions (rules) like – should, must, need to, have to, etc

3. words of possibilities or impossibilities like – can, cannot, could, could not, would, would not, etc 

While generalisations appear to be facts formed by our reality, they are a convenient extrapolation of just a few instances over a larger context, which may or may not always be true. This is where generalisations may operate as a virus in the software of effective communication and give birth to misjudgments and biases resulting in faulty decisions. 

So, how can we become more aware of our own generalisations? 

Ask yourself questions that seek counter-examples or question the perceived consequences of your beliefs. For example – “According to whom these working mothers cannot give full attention?” or “How are you measuring attention?” or “Is there a working mother who gives full attention to her kid?” or “Are there any back-benchers who are not failures?”

PS: Not all generalisations are limiting. One needs to figure out which are empowering and which are not helping in holistic growth.

Meta-Magic – What are your labels?

As part of a classroom prank, a sticker was glued on John’s back that said “I am stupid”. The whole classroom laughed when John walked by. During the Maths lecture later that day, the teacher wrote a difficult question on the board. No one was able to solve it except John, who walked ahead and solved it on the board, while the class continued to giggle.

The teacher asked the class to clap for him and remove the sticker from his back. She told him, “It seems that you don’t know about the sticker your classmate has pasted on your back.”

Then the teacher looked at the rest of the class and said:
“Before I give you a punishment, let me tell you 1 thing: Throughout your life, people will put labels on you with many nasty words to stop your progress. Had John known about the paper, he wouldn’t have gotten up to answer the question. All you have to do in life is ignore the labels people give you and seize every opportunity you have to learn, grow and improve yourself.”

My Questions to you are: What are your labels which you have been accepting unconsciously or consciously? What labels are you giving others consciously or unconsciously?

Hook From The Book 

“Before I can live with other folks, I’ve got to live with myself. The one thing that doesn’t abide by majority rule is a person’s conscience.”- Atticus Finch from To Kill A Mockingbird.

Movie Motivation

Today’s featured dialogue is recommended by Suraj Shankar

“Kehte hai agar kisi cheez ko dil se chaho toh puri kaynaat use tumse milane ki Koshish mein lag jaati hai.” – Translated to “It is said that if you want something from your heart, then the whole universe conspires to make it available for you”, this dialogue reminds us of the power of “Believe and Become”. Belief is the starting point of achieving your results.

Weekly Winning Post 

Have you found the User Manual of Your Life?

Question of the Week

When the universe conspires to make things work for you, changes start happening in life at conscious as well as unconscious levels. I am sure you are noticing some obvious changes in the look and feel of this newsletter too, even though the sections and structure have remained the same.

So, do reply to this newsletter and share what changes have you noticed in this episode and how do you connect with these?

See you soon in the next episode!

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria