“Unlucky are those who think about luck. Lucky are those who take action.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“It is not a matter of ends justifying means; but of the creation of new means and new ends.” – John Grinder.

One Minute NLP – Identity

“Who am I?” This question itches almost everyone at some point in their lives. A metaphorical question is recently posed in the movie ‘Laapataa Ladies’, through this dialogue: ‘Isn’t covering the face equivalent to covering your identity?’

While our face is just an outline or a superficial part of who we are, what really matters here is what colours are filled up within the outline. Each identity is made up of a kaleidoscope of different colours (thoughts, beliefs, and patterns).

The ‘Logical Levels of Change’ model in Neuro-Linguistic Programming includes IDENTITY as one of the levels. When any change is desired, it is important to examine whether your Identity supports that change or whether it will come in the way of that change.

Our identities start getting formed right since childhood. For example, a child who procrastinated once or twice gets labelled as lazy and this becomes part of his/her identity label which he/she unconsciously carries as baggage.

To get to know yourself more deeply, I invite you to take a blank piece of paper and write down all your ‘I am’ statements.  E.g., I am a mother, I am a husband, I am a brother… initially, in this exercise, you may probably come up with the various “roles” that you play. Go on further to write all the various other ‘I am’ statements that you tell yourself throughout the day, like I am creative, I am boring, I am introverted, I am lazy, I am…

We will continue discussing what to do with this awareness in a future episode of NLP Around You.

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Meta Magic – Do you have a Bird’s Eye View?

Dronacharya, the great archery teacher, once decided to test his disciples. He placed a wooden bird high on a tree and asked each student to aim for its eye.

The first disciple stepped forward, holding the bow and arrow. Dronacharya asked, “What do you see?” He replied, “I see the tree, the bird, the sky, and the leaves.” Dronacharya shook his head and asked him to step aside.

Next, the second disciple said he saw the tree, the bird, and everything around it. Dronacharya again was not satisfied. Each student gave a similar response, seeing everything around the bird.

Finally, Arjuna stepped up. When asked what he saw, Arjuna replied, “I see only the bird’s eye.”

Dronacharya’s eyes lit up with satisfaction. “And what else?” he asked.

“Nothing else,” Arjuna said firmly. “Just the bird’s eye.”

With a pleased nod, Dronacharya said, “Shoot.”

Arjuna released his arrow, hitting the target perfectly.

My question to you is: When life tests you, are you focused on the eye of your bird?

Hook From The Book

“You are not confused. You are experiencing a confusing situation. Separate the confusing situation from who you are. If you say ‘I am confused,’ you are implying the confusing situation is part of you. It is not. It is part of what you are experiencing. The answer to the confusion does not lie in the confusion itself. Rather it lies in the ability to step outside of it and see that you are experiencing it instead of it being you. The answer lies in you.” ― Najwa Zebian, Welcome Home: A Guide to Building a Home for Your Soul

Movie Motivation

“Being happy on your own is the toughest thing, Phool. But yes, once you master it, no one can bother you.“ This dialogue from the movie Laapataa Ladies reminds us that we are the masters of our own emotions.

This Week’s Winning Post

Self-Talk of a Perfectionist

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Mehernosh Randeria

“Make your story your glory.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“Everyone has a chance; if something didn’t work, it’s because of my limitations, not the other person’s. I am ultimately accountable for and own the outcomes of my choices. All of them.” – John Grinder.

One Minute NLP – Beliefs

Our reality is created by our Beliefs. Beliefs are what we trust to be true and are deeply ingrained in us. They shape our views on important aspects of life and the world. You either believe something or you don’t—there’s no middle ground. The interesting aspect of beliefs is that we are not even aware of some of our beliefs. They are often so deeply ingrained at the unconscious level. Our beliefs can empower or limit us because they often determine what we think we can and cannot do. Even when we don’t think about them, our beliefs still affect us. Beliefs influence our behaviour and decisions, from daily routines to career choices.

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Meta Magic – What is your Imaginary Fibreglass?

A marine biologist decided to experiment with a shark and some fish. He placed a large shark in a big tank and, after a while, added some fish. The shark quickly devoured its tasty meal.

In the second phase of the experiment, the biologist introduced a twist. He inserted a sturdy fibreglass partition to separate the fish from the shark. The shark, with a gleam in its eye, eagerly anticipated another delicious feast. However, it couldn’t break through the fibreglass. It tried again with double the force but to no avail. The shark continued its attempts until it was exhausted. Finally, it realized that the fibreglass barrier was unbreakable.

From that day on, the shark was so convinced by the presence of the fiberglass that it stopped trying altogether.

In the third phase of the experiment, when the marine biologist removed the fibreglass, the shark still believed the barrier was there and ceased its efforts to catch the fish entirely.

My question to you is: Are you living a life limited by an invisible fibreglass like that shark?

Hook From The Book

“The hardest thing about writing is getting in every day, breaking through the membrane. The second-hardest thing is getting out.”- Lily King, Writers and Lovers

Movie Motivation

“Nothing happens to anyone that he is not fitted by nature to bear.“ This powerful quote from the movie Gladiator reminds us of the NLP Presupposition that everyone has all the resources they need. Whether it is struggles, challenges or new horizons, nature has fitted us with all the resources that we need.

This Week’s Winning Post

Control these 5 M’s

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Mehernosh Randeria

“Every setback is a feedback, which prepares you for a comeback.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“NLP is an attitude and a methodology, not the trail of techniques it leaves behind.” – Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP – Communication with Self

Let me ask you a question: In a typical day, How much of our communication happens with others as compared to the communication that we do with ourselves? Here I am not talking about whether you are in a job that involves interactions with others or working by yourself. Before we even say a word to someone else, our minds are buzzing with thoughts, interpretations, and meanings. It’s like having a constant dialogue going on inside our heads, created by our perceptions, beliefs, and ultimately, our reality. It’s as though we’re in constant conversation with ourselves, crafting narratives that influence how we experience the world around us. Consider a simple scenario: receiving an unexpected compliment from a colleague. While the external exchange may seem brief, our internal response can be a symphony of thoughts and emotions. Do we dismiss the compliment as insincere, or do we embrace it and feel a boost in confidence? Our internal dialogue not only colours our perception of the compliment but also shapes how we view ourselves and others. Similarly, in moments of conflict or uncertainty, our internal communication takes center stage. Before we voice our concerns or opinions to others, we’ve already engaged in a dialogue within ourselves, processing information, assigning meaning, and formulating responses. Understanding and harnessing this internal dialogue is key to effective communication, personal growth, and relationship dynamics. Becoming aware of this communication with your own self allows you to explore and refine this inner conversation, unlocking pathways to greater self-awareness, resilience, and authentic connection. By mastering the art of communicating with ourselves, we lay the foundation for more meaningful and fulfilling interactions with others.

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Meta Magic – Are you Trading Simplicity for Complexity?

Today was a day of sheer joy for Rajan, one where even the word “happiness” felt inadequate to capture his elation. It marked the long-awaited launch of the world-class car he had painstakingly designed for a prestigious brand. This was his moment to shine, his opportunity to showcase his engineering prowess to the world.

As the day unfolded, everything seemed to fall perfectly into place. Yet, Rajan couldn’t shake off the nervous excitement as he watched the CEO take the car out for its inaugural test drive. However, his elation soon turned to dismay when they realized the car was an inch too tall to fit through the showroom entrance.

In an instant, Rajan’s heart sank. It felt like a blow to his dreams, shattering them into a million pieces. Amidst the chaos and disappointment, the team members started proposing some solutions. The paint technician suggested, “We can risk a scratch on the car while squeezing it out. Our team will immediately repaint it.” The Customer Support executive proposed breaking down the showroom entrance and then rebuilding it once the car had exited.

But amidst the confusion, a meek and hesitant voice from the chai vendor chipped in – “Sir, how about deflating the car’s tyres to decrease its height by an inch, allowing it to pass through the entrance unscathed?”

In that moment, amidst the tension and uncertainty, a sense of relief washed over everyone. It wasn’t about grand gestures or elaborate plans; it was about finding a simple solution to a seemingly insurmountable problem. And in that moment, Rajan realized that sometimes, it’s the simplest ideas that carry the most weight.

Hook from the Book

“Lost is not a hopeless place to be. It is a place of patience, of waiting. Lost does not mean gone forever. Lost is a bridge between worlds, where the pain of our past can be transformed into power. You have always held the key to this special place, but now you are ready to unlock the door.” ― Evie Woods, The Lost Bookshop

Movie Motivation

“Pehle apni game baaki logon se unchi karo, Phir apni aawaaz unchi karna” (translated to “First raise your skill level in your game, then think of raising your voice”) This power packed line from the movie Chak De! India reminds us to work on ourselves, our skills, and our growth and first earn respect before demanding our expectations from the world.

This Week’s Winning Post

Transforming Your Communication Skills with NLP

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Mehernosh Randeria

“Two things that never go out of fashion: Smiling eyes and generous heart.” – Dr Mehernosh J Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours, 2nd Edition

NLP Quote Corner

“You can teach a child the importance of pain by your behaviour. You can also teach a child the importance of no pain by your behaviour.” ― Milton Erickson

One Minute NLP – Mind Read

30-year-old Vaidehi was enjoying a leisurely afternoon with her mother during her first visit to her childhood home since her wedding. The duo basked in the winter sun’s warmth, relishing each other’s company.

As Vaidehi’s mother prepared to slice two apples for them to share, Vaidehi gestured to take both. She deftly cut into one apple and began savouring it. Just as her mother reached for the other apple, Vaidehi swiftly snatched it, slicing off a piece for herself.

This action puzzled her mother, prompting her to reflect on her daughter’s behaviour. She couldn’t help but question whether she had instilled the value of sharing in Vaidehi. Doubts about her own parenting surfaced as she contemplated, “Have I failed to teach her generosity?”

While her mother wrestled with these thoughts, Vaidehi interrupted, offering her a slice of the second apple, “Here you go ma. This one is sweeter and softer for you. I wanted to ensure you had the best one, so I tried both.”

At that moment, a single gesture shattered her mother’s question marks on her parenting.

In NLP, this phenomenon of jumping to conclusions without seeking clarification is known as “mind reading”. Whether your assumption is right or wrong, the point is that it was generated by you without them telling you anything about it. This may lead to disastrous misunderstandings and may hinder meaningful connections.

My question to you: In order to jump to your conclusions, what assumptions are you overlooking?

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Meta-Magic – Trust is a 2-way street

“Wow, Tina! You have the world’s most mouth-watering candies with you. Even my collection of exquisite marbles is nothing in front of these.” James exclaimed, still savouring one of the candies offered to him by Tina.

“Oh, Thank you, James. I really loved your collection of marbles too. But are you not comparing apples with oranges here?” Tina replied while chuckling.

“Hey, why don’t we exchange our stuff? We like each others’ stuff anyway.” James suggested with a sparkle in his eyes and hope reflecting in his gestures.

Tina agreed without hesitation, passing all her candies to James.

In return, James hideously kept one marble for himself, passing the rest to Tina.

Later that night, James found himself unable to sleep, wondering if Tina had also held onto some candies like he had kept one marble.

Tina, on the other hand, had a peaceful sleep that night.

My Question to you is: Are you doubting your partner’s 100% effort in the relationship just because you may have kept one marble back?

Hook From The Book

“Sometimes just to say your own truth out loud is enough to find others like you.” ― Matt Haig, The Midnight Library

Movie Motivation

“There’s nothing shameful in being a fool. But feeling proud of being a fool is shameful.” This quip from the movie Laapataa Ladies reminds us to be open about our limitations, reminding us to be humble in the knowledge that we don’t know what we don’t know.

This Week’s Winning Post

The Psychology of Money: Overcoming Emotional Barriers to Financial Success

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Mehernosh Randeria