While writing the previous newsletter story ‘Jackpot for the Cracked Pot’, I realised that one cracked pot for me is understanding the technological aspect of scheduling these newsletters. There are times when the technological platform re-sends an earlier newsletter despite my having scheduled the next one. But guess what is the jackpot of this cracked pot? It is the awareness that I need to learn more on the technological front (I found the glitch and rectified it). Would love to know in your replies – What is your jackpot in the cracked pot?

Thoughtful Thought of the Week

“If you don’t take a chance, you won’t stand a chance.”- Mehernosh Randeria.

NLP Quote Corner

“Brains are not designed to get results; they go in directions. If you know how the brain works, you can go set your own directions. If you don’t then someone else will.”

– Richard Bandler

One-Minute NLP

Reframing in NLP is actually about discovering the Jackpot within the Cracked Pot. In NLP, when you use reframing, you look at something with a different point of view. Reframing allows you to take a situation and derive a different interpretation.

Reframing is a technique that is useful in situations where you feel angry or powerless. The idea is to change the meaning of the situation, or see it from a different perspective, something that allows you to view it in a more empowering way – literally, putting it into a different frame.

For example, loss of a job may seem, at first thought, to be a bad thing to have happened. However, when you consider other aspects of the situation, you discover that you are now available for a better job or are open to explore a completely different kind of work that may allow you to be more creative and feel more fulfilled. You have an opportunity to develop new skills, meet new people. Your life may go off in a completely different direction that, when looked back upon years later, you see as a very good thing that happened to you.

In reframing, then, we change the view of a situation, taking the focus off the negative aspects and look for positive aspects to focus on. This sheds new light on the situation and enables us to make better decisions since we are focusing on the benefits. It also puts us in a better frame of mind which likely will eliminate our original anger and frustration.

A different situation elicits a different interpretation.

There’s a great quote related to ‘reframing’ that will help you remember to put this technique to work the next time you feel you need to judge something – “Remember, the reverse side has a reverse side, too.”

Meta-Magic

The owner of a coffee shop had been busy all day, serving an unending queue of customers. Towards the evening, he felt a splitting headache surfacing. Unable to bear it, he stepped out of the shop, leaving his staff to look after the sales.

He walked across the street to the pharmacy to buy himself a painkiller to relieve his headache. He swallowed the pill and felt relieved. As he was strolling out of the shop, he casually asked the salesgirl, “Where is the Chemist? He’s not at the cash counter today.” The girl replied, “Sir, he was having a splitting headache and said he was going across to your coffee shop. He said a cup of hot coffee would relieve him of his headache.”

Strange but true. The chemist relieves his headache by drinking coffee, while the coffee shop owner relieves his headache by taking a pill.

My question to you is: Where are you looking for your peace? Within yourself or outside yourself?

Hook From The Book

If you want followers, be someone worth following.- Show Your Work by Austin Kleon

Movie Motivation

“Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies.” – Shawshank Redemption

Weekly Winner Posts

When you change your words, you change your world. This week’s highest interactive post is about how tweaking our words can have an impact in our life.

Change your words, Change your world.

See you next week

Please keep your replies pouring in, and please do let me know how you are liking the series – NLP Around You. See you soon next week.

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

Over the years, I have realised that success is a shape-shifter. Sometimes, it is like that lightbulb that gets immediately lit up, and sometimes it is like that tube light that takes time to reach its zenith. “NLP Around You” – this newsletter series – has been my tube light success.

Thoughtful Thought of the Week

“Make your story your glory”- Mehernosh Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours.

NLP Quote Corner

“The truth is, that people don’t stay the same. People either get better, or they get worse.” –Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP

On the occasion of World Book Day, here is my book summary of one of the most popular books where Richard Bandler, one of the co-founders of NLP has not only simplified NLP but also explained various techniques that can be applied right away to literally GET THE LIFE YOU WANT!

You can read the complete summary here on one of my earlier blogposts here

Book Summary

Get the Book here

Meta-Magic

A farmer used to fetch water every day in two mud pots which he used to tie on either end of a stick. While one pot was perfect and flawless, the other pot had a crack; so by the time, the farmer used to reach home, half of the water from the cracked pot used to leak away. This made the cracked pot ashamed of its imperfection, feeling like it was not doing its job as well as the perfect pot.

One day, the cracked pot poured his heart out to the farmer and expressed that it is of no use, and apologized that the farmer’s effort was going in vain.

The farmer told the cracked pot to notice the flowers on the way the next time they go to fetch the water. The cracked pot noticed the beautiful flowers and those gave him momentary relief. Once home, he felt sad again as half of the water had leaked.

When the farmer saw the cracked pot getting sad again, he said, “Maybe you failed to notice that the flowers which you saw on the road, were only at your side. I always knew about your crack and thus I had planted seeds on your side, so while returning, your water nourished the seeds and now all passersby can see the beauty of flowers on one side of the road.

Like the cracked pot, we might have our own flaws and imperfections, but my reminder here to you is – Please remember to discover the jackpots hidden in the cracked pots.

Hook from a Book

“I can’t go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.” Lewis Carroll, Alice in The Wonderland

Movie Motivation

“Jitna bhi try karo bunny, life mein kuch na kuch toh chhutega hi. Isliye jahan hain, wahan ka maza lete hain” from yeh Jawani Hai Deewani. Literally translated, “How much ever you try, something or the other will be missed in life. So let’s enjoy where we are.”

This simple conversation between the 2 characters in the movie reminds us to live in the present moment, rather than trying to be everywhere and living in FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out).

Weekly Winner Posts

This week’s highest liked post is actually a reel where I hand over a signed copy of my book to my friend and Sexuality Educator Niyatii N Shah

Watch the Reel here

See you next week

Please keep your replies pouring in, and please do let me know how you are liking the series – NLP Around You. See you soon next week.

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

While life is a box of chocolates, one of my favourite chocolates is this newsletter, which I relish writing. While every newsletter re-energizes me, I would love to know, how it has made a space in the chocolate box of your life too.

Thoughtful Thought of the Week

“Once you understand the language of your mind, you learn how to mind your language.” – Mehernosh Randeria, Thoughtfully Yours

NLP Quote Corner

“People wait for something to happen in order to be happy. The key is to be happy regardless.” – Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP

The Map is not the Territory

One of the presuppositions of NLP, “The map is not the territory” is used to describe the difference between our subjective perception of reality and the objective reality itself.

In essence, this presupposition means that our perception of the world is not the same as the world itself, and our understanding of reality is filtered through our individual experiences, beliefs, and biases. Therefore, the language and thoughts we use to describe reality are just representations of that reality, and they may not accurately reflect the objective truth.

For instance, if you are in a business meeting and trying to convey an idea to your colleagues, it’s important to understand that your understanding of the idea might be different from theirs, due to their own individual filters. This presupposition reminds us that effective communication involves acknowledging and respecting the differences in each person’s subjective reality, and working towards a shared understanding of the objective reality.

When two people are arguing over a certain issue, struggling to express their respective points of view, both are actually representing their respective maps of the territory. So, the million-dollar question is: if these are two different maps, how can we get to the actual territory? If we invite a third person to verify the facts, do we get the territory? No. What you get now is a third map.

Meta-Magic

Rony, a hardworking corporate employee, approached his retired mentor Arjuna: “I have always followed your advice to keep working in silence and let success make the noise. While this has helped me to learn, all promotions are given to other guys who don’t even have my experience or capabilities.”

Arjuna wondered, “hmm, have you ever taken leave from work?”

“No. Never, Sir.” Rony replied, “In fact, I am the most regular employee of the company.”

The wise old Arjuna advised “You must request a day off. It’s time for you to give yourself a break.”

Though surprised, Rony left quickly to act upon his mentor’s advice. When he returned to work after his day off, his manager informed him that regular work had suffered in his absence, as others had no idea how to handle the problems. Realizing his importance, the manager promoted him.

Rony thought that he had discovered the secret to success, and started using this strategy every now and then.

One day, much to his shock Rony found out that his employment was terminated. He immediately rushed back to see his mentor with confusion and wounded pride, and asked “Did I not do everything as you instructed?”

“Actually you did not. Because you heard only half the lesson. You understood right away that no one pays any attention to a light bulb that’s always on. It is only when it goes off that people suddenly take notice and realize they’ve been taking it for granted.

The mentor continued slowly to make his point. “The second half, more important than the first, is the realization, that if the light bulb goes off frequently, it will be replaced with one that is more reliable.”

My question to you is:

What kind of lightbulb are you? The one that never switches off? Or the one that keeps a balance between switching off and being lit?

Hook from a Book

“The difference between faith and trust is profound. For example, we can have faith that things will work out, or that a friend will come through for us, but we may still be plagued by worry and moments of doubt. When we have trust, however, negative thoughts do not fill our mind. We do not dwell on or worry about the outcome. Trust is an intellectual process, a natural outgrowth of an unblemished record.”

– Mind Reader by David Lieberman

Movie Motivation

“Bade bade deshon mein aisi chhoti chhoti baatein hoti rehti hai, Senorita” – from Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jaayege. Literally translated, “In big big countries, small small things like these keep happening”, reminds us not to sweat over the small stuff. In life, are we giving undue importance to petty things? Because energy flows where focus goes.

Weekly Winner Posts

One of the highest interactive posts this week is on Emotional Regulation. Make sure to check it out and share your comments too:

https://www.instagram.com/p/CqwxhkZIZpz/

See you next week

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Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria