“Aisa hi hoon main…”

That iconic line from countless Bollywood dramas where the protagonist defends a character flaw with pride. A burst of melodrama. A touch of music. A sharp close-up. But also—if you think about it—a subtle sign of resignation.

I’ve seen a similar scene unfold in training rooms, coaching sessions, and conversations around psychometric reports.

“Oh, I’m an introvert… that’s why I don’t speak much in meetings.”

“I’m a red on DISC… I have to lead. I can’t do followership.”

“Low adaptability score? That’s just how I am.”

And just like that, a simple assessment becomes a sentence. A few coloured graphs or alphabets start defining our potential. Instead of using the report as a mirror, we start using it as a mask.

Let me say this out loud: You are not your PRISM profile. Or your MBTI code. Or your DISC letter.

You are not a report.

You are a possibility.

 

When Awareness Becomes a Cage

Imagine receiving a map that tells you where you are. Great. It shows the terrain, the landmarks, maybe even your current location blinking in blue. But what if you start mistaking that blue dot as your destination?

That’s exactly what happens when people take psychometric assessments and start defending their results instead of developing from them.

As I often say, you defend what you define.

And that’s dangerous.

Because the moment you say “this is who I am,” you unknowingly shut the door to “this is who I could become.”

Psychometric tools are brilliant. I personally love working with PRISM Brain Mapping—especially because it brings neuroscience into the mix. These tools can give you incredible insights about your behavioural preferences, strengths, and areas of development.

But the key word here is preferences. Not permanence.

 

The Real Power Lies in What You Do With the Insights

Let me share a quick story.

A young manager I once coached came out of a PRISM session visibly disturbed.

He said, “This says I don’t naturally show empathy. Does that mean I’ll never be a good leader?”

I smiled and said, “It also says you’re naturally high on logical thinking. So let’s logically look at this: Is empathy a skill or a genetic mutation?”

He grinned. The switch had flipped.

 

Awareness is where the journey begins—not ends.

And that’s where Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) enters like a wise mentor in a movie—offering perspective, flexibility, and tools to shift.

 

The NLP Bridge: From Personality to Possibility

NLP is built on three elegant pillars:

1. Sensory Awareness:

This is your current reality. The ability to observe yourself and others without judgement. This is where psychometric tools come in. They shine a light on patterns you may not even be aware of.

So yes—use the assessments. Take the test. Understand your map. That’s Pillar 1.

2. Outcome Orientation:

Now ask yourself—what do I want to achieve? What kind of leader, parent, coach, or friend do I want to become? This is the direction you want to head toward. Your personal GPS coordinates for growth. That’s Pillar 2.

3. Behavioural Flexibility:

This is where the magic happens. NLP gives you techniques to change patterns, reframe beliefs, manage emotional states, and create new behaviours. It’s about finding another way when one route is blocked. This is Pillar 3.

When you integrate these three, something powerful unfolds.

From I am this way…
To I’ve noticed I tend to respond this way…
To I’m learning new ways to respond…
To I can choose how I respond.

A Little Bollywood, A Lot of Truth

Remember Chak De! India?

Each player had a strength. A dominant zone. A predictable behaviour. But victory didn’t come from playing solo in their comfort zones. It came from adapting, collaborating, and stepping into roles they never thought they could play.

That’s behavioural flexibility.

That’s NLP.

And that’s where psychometric assessments become fuel for transformation—not a label for limitation.

 

From Labels to Leverage

So the next time someone says, “I’m an ENTJ,” or “I’m a Blue-Green,” smile and ask them, “Lovely. And what would you like to become?”

Because once you start asking the right questions, definitions lose their grip. And possibilities begin.

After all, you are not a label on a report.

You are a story still being written.

And the pen is in your hands.

 

So, the real question is—are you ready to shift from this is who I am to this is who I can become?

Are you willing to use your self-awareness not as a conclusion, but as a courageous beginning?

Because if you are, then I invite you to take this exploration deeper—with us, in person.

On 10th April 2025, join me and Deepti Jandial at Novotel Mumbai Airport for a transformational, full-day workshop titled “From Personality to Possibility”—where psychometric insights meet NLP tools to help you rewire your patterns, reimagine your outcomes, and reclaim your flexibility.

It’s time to stop being boxed in by a personality type and start building the life you truly want—one conscious choice at a time.

🔗 Register here: https://w3coach.com/from-personality-to-possibility/
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Let’s be honest—most New Year resolutions don’t even make it past February. That initial excitement? Gone. The vision board? Gathering dust. And those grand plans? Well… life happened.

