Archives | W3 Coach

How to Master Parenting with the Power of Neuro-Linguistic Programming

by Mehernosh Randeria | Feb 27, 2023 | W3 Blog

Parenting is one of the most challenging and rewarding experiences in life. As a parent, you want to provide the best possible upbringing for your child, and that can be a daunting task. However, with the help of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), you can learn how to communicate more effectively with your child, build a strong relationship, and help them reach their full potential.

In this post, we will explore the basics of NLP and how it can be applied to parenting. We will cover topics such as understanding your child’s communication style, managing your own emotions, and using positive language to create a supportive environment.

What is Neuro-Linguistic Programming?

Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is a method of communication and personal development that was developed in the 1970s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. The approach is based on the idea that the way we use language and the way we process information affects our behavior and our perception of the world.

NLP is often used in the field of coaching and counseling to help individuals achieve their goals and overcome limiting beliefs. By understanding the language patterns and thought processes of an individual, an NLP practitioner can help them change their behavior and improve their overall well-being.

Understanding Your Child’s Communication Style

NLP is also known as the study of the difference that makes the difference. As a parent, it’s important to understand your child’s communication style so that you can communicate with them effectively. Some children prefer to be visual learners, while others could prefer auditory or kinesthetic modes of learning. By understanding your child’s preferred learning style, you can adapt your communication style to better suit their needs.

In addition to learning styles, children also have different personality types. Some children are more extroverted, while others are introverted. By understanding your child’s personality type, you can better understand how they perceive the world and tailor your communication to meet their needs.

Managing Your Emotions

Parenting can be a stressful and emotional experience. It’s important to learn how to manage your emotions so that you can respond to your child in a calm and supportive manner. An NLP technique that can be helpful is anchoring. Anchoring involves creating a physical or mental trigger that can help you access a positive emotional state when you need it.

For example, you can create an anchor by taking a deep breath and imagining a happy memory with your child. You can then associate that memory with a physical gesture, such as touching your thumb and index finger together. Whenever you feel stressed or overwhelmed, you can touch your thumb and index finger together to access that positive emotional state.

Using Empowering Language

The language that we use can have a significant impact on our behaviour and the behaviour of those around us. As a parent, it’s important to use positive language when communicating with your child. This means focusing on what you want your child to do, rather than what you don’t want them to do.

For example, instead of saying “Don’t run in the house,” you could say “Please walk in the house.” This simple shift in language can help create a more positive and supportive environment for your child.

Creating a Supportive Environment

Creating a supportive environment for your child is crucial for their well-being and development. One way to do this is by using language that reinforces positive behavior. This means praising your child for their efforts and achievements, rather than just their successes.

Another way to create a supportive environment is by setting clear boundaries and expectations. This means being consistent with your rules and consequences and following through with your promises. By creating a structured and supportive environment, you can help your child feel safe and secure, which is essential for their overall well-being.

Conclusion

Neuro-linguistic programming can be a powerful tool for parents to improve their communication and relationship with their children. By understanding your child’s communication style, managing your own emotions, using empowering language, and creating a supportive environment, you can help your child reach their full potential and build a strong and healthy relationship with them.

Remember, parenting is a journey, and it’s okay to make mistakes. With the help of NLP techniques, you can learn from those mistakes and continue to grow and improve as a parent. With patience, practice, and a commitment to personal development, you can become the best possible parent for your child.

Make sure to subscribe to receive all updates from W3 Coach directly in your inbox.

https://w3coach.com/subscribe/

Discover the Magic in the Mundane by subscribing to the Weekly Newsletter - NLP Around You.

Also, find out how you can join the complimentary LIVE training on the Art and Science of Success- (The NLP Practitioner Course)

Explore the complete set of online recorded courses at W3 Success Academy now.

What is The Missing Piece in Your Jigsaw?

by Mehernosh Randeria | Feb 25, 2023 | NLP Around You

You are special, really special to me, because I am so excited to share with you the first issue of “NLP Around YOU”

Thoughtful Thought of the Week

(This section will contain a signature quote from my side – including some snippets from my second book Thoughtfully Yours. Here’s today’s quote)

“Action is the bridge from misery to mastery.”

Which is the much-needed action that you have put on snooze? What will be the first step to make it happen?

NLP Quote Corner

(This is the section that contains a Quote from one of the Founding Members of NLP. Here’s today’s quote)

“The greatest personal limitation is to be found not in the things you want to do and can’t, but in the things you’ve never considered doing.”- Richard Bandler

One Minute NLP

(One NLP Concept simplified for you, even if you are new to the field of NLP)

Embedded Commands?

Embedded commands are hidden suggestive commands in normal conversation, which are decipherable by the unconscious mind, but are not noticed by conscious awareness. On the surface, those commands look like a normal conversation, but that is just the tip of the iceberg. The real fine-tuning happens with the right usage of embedded commands. These commands are also known as conversational hypnosis, where the sentences do the magic of convincing the unconscious mind and making it behave accordingly.

Watch this video from a Real Estate Trainer that explains the power of NLP embedded commands in persuasive sales conversations:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3DV7C5IaiFY

Meta-Magic

(In this section, you will find some thought-provoking metaphors)

Look at this jigsaw. What is the missing piece, which will complete it for you? Some may seek clarity, while others may look for resources, a mindset, or a strategy. Identify your missing piece, because identification is the precursor to change.

Hook from a Book

(Treasure bytes from a book)

“Worry doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.” – Corrie Ten Boom, Clippings from My Notebook

What are you? A worrier or a warrior?

Movie Motivation

(One of my professors used to say – “Movie nahi dekha to kya seekha” – this not only added to my motivation of watching movies, but also inspired me to imbibe motivational learnings from movies. Here is today’s movie dialogue)

All Izz Well – Movie: 3 Idiots

This connects to the NLP technique of Reframing. This is not about being mindlessly positive or denying the negatives. It is to remind you that while you acknowledge something unexpected around you, also give it a thought – what could be possibly positive about this? Here is a simple example: A very common complaint of the common man is that there is too much traffic on the streets and that traffic is a waste of time! Now think about this – What is positive about Traffic? Well, doesn’t it mean that the economy is growing and progressing with more need for infrastructure? “All is well” acknowledges the traffic and flips it from being tragic to terrific!!!

Weekly Winner Posts

Last week during my NLP Train The Trainer classes, I was sharing the concept of the Pie of Knowledge. While there are some aspects that “you know”, there are several elements that “you know that you don’t know”. Both these elements put together are a very small portion of the Pie of Knowledge. The biggest section of the Pie is composed of “You don’t know what you don’t know”. Here is where you can read more about it: YDKWDK

See you next week

That’s all for the first episode of this newsletter folks. Do share your experiences from this issue of NLP Around YOU, by simply replying to this email.

Thoughtfully Yours,

Mehernosh Randeria

The Ultimate Myth Busting Guide for NLP

by Mehernosh Randeria | Feb 17, 2023 | W3 Blog

The best travel in the world is the travel within. Going on a World Tour is a goal of many, but how many of us think about taking a tour within ourselves. One may like the sea, beaches and mountains, but what about the mountains and valleys that our mind carries? How about doing a treasure hunt of our own selves so that next time when we look into the mirror, we are no more a stranger to ourselves.

The words sound dreamy, but there is a way to turn all these dreams to reality and that road is not only less travelled, but majorly mis-understood and under-estimated. The road is known as NLP- Neuro Linguistic Programming.

NLP is a gateway to enter one’s own mind and its a holistic process to take a mindful tour of the garden inside the mind. Right from the first step of knowing the difference between information, meaning and knowledge, NLP takes us towards the final destination of Wisdom. Self-awareness is the soul of NLP and that’s what makes it an intriguing study.

From ‘Why do I do what I do?‘ to ‘Why don’t I do, what I should do?’ to ‘Why do I do what I don’t want to do?’ and finally discovering ‘HOW do I do and undo all of these with awareness?’ is like the hidden pandora box of insights.

As unbelievable as it may sound, NLP is the process of not just knowing the ‘how’ and ‘why’ of every tiny choice in our life, but it is also a tool to dig deeper into ‘what’, ‘when’ and ‘when not’.

To sum it up in one line – NLP is the flight that one can take to have a 3D look of one’s mind and with that, one can learn, un-learn and re-learn many aspects about one’s own self.

Wherever there is good, there are also doubts. So NLP too has not been spared and there are few myths, which are doing rounds in the world of scientific explanations and rudimentary thoughts. Here are some misunderstandings and myths about NLP.

Myth #1: NLP is needed for only demotivated people.

Motivation is like a bath for the mind and soul. It is needed daily. But NLP ensures that motivation should be intrinsic and long lasting through its sub-conscious tuning techniques. With refurbishing one’s inner narrative, NLP makes sure that motivation doesn’t remain as a daily need for body’s bath, but cleanses the sub-conscious to bathe soul permanently

Myth #2: NLP is about influence and influence stems from manipulation.

With the flood of perceptions in the world of idea wars on social media, no wonder that manipulation has been tainted as a dark skill to possess. But have you heard about witches doing good to people or the movie Bhootnath, where the ghost is a good ghost? Isn’t it important to focus on the usage than labelling the skill as good or bad? Manipulation is just a skill without label, which needs to be utilised in wise ways for cracking the deals in negotiation and NLP is the magic wand to manifest such manipulations.

Myth #3: NLP can be learnt from books

If this had been the case, then teachers would not be needed anywhere in the world. Just like map is not the territory, reading is not learning. Learning doesn’t happen when you gain knowledge. Learning happens when the knowledge is implemented and converted to wisdom. Having a coach, and that too the right one can help you unlock the full potential of NLP more efficiently and effectively than you would on your own.

Myth #4: The application of NLP is limited to therapy

Without any inhibitions or judgement about therapy, NLP empowers you to unlock your full potential, identify and overcome limiting beliefs, and achieve your goals in every area of personal as well as professional life. NLP can be the cherry on the cake, where the change begins from within, and as a result, radiating others to change.

So next time when someone raises a finger for NLP, be ready to give them hand to lead towards the other side of tunnel.

Make sure to subscribe to receive all updates from W3 Coach directly in your inbox.

https://w3coach.com/subscribe/

Discover the Magic in the Mundane by subscribing to the Weekly Newsletter - NLP Around You.

Also, find out how you can join the complimentary LIVE training on the Art and Science of Success- (The NLP Practitioner Course)

Explore the complete set of online recorded courses at W3 Success Academy now.

In Love with NLP – a poetic tribute

by Mehernosh Randeria | Feb 14, 2023 | W3 Blog

In love with NLP, oh how it flows,
A language of the mind, where the heart glows.
A tool to unlock our hidden desires,
A way to conquer fears, and reach higher.

With every technique, I am falling more in love,
Discovering the power of language, from above.
Reframing negative thoughts, and turning them to gold,
NLP’s magic, in my heart, will forever hold.

It helps me to communicate, and understand,
The hidden meanings, that others have at hand.
It brings clarity, to every word we say,
And in relationships, it lights the way.

Oh NLP, you’ve opened up my mind,
And in my heart, your teachings I will bind.
For you’ve shown me, the beauty in words,
And the power of language, like never before heard.

So here’s to NLP, and the love I have found,
In this language of the mind, where beauty abounds.
For I am in love, with neuro linguistic programming,
And its power to change, our thoughts, and our living.

Happy Valentine’s Day!!

Come and fall in love with NLP by attending the next complimentary online training on The Difference That Makes The Difference.

For more powerful and relevant articles and secrets on enhancing your Wealth, Wisdom and Wellness, follow me on my personal blog https://w3coach.com/blog/ now.

Click here to connect with Your W3 Coach across all digital platforms.

Explore the complete set of online recorded courses at W3 Success Academy now.