Thoughtful Thought

“There might be commas in your growth, but never a full stop in your learning.”- Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Every problem is a gift – without problems we would not grow.” ― Anthony Robbins

One Minute NLP – As If Frame

What kind of person will you become once you implement all the learnings from this newsletter, NLP Around You? What will you see, hear, and feel differently in your day-to-day life after implementing what you read here?

Asking such questions shifts your mind to ‘As If Frame’, where you think and visualise as if the situation has already happened. Now really close your eyes and answer the above question mentally. I am sure that you will feel motivated, and you might pick up the previous newsletter editions and re-visit them to implement several things from there, right?

By harnessing the power of the As-If Frame, you are taking control of your mind’s programming. These frames shift perspectives and bring a new level of clarity to your life.

Consider the impact of the As-If Frame on students preparing for exams. The potential for a drastic shift in their mindset and performance is within reach.

To sum up, What would your life be like if you used As-If Frame wisely?

Meta-Magic- What Are You Serving To Others?

When Gautam Buddha visited a village renowned for its monks, a vast number of people cancelled their pre-scheduled meetings with the monks so that they could see him instead. While most of the monks took this in their stride and made their way to meet Buddha, Vishwajeet stood out, his expression dark and his anger palpable.

“I must teach this Buddha a lesson,” he muttered through clenched teeth. “Because of him, I missed my meeting with my disciples today.” His eyebrows knitted together in fury as he made his way towards where Buddha was set to speak.

“You! You shameless person!” Vishwajeet’s voice boomed with rage as he confronted Buddha. “Because of you, all the other monks have been insulted, and their disciples stolen. You are heartless and stupid!” His eyes blazed with fury, and his entire body trembled with anger.

Meanwhile, Buddha remained seated calmly, seemingly unperturbed, which only served to stoke Vishwajeet’s fiery temper. His insults grew darker and more venomous with each passing moment. Finally, when Buddha was asked for a response, he simply smiled and said, “Tell me, my friend, when guests visit your home, do you turn them away or welcome them?”

Taken aback by the seemingly irrelevant question, Vishwajeet replied, “Of course, I welcome them. I invite them in and offer them food.”

Buddha’s smile widened as he continued, “And if they graciously decline that food, to whom does it belong?”

“Obviously it belongs to the host, to me,” Vishwajeet answered, his impatience evident in his fidgeting hands.

Buddha chuckled softly and added, “You served me anger, and I chose not to accept it. Therefore, it returns to you, leaving you even more enraged, frustrated, and unhappy. Who is truly harmed in this situation, you or I? If you wish to rid yourself of this anger, start serving love instead, and it will inevitably return to you.”

My question to you: What are YOU serving others today?

Hook From The Book

“He who has learned to disagree without being disagreeable has discovered the most valuable secret of negotiation.” ― Chris Voss, Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It

Movie Motivation

“Main udna chahta hoon, daudna chahta hoon, girna bhi chahta hoon… bas rukna nahin chahta.” (translated to “I want to fly, I want to run, I also want to fall… I just don’t want to stop”). This dialogue from yeh Jawani Hai Deewani acts as a reminder for us to keep progressing and moving ahead, and that falling is not failing.

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Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

Thoughtful Thought

“Success is about walking the path forward not about worrying on potholes.” ― Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“It is your decisions, and not your conditions, that determine your destiny.” ― Tony Robbins

One Minute NLP – Open Frame

Have you tried changing the frame of an old photo to make it look all fresh? What if you could do the same with various situations in life? Well, NLP has another tool in its armoury to give you a magic spell and it is known as ‘FRAMES’. These frames shift our perspective and make us look at some issue with different eyes.

Open Frame is one of the frames which enables us to satiate our curiosity by asking questions or providing comments about the topic under discussion. It is like an open book, where you can flip to any page. It opens the horizons of opportunities for individuals to raise questions on whatever interests them.

This frame also boosts rapport building through the act of inclusion. Open frame empowers both sides of the party. It unfolds the unseen and unexplored through questions. For example: asking during a weekly team meeting “How was the week for you?”

Meta-Magic – Can You See Yourself Where You Want To Be?

A devoted disciple, Srini was in a dilemma when his archery mentor invited him once again to observe his bow practice. On one hand, his heart swelled with joy, knowing his master’s eagerness to impart every skill, having already asked Srini to accompany him countless times. On the other hand, his mind clashed with his heart, whispering rebellious thoughts – “What new will you learn today when you’ve witnessed it a hundred times before?”