But what if I told you there’s a better way to set and achieve goals—one that keeps your focus sharp, your momentum strong, and your execution consistent?

Enter: Quarterly Planning. Or as I like to call it—Design Your Quarter.

Because let’s face it, a year is just too long to plan effectively.

Think about it:

• A year gives you too much room to procrastinate (“I still have time… I’ll start later.”)
• A year makes it easy to lose focus (“Wait, what was my goal again?”)
• A year doesn’t allow for quick course corrections (“I set that goal 8 months ago, but now things have changed.”)

But 90 days?

• That’s short enough to stay focused but long enough to see real progress.
• That’s urgent enough to take action now but flexible enough to adapt as needed.
• That’s manageable enough for your brain to stay engaged without getting overwhelmed.

In fact, high achievers across industries—from business leaders to elite athletes—operate on quarterly execution cycles, not yearly ones. The best-selling book The 12 Week Year by Brian Moran is built entirely on this concept:

👉 A quarter is not just a chunk of time—it’s a system for high performance.

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Why Designing Your Quarter Works Better Than Annual Goal Setting

Imagine you are driving at night. Your car’s headlights illuminate only a few hundred meters ahead—but that’s enough to get to your destination.

That’s what quarterly planning does. It doesn’t overwhelm you with the entire journey. Instead, it helps you focus on what’s immediately ahead—while keeping the bigger vision in mind.

1️⃣ Clarity: The Power of a Defined Focus

Have you ever felt busy but not productive? Like you are putting in effort but not really moving the needle? That’s usually because you are spread too thin.

Quarterly planning forces you to cut the noise and zoom in on the few things that actually matter. Instead of juggling 10 half-baked goals over 12 months, you pick 2-3 high-impact objectives for the next 90 days.

💡 Example: Instead of vaguely saying, “I want to get healthier this year,” you get specific:
👉 “For the next 90 days, I will exercise 4 times a week and meal prep on Sundays.”

Boom. Clear, measurable, and achievable.

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2️⃣ Momentum: Small Wins That Keep You Moving

Have you ever tried pushing a stalled car? The hardest part is getting it to move initially. But once it starts rolling, it gains momentum and gets easier to push.

That’s exactly how execution works.

• When goals feel too far away, motivation drops.
• When we don’t see quick wins, we start doubting ourselves.
• When progress is slow, we quit.

But a 90-day sprint gives you shorter feedback loops. You see results faster, adjust quicker, and stay motivated because progress is tangible.

💡 Example: Let’s say you are growing your business. Instead of saying, “I want to double my revenue this year,” you set a quarterly focus:
👉 “In the next 90 days, I will increase sales by 20% by launching a new marketing campaign.”

Now, every week, you know exactly what to track. And every small win fuels the next one.

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3️⃣ Reflection: The Missing Piece in Goal Achievement

Most people don’t fail because they set the wrong goals.
They fail because they never pause to reflect, adjust, and realign.

We tend to operate in two modes:

1. Full speed ahead 🚀 – Excited, ambitious, taking action.
2. Completely stuck 🛑 – Burned out, lost, or overwhelmed.

But the best performers intentionally pause. They review what’s working, what’s not, and what needs tweaking.

💡 Think of it like flying a plane. A pilot doesn’t set the route once and hope for the best. They’re constantly checking instruments, adjusting altitude, and correcting their course based on real-time feedback.

Quarterly planning gives you a structured way to check your course, make necessary tweaks, and keep moving forward—without drifting off track.

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How to Design Your Quarter in 3 Simple Steps

1️⃣ Review & Reflect

• What worked well in the last 90 days?
• What didn’t go as planned, and why?
• What’s one major lesson you’ve learned?

2️⃣ Reset & Refocus

• What are the 2-3 most important priorities for the next 90 days?
• What distractions need to be eliminated?
• What habits and routines will support your success?

3️⃣ Reignite & Execute

• What’s the first small step you can take this week?
• How will you track progress and stay accountable?
• What’s your commitment to following through?

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Final Thought: The Next 90 Days Are in Your Hands

Time is going to pass anyway. The question is—will you let another quarter slip by, or will you take control of it?

The best part? You don’t have to do this alone.

If you’d like a structured way to pause, reflect, and reset before your next 90-day sprint, join me for:

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🚀 A simple, powerful reset to gain clarity, build momentum, and set yourself up for success.

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Because your next breakthrough isn’t a year away—it’s just one well-designed quarter away. Let’s make it count. 💙

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Have you ever walked into a room and immediately sensed the tension in the air? Maybe a colleague’s frustration, a friend’s anxiety, or even a stranger’s anger seeped into your mood. Before you knew it, their emotional storm had pulled you in.

