Do you use all your Strength?

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When you choose to simply be in the moment, you notice the finest of nuances around you. Some of these nuances are handpicked for you in this newsletter NLP Around You.

Thoughtful Thought

“When life is not a bed of roses, choose your pillow wisely.”- Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Most people plan by disaster. They think of what can go wrong and then they master it.”- Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP – The Filters of Communication

In the last three editions, we dived into ‘deletion, distortion and generalisation’. These are known as ‘Communication Filters’. These are the filters that facilitate the meaning-making function of our mind. The way we perceive information is based on this meaning-making. Imagine there are 2 students who fail a competitive exam. Let’s examine what could be the different thought processes of these students:

Student A: I always fail, I knew I would not make it, I am a duffer, I don’t even know how to study properly, I am distracted, I have other things that I have to pay attention to, I am useless.

Student B: I failed this time, I can do better next time, I am yet to learn how to crack this exam, I will re-prioritise the various things where my attention is currently divided, I am figuring out which part of the test I need to practice on.

Now think about it. Which of the 2 students is using the filters of deletion, distortion and generalization?

The answer is BOTH!!! Yes, Both. And that’s the crux of understanding that these filters are not always unhelpful. We tend to apply them either in helpful ways or unhelpful ways. Student A chooses to delete, distort and generalise the failure in a limiting manner, whereas Student B chooses to apply these filters in a more empowering manner.

Your inner chatter in your daily life can either be handcuffed by these filters or liberated because of them.

Meta- Magic – Do You Use All Your Strength?

A little boy was trying hard to push a huge log of wood in a park, while his father kept encouraging him by telling him that he could do it. “Come on son! Use all your strength. You’ll do it.”

Exasperatingly, the little boy gave it one more shot and could not succeed even then. He turned towards his father with dropped shoulders and dull eyes and began to fret by saying, “Dad, I can’t do it.”

“Son, you did not follow my advice. I asked you to use all of your strength. You did not ask me to help you.”

My Questions to you all: Do you use all of your strength?

AND more importantly, in order to use all your strength, are you first able to recognise all your strength?

Hook From The Book

The greatest gap in the world is the gap between knowing and doing.”– The One Truth By Jon Gordon

Movie Motivation

This week’s movie dialogue is contributed by Zeel Chapaneri.

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“Zindagi mein jab koi pattern banta ya koi aadat banti dikhai de na….toh uske bare mein acchi tarah se sochna chahiye….Genius is about knowing when to stop.” from the movie Dear Zindagi. Translated as “In life, whenever you notice a pattern or a habit getting created, it is time to think about it properly… Genius is about knowing when to stop (the pattern)”

Zeel shares that this has helped her a lot in identifying the patterns and overcoming them.

And interestingly, these patterns are formed by none other than the above filters of deletion, distortion and generalisation. Even more interesting is that each person forms their own unique patterns inspite of experiencing similar real-life situations.

This Week’s Winning Post:

If This Then That

See you next week!

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

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