“Being in the moment is the moment.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“People who mind read usually feel they are right, but this does not guarantee they are. Why guess when you can ask?” – Joseph O’ Connor

One Minute NLP – How Your Eyes Reveal Your Thinking Processes

Did you know that the direction you look can give away how you are thinking? In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), eye movements, or “eye accessing cues,” are fascinating clues to our thought processes.

Imagine this: when someone glances up and to the right, they might be visualizing a new scene or imagining something that hasn’t happened. Conversely, looking up and to the left often means they are recalling a memory. It’s like their eyes are windows to different parts of their brain!

Ever noticed someone looking sideways to the right? They might be imagining a sound or a conversation. If their eyes dart sideways to the left, they are likely recalling a familiar sound or voice. And when someone looks down and to the right, they are usually engaged in self-talk or internal dialogue.

Understanding these patterns can be super helpful. Whether you are in a conversation, a coaching session, or just trying to understand someone better, observing eye movements can provide a deeper connection and insight. It’s like having a cheat sheet for human behaviour!

Next time you are chatting with someone, pay attention to their eyes. You might just unlock a new level of understanding in your interactions.

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Meta Magic – Filter out your own biases

It was a special day in the otherwise mundane life of retired teacher Mr. Ramesh. The reason was a visit from a young man who had come searching for him.

“Sir, you were my class teacher. Do you recognize me?” Ranjit asked with the excitement of a child receiving his favourite candy.

When Mr. Ramesh mentioned that he couldn’t recollect, Ranjit wasn’t bothered. “Of course, sir. What am I expecting? You are the Moon, and we are the stars. A Moon cannot remember all the stars, but every star remembers the Moon. How can you remember me amidst so many students?”

Mr. Ramesh’s smile encouraged Ranjit to reveal the reason for his visit.

“Sir, today is my first day as a teacher. I wanted to say thank you. Because of you, I am a teacher today.”

This time, Mr. Ramesh’s smile reached his eyes, and he delightedly blessed Ranjit. “While my joy knows no bounds today, I would love to know how I inspired you to become a teacher.”

Gratitude shone in Ranjit’s eyes as he shared the incident.

“Sir, once my best friend in the class got a new wristwatch, and I wanted it so much that I stole it. When he discovered the theft, he immediately reported it to our teacher, which was you. You first made a humble request for whoever had the watch to please return it. But when no one came forward, you asked us to form a circle and close our eyes. You instructed us to open our eyes only when you told us to, and meanwhile, you checked each person’s pocket one by one. When you reached my pocket, you found the watch, but you continued searching everyone’s pockets. In the end, you announced that you had found the watch and we could open our eyes.” Ranjit felt a lump in his throat but managed to continue.

“Sir, that day, you protected my dignity. Otherwise, I would have been defamed and labelled as a thief. Not only that, but you also never scolded me in private or gave me a moral lecture. That was your way of silently moulding me. This inspired me to become a teacher like you, Sir.” Ranjit was now in tears, his hands folded in front of Mr. Ramesh.

“Ah, now I remember the incident. But I still don’t remember you, my son. Because even while searching, I had my eyes closed, so I never knew it was you. For me, the essence of teaching is to teach with equality, without any kind of bias.”

My question to you is: Can you filter out your own biases?

Hook From The Book

“Sometimes, even when you start with the last page and you think you know everything, a book finds a way to surprise you.” ― Emily Henry, Book Lovers

Movie Motivation

“Tumhare paas joh jai, tumhare hisaab se kam hai… Lekin kisi doosre ke nazar se dekho, toh tumhare paas bahut kuch hai” (translated to “What you have might seem less to you… But if you look from someone else’s perspective, you have a lot.”) This dialogue from the movie Kal Ho Na Ho is a reminder to be grateful about what we truly have.

This Week’s Winning Post

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Thoughtfully yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

NLP Master Trainer and Coach