It happens to the best of us.

While empathy is a gift, emotional absorption is a burden. The trick? Detached empathy. It’s the ability to care without carrying, to connect without collapsing. And that’s where NLP comes in—helping you master the art of observing emotions without absorbing them.

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The Difference Between Observing and Absorbing

Think of yourself as a mirror vs. a sponge.

• A mirror reflects emotions without holding onto them. You acknowledge the feelings in front of you but remain unaffected.
• A sponge soaks in the emotions of others, becoming drenched in their energy—whether it’s sadness, anger, or anxiety.

Most people unknowingly act as sponges. NLP teaches you how to be a mirror instead—engaged but unaffected.

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Why Do We Absorb Emotions?

1. Emotional Contagion: The Unconscious Pull

Ever yawned because someone else yawned? That’s emotional contagion at work. We unconsciously mirror people—body language, tone, even emotions. This is great for building rapport but dangerous when it leaves us emotionally drained.

2. Triggers from the Past

Sometimes, what we absorb isn’t just about the present—it’s a subconscious echo of something unresolved. Someone’s criticism might remind us of a past wound, making their words feel heavier than they actually are.

3. The ‘Fixer’ Mindset

If you are someone who feels responsible for others’ emotions, you are more likely to absorb them. You don’t just listen—you carry. The problem? Carrying another person’s burden doesn’t lighten their load; it only weighs you down.

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How NLP Helps You Observe Without Absorbing

1. Reframing: “This Is Not Mine to Hold”

Picture this: You are walking through a park, and someone hands you a heavy bag. Do you automatically take it? Or do you pause and decide whether it’s yours to carry?

Emotions work the same way. Just because someone hands you their frustration doesn’t mean you have to take it.

• Instead of “I feel their frustration”, say “I notice their frustration”.
• Instead of “Their anger is making me anxious”, say “I see they are upset, and that’s okay”.

Reframing creates emotional distance. You still understand what they are feeling—you just don’t wear it.

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2. The Dissociation Technique: Becoming the Observer

Let’s try a quick mental shift.

Imagine you are watching yourself from a distance, as if you were in a movie. The scene is playing out, but you are not inside it—you are just watching. Now, zoom out further. Turn down the colours. Lower the sound.

What happens?

The emotional charge starts fading.

NLP’s dissociation technique helps you step back from emotionally charged situations, turning reactions into reflections. You are no longer inside the storm—you are watching it from a safe distance.

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3. Anchoring a State of Emotional Neutrality

Have you ever met someone who remains calm no matter what’s happening around them? Their energy is like an anchor in rough waters.

You can train yourself to do the same using NLP anchoring.

Here’s how you can do this:

• Recall a moment when you felt completely composed and in control.
• Close your eyes and relive that state vividly—see what you saw, hear what you heard, feel what you felt.
• As the feeling intensifies, press your thumb and forefinger together to create a physical anchor.
• Practise this repeatedly.

Next time an emotionally charged situation arises, fire your anchor. Let it pull you back to neutrality.

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4. The NLP Meta Model: Asking the Right Questions

Ever had a moment where you assumed someone was upset with you, only to find out they were just having a bad day?

Our internal dialogue often fuels unnecessary emotional absorption. NLP’s Meta Model questions help break this cycle:

• “What else could this mean?” (Reframes the situation)
• “What’s really happening here?” (Separates facts from assumptions)
• “Is this emotion mine to own, or just mine to witness?” (Creates emotional clarity)

The moment you start questioning the emotion, you regain control over how much of it you let in.

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The Power of Detached Empathy

Empathy doesn’t mean drowning with someone—it means holding the boat steady while they navigate the waves.

A seasoned doctor doesn’t weep with every patient. A pilot doesn’t panic when turbulence hits. They remain present, compassionate, yet detached. That’s detached empathy—being available without being absorbed.

So, the next time you feel emotions pulling you in, pause and remind yourself:

• I can acknowledge without absorbing.
• I can care without carrying.
• I can be compassionate without being consumed.

And most importantly: I am the observer, not the absorber.

Final Thought: The Lighthouse Metaphor

A lighthouse stands tall in the midst of storms. It doesn’t get lost in the crashing waves or shaken by the winds. It simply observes, guides, and remains steady.

Be the lighthouse. Observe, don’t absorb.

What’s your experience with emotional absorption? Have you found ways to step back while still being supportive? Let’s discuss in the comments!

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