Srini quietened his mind and followed his master’s lead. Upon arrival, the master set up his bow and arrow, placing a sunflower between the branches of a tree. “Hmm, so just the flower has changed this time,” Srini mused.

Suddenly, the master shifted gears, retrieving a black blindfold from his pocket and covering his eyes. Srini’s eyes sparkled in anticipation of witnessing his master’s grand performance.

The master took a deep breath and released the arrow from nearly 200 meters away. Serenity graced his face.

“My dear Srini, can you go and check whether the flower has been struck precisely?”

When Srini went, his heart sank as he could not spot any arrow on the flower. Breathing deeply, he scanned the entire tree meticulously, but the arrow was nowhere to be found. His mind raced with apprehension about revealing the truth to the master.

Upon returning to the master, he wondered how to convey that the arrow had missed its mark. The master waited, smiling, his eyes twinkling.

“My dear master, I don’t know how to tell you this, but I could not locate an arrow on the flower or the entire tree. I suspect you overshot it far ahead.” Srini’s voice softened to a murmur, not wanting to disappoint his master.

Srini assumed his answer would extinguish the shine in his master’s eyes, but to his surprise, the master’s face softened even more as if a mystery awaited unravelling.

“Master, I don’t understand. I thought you brought me here to witness the power of setting a goal and achieving it through self-belief?”

“Yes, Srini, you are correct. I wanted to show you the power of goal-setting. The number one lesson in goal-setting is this – if you cannot see your goal, you cannot attain it.”

My question: Do you see yourself there before reaching there?

Hook From The Book

“If you want to know the strength of a cloth, you inspect the quality of its weave. If you want to understand a person’s character, look closely at their interpersonal behaviour or their transactions.”
― Amish Tripathi, The Immortals of Meluha

Movie Motivation

“It is not our abilities that show what we truly are. It is our choices.” When Albus Dumbledore speaks, the world remembers. This famous dialogue from Harry Potter series reminds us that life is not about the chances you miss, but the choices you make. While we have the ability to choose, that ability is of no use if we choose not to choose.

This Week’s Winning Post

How to Measure Success

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

Thoughtful Thought

“Destiny is not in the stars, but in the decisions”- Dr Mehernosh J Randeria

NLP Quote Corner

“Life is not the way it’s supposed to be, it’s the way it is. The way you cope with that is what makes the difference.” ― Virginia Satir

One Minute NLP – The Red Flag of Goal Setting

The story shared by Curly Martin in her book The Business Coaching Handbook gives an interesting insight into the process of goal getting vs goal setting.

Nigel thought he had a job for life when he landed a part in Britain’s longest running television soap opera. Then, to boost viewing figures, the producer decided that his character would meet a gruesome and dramatic end.

At first Nigel welcomed the break from the punishing daily rehearsal and filming pattern. He still had a lifestyle that matched his former income but his savings quickly evaporated. To maintain his public image, he borrowed money and drifted ever deeper into debt. An avalanche of bills that he could not pay presented him with his wake-up call.

He remembered a book that another cast member had given him to read in his dressing room between takes. It was about goal setting. Without reference to the book, he decided there and then to set himself this goal: “Six months from today, I am totally debt-free.“

Exactly six months later he was forced into bankruptcy. This is the ultimate debt-free state. He had achieved his goal, but it was not what he had in mind when he wrote it.

Meta-Magic – What would you choose over a Sundae?

“How much is this delightful ice cream sundae?” asked 9-year-old John, his eyes dancing with delight as he took in the vibrant array of ice cream colors.

“50 cents,” the waitress replied, while scanning John’s appearance. His ruffled hair, grease-stained hands and clothes, and well-worn outfit told her he must have just come from the garage. “Probably earned a few cents washing a car,” she mused.

John began carefully counting the coins in his pocket. Once finished, he let out a small sigh and surveyed the counter again. “Um, how much is a plain ice cream?”

“35 cents,” the waitress said, wiping the counter.

“Okay, I’ll have a plain ice cream, please.” John handed over his 35 cents and waited eagerly for his treat to arrive at the table.

When John left, the waitress came to clear the table, and what she found opened her eyes wide.

There, left by little John, was a 15-cent tip for her.

Little John had chosen kindness over an ice cream sundae. What would you choose?

Hook From The Book

“Why should I have a time problem?” the little Buddha asked in astonishment. “There is enough time. What matters is what you do with it.” – Little Buddha Finding Happiness by Claus Mikosch

Movie Motivation

“Oh yes, the past can hurt. But from the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it.” This quote from The Lion King reminds us that the past is our learning ground to reflect and decide our way forward in life.

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Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh